Hi there it's Clay and today I want to talk about what does it mean when your ex, once
all of their stuff back from your place, you know, the two of you broke up and they, you
know, maybe they forgot some stuff over at your place and they call you up and they're
like, hey, can I have my stuff back?
Does that mean that your chances are done that they're moving on that you know, you
can't get back together with them and I want to tell you that.
No, it doesn't mean that at all.
All it means is they want their stuff back.
You know, I totally understand what you must be going through if you're concerned about
this.
You know, it, it's like you have this piece of your ex that still with you in your home
and it feels like there's still like that thread of connection between the two of you.
Like, you know, as long as you have a, you know, his black tee shirt or something like
that.
Then there's still the chance that he might come back and you can work things out or something
like that.
But really you have to understand that a strong relationship.
If the two of you are going to get back together, it's going to be based on something more.
Okay?
It's not going to be based on the fact that you still got her undies under your bed or
something like that.
Has to be based on something more than just physical objects in a certain physical location.
Okay?
It's going to be based on.
Ideally, ideally your relationship will be based on a, you know, good feelings that,
that the two of you have towards one another.
The way that you make each other feel, the fact that you can have a great interaction
in the present moment and have fun, have a great uplifting experience.
It's not necessarily always happy and you know, Patty cake, all that stuff, but, you
know, it's like a real human interaction with the two of you feel connected to one another.
You might be crying and I'd be angry.
You might be upset.
You might be talking about all kinds of like deep, intense things, but you'll feel real
emotional connection.
Like that is what a real relationship is going to be based on.
It's not going to be based on whether or not, you know, like some physical object is still
tucked in the back of your closet or under your bed or something like that.
So again, don't worry about like whether or not they want to get their stuff back from
you, all it means is they just miss that stuff or they want it back or you know, at, at that
time there, they just want to like complete that chapter and just close off that.
The old relationship.
It doesn't mean that you can't like get back together because you can.
But you know, when you get back to your ex, do you want to see that as a new relationship?
I talked about this in a different video.
But you want to see it as a new relationship, not a continuation of the old one because
you know, the old relationship didn't work.
So you have to make some changes.
You have to change things.
And create a brand new relationship just with the same two people.
Okay?
Just with you and your ex, you can absolutely do that, but you know, don't think that, you
know, just like clinging onto a physical objects in your home or whatever from them is going
to somehow, I mean there's still a shot or anything like that and at the same token on
the other side, I just know that like when they take their stuff back from you, that
doesn't mean that things are over.
You can still rebuild that connection.
You can still do that.
Okay?
It just means you have to actually put in the work and make the changes.
Do learn the advanced relational skills that we talk about and you can actually make some
of these changes.
Okay?
And you can have that deep impact and you can start to get back together with your ex.
So I don't want you to think that, that, you know, your shot is completely over, that you're
never getting back together with your ex because, you know, they took their stuff back, because
you absolutely can.
And did you just don't even worry about the physical stuff, just focus entirely on the
emotional connection of the two of you have, and that's going to do so much better than
worrying about, you know, physical objects that are still around the house or, you know,
writing the perfect sneaky text message or whatever is like super hot these days or anything
like that, or learning reverse psychology or any of the other shenanigans out there,
you know, just focus on rebuilding the emotional connection, making that strong, making it
genuine and authentic, making it feel good.
So the two of you can have that intense emotional bond, that human connection and that is what's
going to bring the two of you back together.
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