He cheated on me with 50 people over the span of half a year - FIFTY!??!
I also found videos of him doing it with other girls on his phone...
I want things to get better...
Please love yourself more
*obnoxious duck while Cathy is clearly struggling*
Hey guys on Ask Japanese I called a stranger on a roulette chat app here in Japan...
And asked her what her recent worry was...
It became a lot heavier than I thought it would be. In the end I didn't know how to...
end it on a positive note... i tried but...
Just check it out and have a look what happened.
There is an account saying "while I am making dinner"
Female or Male? - Don't know. Wanna try talking?
Hello?
Hello! - Oh Hi we got connected on the app!
You account says "While making food" what are you making?
I forgot to change my status!
Yesterday I made food!
That's why!
I am glad we got connected. I am not Japanese but a girl from Germany...
So I tried using this app - Do you live in Japan?
That's right. I am calling from Tokyo.
Really? You are the first foreigner I have ever talked to!
That makes me happy to hear, but I also gotta make sure I act right then.
I gotta leave you with a good image.
You don't have to try so hard
Today I am asking strangers on this app what their recent worries are. Do you have one?
This is gonna be quite heavy, is that ok? - Yeah that's ok!
I am worried about my love life.
I am dating my boyfriend for 2 years now. - That's long.
Since last month I know he has been cheating.
Are you for real?
Yes... with...
With 50 people over the time of half a year. - FIFTY?!?!
50 What kind of number is that?
50... like he SLEPT with FIFTY other girls???
That's right. - WHAT THE HELL!?
Yeah it's pretty bad. And he contacted over 100 girls as well.
WHAAAAAT
That's just not right.
How did you figure that out?
Me and my boyfriend were on some app together.
And a membership email from a Love Hotel came to my address instead...
WHAAAAT
I have never been to a Love Hotel because we live together... - WHAT
You are living together? That's tough to move out of.
That's right.
I thought that email was really weird...
So when my boyfriend was sleeping after we did stuff I looked at his phone...
I could see how he had contacted many other girls...
there were even videos on his phone how he had sex with other girls...
AAAAAAAAAH
But ... you ... guys... dated for 2 years....
And you live together... when does he even have the time to see that many girls?!?!?!
Did he pretend he was busy with work?!?!?!
He pretended his work ended late and such.
He also said he was going to some kind of evening school...
So he would pretend to go there but actually didn't...
Does he know...?
Does he know you found out?
He knows.
He knows you know and he reacted how?
He was not sorry. He said I was scary and creepy for finding these things out.
WHAT THE HELL!??! No way! That Dude is the real creep here!!!
Right? Sleeping with other girls even though you have a girlfriend is weird right?!?!
No way?! This is just a total no go!!!
Not on!!!
Do you still live in the same place?
I do.
And I don't want to leave him.
Huh? What? Why?
He cheated on me...
But I still love him very much...
I want to be together with him and not lose him to another girl.
Hearing your voice, you seem like a cute girl and thinking of the other is generally a good thing but...
But someone who cheats THAT much will 100% do it again...
on top of that... he didn't even apologize...
he didn't say "I will never do it again" but instead blamed you for his toxic behavior
That abusive behavior will shrink your feeling of self worth more and more...
In the end you might end up blaming yourself for his abusive behavior...
You will loose your confidence more and more in a relationship like that...
Is this the kind of relationship you want?
I wonder if you or he will be happy in a situation like that.
This is actually the second time I found out.
No way.
He cheated on the girl he was dating before too.
I knew he was a cheater when I started to go out with him.
I knew he would cheat on me and I know he will cheat on me again.
But even though, I need him and I love him too much to let him go.
When it came out a month ago...
He said he enjoyed having sex with others and he loved me less and wanted to split up.
So I kept quiet and he asked what I wanted to do.
I said "You are important to me and I don't want to split up with you."
He said "That's how it is then..."
And then I talked about how hurt I was that he cheated on me...
And then...
one month later he said for the first time "I am sorry for hurting you, I just realized how I hurt you."
No no no no....
Can I ask some more questions about this? - Sure
Do you want to hurt your boyfriend? Make him sad?
You don't want to hurt him right?
- No never! - Then why...
Is he hurting you like that repeatedly?
If you love someone you wanna make them smile. You want to protect them.
You want to support them.
That should be normal in a relationship.
I guess you are right.
I want you to be with someone, who also treats you like that.
I have never met him, we just started talking...
I want you to find someone who treats you right... and your partner doesn't seem to do that...
and that hurts to hear.
You are right...
He treated me right apart from all the cheating...
But when I think about it I really like him.
So is the only good thing about him that he used to be nice to you?
Yes he would respect my opinions.
He wouldn't deny me.
He was just one ball of kindness.J
He is a ball of kindness... but he is that to a lot of other girls too. Doesn't that irk you?
Yeah that irks me.... but.... how do I say it...
But he said he got messages from girls who wanted to date him and he rejected them because he has a girlfriend, me.
I saw that in his text messages too.
Sorry I am also getting way too much sucked into your private affairs but...
Have you ever cheated on him?
I have never dated or cheated anyone else.
He slept with 50 other girls... on a hygiene level... are you ok with that?
Aren't you worried he used proper protection at all those love hotels?
I made him go to a sexual health clinic, so I think it's ok.
But he plans to continue to cheat on you?
I am not sure if he stopped doing it because he finally realized it's not right.
He said "If I cheat it always comes out so I won't do it anymore."
At least in words he said that.
When he said that recently it was the first time.
Has he started to come home earlier and not work so late at night?
That's right.
He started taking pictures and let me know where he was from then on.
How long has it been since all came out?
He realized I knew on August 13th
What that's super recent... (a week ago)
That's right.
I personally think, once things might not go so well he might look at other girls again...
Don't you think so? - I think so...
But even if he cheats on me... I want to marry him!
Aaaah......
Don't you have a rule like... three strikes or anything like that?
I don't have anything like that.
Whenever I fall in love, nothing can stop me from loving them, no matter what he does.
I am quite weak, I don't think I have the strength to let him go.
What is happiness to you?
Being with the person I love.
Do you really want to date him, even though he is also seeing other girls?
I would rather see that, than see him split up with me.
So you would rather choose the pain of him cheating again and again than the pain of breaking up with him?
The pain of breaking up would be bigger for me.
People are different and have their own definitions of happiness but...
But I will be praying that he really starts to treat you right and doesn't cheat anymore...
I really hope so for your sake. - I want to be happy...
Make sure you are tougher with him about that. Tell him off.
Get honestly angry.
Thank you!
I am the reporter of a foreign YouTube Channel... Would it be a problem if we included our conversation in our video?
That's totally fine.
Really? - Yes.
Please have more respect for yourself. Please love YOURSELF more.J
PLEASE LOVE YOURSELF!
You are right. True....
I gotta pull myself together.
Please love yourself more. I beg of you! - Thank you so much.
Thank you! - Do your best!
Bye Bye...
Right... that was a lot heavier than I expected it to be...