I was going to Los Angeles City College
and my best friend introduced me to him.
Actually he was a blind date.
That's how we met.
So...
everything went okay for a year.
Same pattern
going out with our sorority friends
and having a good time, but nothing serious.
Then one day he mentioned that
he had read Hemingway's "Death in the Afternoon"
and
he wanted to see a bull fight in Mexico.
I couldn't quite picture a bull, I mean,
being, you know, tortured.
And that's the way I looked at it , but I went.
The first bull fight came on and...
I blubbered through the whole thing.
I thought it was so unfair
the way they were sticking all these banderillas in the bull.
And I was making a scene.
People were beginning to look at me actually
because I was blubbering.
And I have to tell you
he was so understanding. He wasn't embarassed.
And for the first time I felt like I
you know,
I loved him.
I thought, you know, I hadn't noticed this before!
Where did this come from?!
And I thought, Here I am, falling in love with this guy
and how I'm going to have get him to tell me he loves me
because it the way it's supposed to be?
So...um...
I held him hostage one night.
...and...
I was going to just hang on
until I somehow got him to say that
you know, special proposal or something
anything!
And, um, he finally did!
So, do you remember that?
Not exactly it's a --
All I remember is that it was
kinda an emotional moment of 'how do you get out of this?' kind of feeling.
And, she had it all figured out, but I never - I haven't figured it out yet!
and so I think
that's part of the charm is the mystery.
You never quite figure it out.
There's the old saying, Birds of a feather flock together
and opposites attract.
We couldn't have been more opposite so I guess that was part of it.
We used to argue about everything.
Whatever he said I said the opposite.
So, one day I was noticing how
our son was talking to our daughter.
Now, she was the oldest
She's small, like a stick of dynamite she would always tell him what to do.
Finally, he kinda rebelled a little bit and she scolded him.
But he didn't get angry.
He started saying things that make her laugh.
And before you know it she was laughing so hard
she forgot what it was she was scolding him about.
And so I remember that. It was a long time ago.
So, whenever things like that begin to happen,
if you can see the lighter side of things, it really makes it easy
Well, for one thing, since he's retired, we pretty much
are in the same twelve by twelve foot room, it's a den in our home
...and...
he has a computer that faces the television,
I have a computer that faces the mirror
so, at least I can turn my head and see the TV if I want to.
And there we are in that room all day long if you can imagine.
Mostly we doze off.
That's true.
It's a challenge when you're together that much.
You're not going to grow
if someone doesn't give you a little bit of a challenge once in a while.
You know, we learned through the years not to let things upset us.
And it isn't easy, but
once you figure it out then,
everything's okay.
Just turn up the TV a little louder.
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