I'm going to be ranting about that in today's video and
you definitely want to stay tuned, I've got a lot to say.
Hey, I'm Rebecca Zung.
I am an attorney and a narcissist negotiation expert and
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I saw that Chris Cuomo was fired from CNN
for helping out his lecherous brother and
I've got a lot to say about that because
it's not just that Chris Cuomo was fired from CNN, fine;
it's not just that Andrew Cuomo was sexually harassing these women,
this is a pervasive problem in our culture,
we keep hearing about these things, it goes on, it goes on, it goes on,
this is a culture of narcissism, this is a culture of misogyny,
it's something that continues to happen and
I just wanted to weigh in on this;
not only as a narcissist negotiation expert but as a female, as a minority.
Not many of you know that I'm actually also half-chinese,
a lot of people don't know that, but it's something that I feel that
as a lawyer, as a person of color and as a narcissist negotiation expert,
that I feel that as a person who has a platform,
it's something that I should also weigh in on.
I did a video, by the way, on how Andrew Cuomo is gaslighting,
which you could definitely check out as well and
I wanted to mention that I was at a mastermind not that long ago and
the mastermind is probably 95% male and
the room was filled with very, very successful men recently and
the presenter at one point was a very, very successful African-American
who was actually presenting on the fact that
there are times that you see ads that are not so great and
he was actually presenting on something similar to this and
he was showing how Biden did an ad where he mentioned black people and
nobody in the room laughed, nobody in the room dared laugh and
then he mentioned how Trump did the ad,
or mention something about grabbing the woman's you know what and
a good fair amount of people in the room laughed.
My point about telling you this story is that therein lies the issue.
The fact that nobody in the room would dare laugh about
something about people's race at this stage,
but they still think it's okay to laugh about
something with denigrating women and
that's why Trump said what he said because
he knew that he would get the reaction that he did and
the men in that room knew that it would be culturally fine
laughing about something denigrating women and
that is where the problem is because,
this culture still finds it okay to denigrate women,
so, it is not just an issue with Cuomo,
it's not just an issue with Chris Cuomo,
Andrew Cuomo, or whoever it is we're talking about at the moment,
it’s a culture of narcissism, it is a culture that allows it and
what I wanted to do actually is
go through the seven deadly sins of narcissism and
actually point out each one and talk about how each one
of the seven deadly sins of narcissism applies
when you are dealing with a person
who may be in a position where they may be in a superior position and
the person is using their position to try to gain some sort of sexual favor,
over a person who may work for them and
try to use that position in order to gain some kind of sexual favor.
Sometimes, people have an inability to process shame in healthy ways.
So they have deep sense of shame already,
meaning, they don't have a sense of self,
they don't have a good healthy sense of self,
they don't feel any inner sense of value,
so they have to figure out a way to layer on that external sense of values,
What do they do? They use it in an unhealthy way.
So shamelessness, inability to process shame in healthy ways,
What do they do? They use it in unhealthy ways.
They use their position.
They feel entitled.
They feel like, “I have reached this position,
I'm entitled to have whatever it is that I want,
including whatever woman that I want,
even if I may be married or whatever, like,
I want this person, I'm going to have this person”.
Especially people in subservient positions and
they don't have any sense of empathy care or feeling for others,
So, who cares, right?
They don't have any sense of boundaries,
because narcissist see people as an extension of themselves.
They don't see people as people necessarily,
they see people as something to meet their own needs,
they see people as a reason for narcissistic supply,
as a mean to supply something for their ego, right?
Otherwise they might as well not exist at all,
everything is a mean for that narcissistic supply,
that is their food, is their life, it's their oxygen,
so they don't have any boundaries.
So, that's why they just go after
whatever it is that they want all the time and
if they don't get what they want, they act like two-year-olds,
they're like basically toddlers in adult bodies.
In a failure to get what they want,
that can sometimes trigger that narcissistic rage.
They're very easily slighted.
That's why you see this happening,
especially when they get into positions of power and
they happen to be narcissists.
So, that's what's going on,
I think it's a cultural issue so much more so than,
especially if you have a narcissist and
then they get into these positions of power and
then we have a culture that is not only allowing it
but also sort of condones it in a lot of ways.
I think that's really a part of the problem and
I think a lot of times people play into it,
they use it to their advantage sometimes and
so until everybody understands that and just puts a total stop to it,
we will continue to see it happening and
that is my opinion.
I would love to know what you guys think in the comments below,
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