2020 might almost be over but it's not over for you. This could be your year to glow up
mentally and you know I think these are the ideal conditions for glowing up. I mean when
do you have so much alone time? When do you have so much time to overthink everything
and have even more alone time? No, this is a great year and I'm so excited to see how
people are going to come out of it.
Hey guys, my name is Lydia. Thank you so much for clicking on this video.
I tend to do videos that motivate people to start a creative career in a chill,
philosophical vibe because there's a lot of energetic, peppy people on Youtube and it
needs to tone down a bit. So if you're into that I would love it if you subscribed and
helped my tiny channel grow. So glowing up is a term that has been thrown around so much
this year, but usually it refers to the physical glow up. What I'm talking about is the mental
glow up and self-confidence, but if you haven't accessed the internet during this time you
strong, strong human (I wish I could be like you) then I will refresh your memory on what
glow up means courtesy of Urban Dictionary of course. So, a glow up is when you go from
ugly to stunning... alright. Quickly going from ugly to attractive. Glow up: when someone
grows up and becomes prettier than when they were a pre-pubescent child. That one is actually
so painful. Look at the example. "Wow, Sally definitely had a glow up. Did you see this
picture of her from 2011?" This was me in 2011 and so like this definition hurts. Anyways,
this isn't what I'm talking about. OK I found a good definition. Glow up is a mental, physical,
and emotional transformation for the better. K thank you Urban Dictionary. I argue that
the mental part of glowing up is much much more important than the physical part of glowing
up because I have a little secret for you guys. If you want to glow up 'physically'
for social media's sake, all you have to do is download Facetune, get some fillers, and
that's it. You'll look like every other girl on the internet or every other person on the
internet and make everybody else insecure. No I think mentally glowing up is much much
more important because your brain and your mental wellbeing is something that will stick
with you until you die. Whereas you'll only be physically attractive for arguably 20 years
of your life so it makes much more sense to invest into your mental wellbeing than physical.
Also, when you are just mentally in a much better place, when you are more self-confident,
it shows physically. It is one of the most attractive things on someone when they can
walk into a room and you know that they're self-confident, not that they're boastful.
There is quite a fine line but self-confidence is just so much more attractive. I swear when
you start with mentally feeling better, you treat yourself better because when you're
constantly telling yourself, "I don't deserve this. I don't deserve that," it's going to
show. You're not going to look your best but when you are happier, you just glow, and don't
we all want to have glowing skin this year? So the first step to glowing up mentally is
to identify what is that one thing you're using as an excuse for not glowing up mentally.
And I mean exactly what I say. People fill in this phrase that's like, "If I was blank,
this and this and this in my life would be better," when really what they're using is
that one phrase as an excuse for why they don't deserve, or why they shouldn't pursue,
everything that they wanted in life. For example, unfortunately a lot of people aren't happy
with their weight. So they like to say, "Oh if I was thinner, I would have more friends.
I would have a better job. I would be more successful." You should know that it's not
that if you were thinner you would have all these things. It's more that if you were more
self-confident and if you believed in yourself, you would have all those things. If anything,
you should look at that one thing and be like, "Wow, it's actually only one thing that's
preventing me. Like that's nothing at all." If there's multiple things in life. that you're
not happy about well... then we have a bit more work to do but it's not impossible. This
whole thing of mentally glowing up, or glow up in any sense, is a transformation and it
is marathon. It is not a sprint. This is like such an overused phrase. I'm sorry for using
it, but it's true! You have to take time, you can't just wake up one day and feel thinner
or wake up one day and feel better. It's a transformation. So why wait until you've reached
your ideal weight to be happier in life? Start now. Start today. It's almost September in
2020. The year is almost over. Don't wait for New Year's to start your New Year's resolution
goals. In fact, that is a concept that shouldn't be there to begin with because you should
always be striving for your goals. I'm serious, New Year's goals should be obliterated. So
once you've identified what you consider that one thing that's preventing you from reaching
your ideal life, realize what is causing you to constantly think about this. Like for example,
back to the weight thing just cause it's a very easy example: are you looking at people
on Instagram with unrealistic body types? Are you looking at people who just make you
feel worse and their lifestyle? Instagram is a business and that platform is where people
showcase the best version of their life. People will go to really extreme lengths to even
fake how they feel. They will edit. You know there's some people who don't even look at
all like they do on Instagram, so keep that in mind. If people are making you feel bad,
don't follow them. Don't associate yourself with them. This goes for offline and online
as well. Personally I have a very, very intimate close circle of friends and I love that because
we all support each other. They're all people who for some reason support my crazy ideas.
So if you're my really close friend and you're watching this, thank you. But if you're surrounding
yourself with people who are judgemental, who don't really support your visions, why
are you even friends with them in the first place? I think one of the biggest things that
helped me become just so much more confident was this one mindshift that literally completely
changed my life. Growing up I was super socially awkward. I was that person who only had like
one or two friends in each class and if those two friends weren't there one day I literally
did not know what to do with myself. Like sometimes I'd even fake sick if those people
weren't there because I was like, "Oh no. I'm not going to have any friends in class."
Tragic. Or you know if I showed up at an event and I wasn't wearing the right clothes for
that event, I would just immediately feel bad and have a really shitty night cause the
whole time I'd be self-conscious and being like oh I don't fit in oh no. Retrospectively,
I am happy that I'm having a glow up in my twenties cause you know the people who peaked
in middle school and high school...where are they now? I don't know, I feel like a lot
of them are kind of downgrading if anything. But that being said, this mind shift that
changed everything, even got me to start Youtube which I delayed for an entire year cause I
was so insecure, was realizing that yes, people are going to have their opinions. I know that
sounds simple but when you accept that everyone is going to have their own opinions because
that's their own view on what's normal and you stop trying to prove yourself, everything
changes. Literally overnight, I dyed my hair black and a new Lydia was born. We call her, Dark Lydia.
[Don't you know the power of the Dark Side]
But seriously once I realized that
you can't change the way people think about you, you really only have yourself and why
should you try to prove something, everything changes. I became a lot more confident. I
started believing in my ideas more, started Youtube. Everything changed and people started
to notice this change and I've had so many people tell me, "Oh no, you've always been
confident." And I'm like, "HA, biggest joke." You should have seen me. I think I'll put
up my 11 year old picture once again, once again, just so you see the transformation
that happened. And it's not just physical! I would say I started with the mental transformation
and that just turned into physical and I started to take care of myself better. I still have
a ways to go but I just felt better and I was like I want to look better because in
my head I'm feeling so much better. So I want to end off this video on the note that you
are worthy of all your dreams and you are so unique and that is something to be proud
of. Why strive to look like everybody else? Why strive to live like everybody else? You
are the only person in this world with your genetic makeup and that is incredible. Personally
I think that everyone is here to give something, contribute something to this world, otherwise
you wouldn't be here. So even if you're that person who's like I have nothing to look forward
to in life, no. You are here for a reason. Maybe that's just religious school that gave
me that mindset but I guess religious school was good for something if in a way it contributed
to my self-confidence. That being said, you are worthy and I hope that my tips in this
video helped you and that you come out of this year more confident than ever. Take this
time to just have introspection and get in tune with yourself. So I hope you enjoyed
this video and if you didn't subscribe, I would love it if you did that right now and
I'll see you in the next one.