Men actually said that they were attracted
to the women and they also assumed that the women are also attracted to the men.
But when they asked the women. The women weren't attracted to the men
and they also assumed that the men weren't attracted to the women.
Asalaamu alaikum guys and welcome to another episode of Smile to Jannah.
Today we got a video by KSI- Britain's biggest youtuber-
He's expressed his interest in Islam, well, certain aspects of Islam.
I am interested in like certain parts of Islam. So like the whole
no alcohol thing, I think that's very like sick (good).
And last time we covered a video about him playing devil's advocate with
defending the institution of marriage.
This time however he went one step forward and he goes, men and women cannot be friends.
For me, I just feel like girls and guys cannot be friends.
Now for him, with the reach that he has.... it was a big thing for him to say.
And I thought it was quite honest because we've seen little clips
go around of Steve Harvey saying the same thing.
All of my friends are men. I don't have females... I don't...I'm incapable of that.
You're an attractive woman. There are some guys somewhere saying "yeah I'm... we're friends".
No, that's not true. He's your friend only because you have made it absolutely clear
that nothing else is happening except this friendship.
And we know in our current society the cult classic 'When Harry met Sally'.
-You realize of course that we could never be friends
-Why not?
What I'm saying is- and this is not a come on in any way shape or form is-
that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
The Friends sitcom.
And Bollywood- Kuch kuch hota hai. All of them say friendship eventually leads to love
So after he received the big backlash for this, he went on Twitter and he retracted it.
Well he did say that he's looked at both sides and he's now going to retract it.
But I want to say, and I want to give some more credence to this point of
view that men and women indeed cannot be friends, obviously, as a Muslim yeah.
So let's deal with a 2012 study of the University of Wisconsin. They released this study.
It's also quoted by Scientific American and also
newspapers like The Daily Mail yeah so it's definitely wide-reaching.
Now what does this study say? This study says; men and women came
who were friends and then they asked both both of them about their friendship.
Men actually said that they were attracted to
the girls (women) and they also assumed that the women are also attracted to the men.
But when they asked the women. The women weren't attracted to the men
and they also assumed that the men weren't attracted to the women.
And then when the men were asked about the
romantic feelings-because they revisited those guys and you know when they did get together-
and they said it was a positive thing.
When the women were asked they said it was a negative thing.
And this goes in life with the society that we know.
Men say to each other "look you know get in the friend zone,
and eventually when she's vulnerable then you can go in there mate yeah".
However women they're like "nah nah he's he's my friend. We're best friends".
So from this study we could see that women had more of a naïve view and the men
had (you know) another agenda/view. And this is what we say.
But I'm glad this study is there to prove this point.
So what does Islam say? Islam says if
two people; a strange man and an estranged woman are alone, then the third is shaytaan (the devil)
Which means that he will whisper and he will inspire and (you know) he will create a spark.
Now some people are deluded. The deluding saying..."he's got beard mate.
He's got a hat mate. He's done hajj. He's done Hajj 3 times mate".
Doing Hajj three times. Having a beard, doesn't mean that your innate disposition;
something that's innate within you can be quashed.
You're a man. If there's a niqabi sitting next to you,
you're still going to be thinking 'let me take a peek yeah'
This is what one of the Mufti's said, that it doesn't matter some people say "he's
like my brother" but he doesn't see you as a brother.
If he's given the opportunity to get with you he will he will get with you, that's the point,
and I'm glad the study is out there as well.
So Islam also says that men and women- because look, Islam's main objective
is to preserve the family unit and to preserve the community.
How do we preserve the family unit? To get married (that's right) to get married.
A husband a wife and children,
that's preserving the family unit. Anything that comes in the way of this be LGBT or whatnot,
Islam will have strong words to say about this because this is priority.
Now how does Islam preserve the society? If people don't get married
or if they get married and divorce takes place?
Those kids are likely to become a bane for society; they're likely to become obese,
they're likely to be involved in drugs yeah,
they're likely to cause issues and get arrested.
And even the people that are not together, they're more likely to commit crimes.
So when you're in a relationship you are disciplined
yeah, you are disciplined and you're controlled by that relationship yeah.
When I say controlled, you're encouraged to be stable
yeah. Marriage increases stability and it gives you a reason to be stable,
otherwise it causes problems in society.
Adultery and people fornicating with each other causing heartbreak,
which then leads to suicide (or)
which then leads to depression and trauma then you're going to your therapist.
Then they're telling you to pop pills and the cycle repeats repeats repeats.
I'm sorry but the liberal mindset, and the liberal world view is not
beneficial or helpful when it comes to this.
"Oh yeah, love is love mate you can do whatever you want".
Can I start fornicating with animals and brothers/sisters?"
No no no I didn't mean that.
Can I start doing paedophilia. What you were you going to say about that?
-No no that's not... -but you just said love is love
-Not not over there -so love's not love then
Do you see it breaks down it breaks down? These sorts of things;
heartbreak is something, like I said, that eventually leads to trauma,
getting a therapist, that affects your future relationships,
then when you finally do get married what happens?
Well you project your insecurities to the to your partner and then things start going wrong,
things start going wrong, it then affects your relationship with your kids
etc etc and subhanAllah it's a big problem.
So Islam cuts things off from the root. Islam deals with the roots of the problem yeah.
Men and women should not have unnecessary interaction with each other.
Don't be shaking hands. You don't even need to
greet somebody unnecessarily. You see your sister "salaam alaikum sister"
No no no, that's not an obligation upon you
"Yes I want to give her dawah"
No don't give a dawah yeah there's no need.
Other sisters are there to give the dawah yeah, don't get excited.
So, Islam deals with the roots of the problem and Islam is not here to compromise
based upon the sensibilities of society,
because that's the morality without religion,
Liberalism is the morality, well Utilitarianism or
Kantianism whatever morality you're talking about and that morality is to do with pleasure and pain.
That is to do with people voting for what they think is correct.
But people can't really be trusted...people are going to be influenced by society,
and by the nefarious groups in society like the corporations
or the governments that want more power.
Hope you guys have benefited from this let's leave it there until next time, Asalaamu Alaikum.