- [Narrator] Do you ever think that the way people see you
is different from the way you see yourself?
Have you ever wondered whether or not you were attractive?
If you're watching this video, the answer is probably yes.
And, hey, it's not always a bad thing
to wonder about how other people see us.
Maybe they see something good in us
that we don't yet see in ourselves.
So if you've ever wanted to know
whether you might actually be more attractive
than you realize,
here are seven subtle
but psychologically backed ways to tell.
Number one. People pay attention to you.
Do you ever feel self-conscious
because people always seem to be paying attention to you?
Have you ever introduced yourself to someone
only for them to say, "Oh, I know who you are,"
or be surprised that they remembered something about you
that you just casually mentioned before?
If the answer is yes,
then it means people pay attention to you.
When psychology says the more attractive a person is,
the more attention other people tend to give them,
which brings us to our next point.
Number two. People tend to stare at you.
Maybe you're not the talkative or outgoing type,
which makes it harder to tell
how attractive other people find you
because you don't really interact with them that much.
Still, you can get a pretty good idea
just from reading their body language
and picking up on their non-verbal cues,
especially eye contact.
Do people often stare at you,
or look you up and down whenever they see you,
or subtly try to catch your gaze?
Do you turn heads every time you walk into a room
or look at someone only for them to look away embarrassed
at having been caught staring at you?
Don't let it make you self conscious.
You're probably just more attractive than you think.
Number three. People want to be around you.
Similar to the last point,
if people find you attractive
but have little opportunity to act on it,
they might resort to what we call hovering or benching.
Because even if they can't talk to you,
they still wanna be around you.
So they might just purposefully go to parties or events
they know you'll be at, stalk you on social media,
or hang around places you tend to frequent
all for the chance of having
even the most casual interaction with you.
Number four.
People come to you for styling, beauty, or dating tips.
Another subtle sign
that you're more attractive than you think
is that people will often come to you
for advice on things like styling, beauty, or dating.
Why? Because it means that they wanna be more like you.
And that in itself is already such a compliment.
They probably think you look good, have great style,
or have no trouble finding romantic prospects
and they wanna know how you do it,
indicating that they find you attractive.
Number five. People are comfortable around you.
Psychology tells us that it's only natural
to gravitate more towards better looking people.
After all, it's called attraction for a reason.
So if people usually seem more comfortable around you,
if they like joking around and making you laugh
or tend to be physically affectionate towards you
even if you're not that close,
then it's probably because they find you attractive
and are subconsciously trying to tell you.
Number six. Strangers are often nice to you.
When strangers do something nice for us,
we tend to ask ourselves,
"Are they flirting or just being kind?"
But the answer doesn't always have to be one or the other
because both could be true.
So if strangers tend to act warmly towards you,
smiling at you, and trying to strike up a conversation,
or doing small favors, like letting you in front of them,
or helping you carry your things,
there is a good chance it's because
they secretly find you attractive.
And number seven. Some people try to tear you down.
If people often try to tear you down for no good reason,
either by talking about you behind your back,
trying to belittle you, or spreading false rumors about you,
it might be because they find you attractive
or know that most people do
and it makes them feel threatened.
Jealousy, as they say, is the highest form of flattery.
So don't be too surprised
if some people try to tear you and your self esteem down,
even when unprovoked.
Take it as a sign that deep down inside
they actually admire you and wanna be more like you.
So do you relate to any of the things we've mentioned here?
Even if you don't, that doesn't mean you're not attractive.
They say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder
and there's a lot of truth to this,
but what matters most
is how you see and feel about yourself.
So open your eyes to all the wonderful things
that make you you and love yourself all the more for it.
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Thanks so much for watching. Until next time, beautiful.