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do you want to start this off or should
I sure
Ashton daddy and I have some bad news
your mother and I well our relationship
is on the rocks wait what well honey
there's no right way to say this sweetie
we're getting a divorce divorce oh my
god is this because of me well no let's
just say that becoming parents didn't
help our marriage no it did not divorce
it's never easy talking to your children
about it but blaming them or each other
say the experts are some of the worst
things you can do you're at a restaurant
when you see a couple doing exactly that
and in the process hurting their child
what would you do so this is all my
fault oh my god we're at the red oak
diner in Hazlet New Jersey Tracy and
Tyler are getting a divorce
but they're doing it all horribly wrong
with eleven-year-old Ashton caught in
the middle we have bad news to tell you
oh the right way to say it or this
couple sitting at the next table already
seemed to sense that Tracy and Tyler's
relationship is on the rocks do you want
to say it or do you want me to say it
well I mean let me say it okay go ahead
saying we're getting a divorce divorce
and now they have a ringside seat to an
increasingly ugly family ordeal he has a
mr. alt is having an affair so we're
getting a divorce
it would have got our family we don't
have a family sweetie we don't have a
family anymore it's just you and me hey
hey come on as our parents battle they
exchanged looks well thank you for
ruining your child's life that's all I
want to say okay you're the one that's
caused this whole problem okay and when
we tell Tyler and Tracy to leave the
table this is my fault they remain
silent
but when Tracy is alone at the table
Meredith zebra speaks up
like their son was
and that's when we step in hi how are
you
I'm John quinones you gave her advice
yeah you shouldn't be hearing a mother's
situation and what Dad did and these
next two dads agree you need to stress
the hand this is good this is good
throughout the day a lot of people chose
the hands-off approach to our divorcing
parents who were breaking it so badly to
their son I thought you liked me as a
matter of fact you can keep this cheap
ass read this dad actually moves to
another table I went to a divorce myself
so I felt very bad for that child and so
does this mother of two don't lie to him
it's it's a great effort and that group
effort has failed on your part but she
suffers silently sweetie your dad is a
bad man he is a bad man he's a liar too
personal I wasn't gonna get up and say
something I just don't feel that
whatever your parents are going through
you do not talk bad about the other
parent no matter what it is to that
child
are you mom do you know I know I'm a mom
the father and I were not together and
that was the rule that we had child
needs both parents and they need to feel
that both parents love them we're back
at the diner one last time your turn
your turn at the next table are for
friends we're getting a divorce your dad
and I divorce divorce what hey hey
it's doors each one of them a child of
divorce this is not the end of the world
okay
they know that for a child it can feel
like the world is ending
come on God hold on I gotta call you
back
what's ridiculous when the parents walk
away leaving their heartbroken son alone
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Michael Windhoek Annette swoops in to
comfort Ashton when I was 5 years old my
parents split up and you'll get through
it
okay one of the friends gets up to go
look for Ashton's parents were you
bothering him he's upset and he thinks
it's his fault well it kind of is his
fault well maybe you should mind your
own business your screams people down
there hear you okay I'm sorry it's going
don't make them feel like your test box
is not well I'm not trying to make it
really really tall then you're going
about it the wrong way yes they're doing
it the wrong way but luckily it's for
what would you do
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you went through it yeah that exact
thing happened to me
I want dude same thing divorce I was
probably 13 and 12 my parents got
divorced when I was 11 years old my
parents split up when I was like five
you were amazing you went over to the
little boy I really didn't know what to
say I just tried to like calm him down
and make sure that he knows it wasn't
his fault
you don't understand when you're that
young I was that little so it's like
it's sad you could relate yeah your
message to people who see this sort of
thing never blame anything why Cory kids
always feel like it's their fault and
it's not hi guys John quinones here
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