Hey, my name is Brad Browning and I’m a relationship coach and the author of a “How
to Get Your Ex Back” program.
And that’s what we’re going to be talking about in this video.
I’m going to tell you how to get your boyfriend back.
So if that’s what you want to do, keep watching.
Now I should say, we should probably break this into steps.
So I break the process of getting your boyfriend back into five steps.
Let’s start with step one.
What is the first thing you need to do if you want to your boyfriend back?
Well, believe it or not, the first thing to do is actually the same – even if you want
to just move on and not get him back – and that’s recovery.
Get over him to the point where you can think rationally, act rationally around him, and
generally make good decisions about getting him back.
So basically this is just all about getting over a breakup, it’s all the same things
you would do if you didn’t want him back.
The first thing is don’t talk to him.
Just simply leave him alone for – I recommend about a month.
Just completely drop off your ex’s radar for now.
Also remove any reminders of your boyfriend from your life.
So take those stuffed animals and those birthday cards, whatever it is, and put them in a box
and put them out of sight so that you’re not reminded.
You may even need to, you know, hide his Facebook updates from your news feed and delete his
phone number from your phone, whatever it is, do not be reminded of your ex.
You don’t want to be thinking about him right now.
You want to be recovering.
That also means you’re going to need to stay busy.
Don’t stay at home.
I know that’s what you feel like doing: staying at home, sleeping, crying, whatever,
that’s not what you want to do right now.
Go out, hang out with your friends, be social, have a ladies night on the town, go to the
gym, buy some new clothes, work on your goals in life and to go whatever it is, just keep
busy during this first period of time after the breakup.
Okay, now step two.
Here in step two is where you need to make him miss you.
Make your ex-boyfriend miss you so that he wants you back.
Well, how do you do that?
Well, let’s think about what makes someone miss something.
Your boyfriend became extremely accustomed to having you around.
He was used to having you as part of his daily life, that if you simply disappear, like I
recommended in the previous one where you’re just ignoring him, that’s just by itself
going to make him miss you.
It’s a simple fact of life that if you suddenly disappear from someone’s life and they’ve
become accustomed to have you around and they’ve enjoyed your company, all of a sudden they
disappear, boom!
He’s going to miss you.
So that’s actually a very easy thing to do, you simply ignore him.
And that’s why you’ll often see this strategy recommended around the internet.
Often it’s referred to as “no contact” and I generally recommend about a month of
“no contact” to make him miss you to the point where he’s going to be, at least probably
on some level, want to get back together just to quash those feelings and sort of make that
feeling of missing you go away.
So the easiest way to make him miss you, well the only way to make him miss you is to go
through this no contact phase.
Now a lot of women say about – when I talk about this “no contact” phase – they
say, “Well, what about because I live with him?” or “What about if we have kids together?”
or “What if…” you know, what if this, what if that, there’s a lot of what-ifs
here in this no contact phase.
I don’t have time to discuss it all right now, but if you do want to learn more about
“no contact” period, you have a unique situation, head over to my website www.BreakupBrad.com
and watch the free video.
I’ve got some more tips, covers some more scenarios there, and also you can comment
on this video below and I’ll do my best to answer that question for you.
So that’s step two, making him miss you.
Now on to step three.
This is where you’re going to make him have second thoughts.
You’ve already started this in the previous step because he’s missing you like mad,
he’s wondering if he’s missing you like crazy, why did he do this in the first place,
was it the right decision?
But you’re going to play up on this even further by just generally showing him that
you are doing really well, by thriving in life after the breakup, and by generally improving
yourself and your own life to the point where he’s going to think to himself, “Wow,
I let a great girl walk out of my life.
Was that the right thing to do?”
So what kind of self-improvement things am I talking about here?
Well for starters, as I mentioned before, hang out with your friends and be really social.
Have a great social life, have fun!
Make yourself more appealing both physically and intellectually.
Go to the gym, buy some new clothes, dedicate yourself to your work or your studying.
Whatever it is, generally improve your life, make yourself more attractive to him.
Also this is a great time to go out on some dates.
I know you probably don’t feel like dating other men right now, but the very fact that
you’re dating, that you’re potentially moving on will scare your ex to a certain
extent and make him think “Wow!
She was able to find a new guy really quickly.
Did I make the right decision letting her go?” and again that’s all what step three
is about here, it’s all about making him have second thoughts.
Okay now on to step four.
This is where you’re first going to contact your ex after the “no contact” period.
Remember you’ve been ignoring him for roughly a month so far, he’s missing you, and you’re
starting to make some changes to your life to make yourself more attractive and make
him have second thoughts.
Now it’s time to start putting it all together and to reach out to your ex.
The first few times you contact your ex are absolutely not the right time to try and convince
him to get back together.
Nothing you can do or say at this point is going to magically make him want you back.
This is not the time to have long, drawn out discussions about the breakup, about your
relationship, about the future, just keep it simple, and fun, and upbeat, and just generally
show your ex a good time.
Don’t even continue the conversations for more than a minute or two, just a couple of
text messages, a quick two-minute phone call to remind him that you’re still around,
that you’re doing really well, you’re thriving since the breakup and just keep things,
like I said, fun, upbeat, and avoid any drama.
If you want to get more information about how to contact your ex or what the right means
are or what to say, again, my website, BreakupBrad.com, subscribe to my channel here on Youtube and
watch some of the other videos.
And so yes!
That’s step four, it’s just reaching to your ex in a very simple, quick way… keep
him happy, or excuse me, be happy, show him how well you’re doing.
And then on to step five which is to set up an in-person meeting.
This is where it all comes together.
You’ve gone to the point now where you’ve made him miss you, you’ve shown him the
new you, you’ve got him thinking about you, now you have to put it all together in person.
So first, how do you set up an in-person meeting?
I recommend just sort of doing this as a friend.
Just suggest that you catch up over coffee or drinks after work.
Whatever it is, just get him alone for thirty minutes so that you can do what I’m about
to suggest in a minute which is flirt.
Build sexual attraction, get back the physical and romantic side of your relationship so
that he associates that with you.
Now again, as I’ve mentioned in step four where you’re first contacting him, this
is not the time to talk about your relationship.
It’s not the time to bring up old arguments, drama, nothing negative at all in this meeting.
All you want to do is show him how well you’re doing, show him a good time, make him laugh,
have fun together and flirt!
Seduce him again.
The goal here should, generally speaking, be to build sexual tension and show him the
new you, show him the changes you’ve made to your life and how well you’re doing.
A lot of people ask me, especially women at this point, “Should I have sex with my boyfriend?
Should I sleep with him?”
Quite frankly, the answer is it depends, so if you want to comment on this video, you
can ask me that question and tell me about your situation or head over to my website.
You can find my email address there.
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Thanks so much for watching and we’ll see you at my website BreakupBrad.com.
Bye for now.