Hello my wonderful friend! Today's video is titled online dating tips for men. How to actually be
successful and stop being ghosted. Wouldn't you love to be able to meet an amazing woman online?
No one wants to be lonely, right? And the current challenges can make it a little stressful to try
and meet new good women. But have you ever been in this situation where you like tried to message her
and they never get back with you, or they reject you? Being ghosted and being rejected isn't fun,
is it? Well, when it comes to online dating there are some things you have to know if you are going
to be successful. We're going to be going over some of those tips in this video so make sure
you watch to the end if you want to avoid being rejected and instead be successful. Before we
dive into those tips if this is your first time watching one of my videos, welcome! My name is
Melannie. I'm a Christian dating coach for men. I teach you how to stop wasting your time and
your energy on bad and dead-end relationships by learning the skills you need to get your dream
girl and your dream relationship. So make sure you subscribe, ring the notification bell, and
give me a big thumbs up. Okay, let's talk about online dating. If you have not been successful
in online dating just know that that is normal. That does happen and you are not broken. A lot of
people think that online dating doesn't work and that it's full of scams and it's just a joke. The
truth is though tons of people meet online and so many people have their dream relationships
because they met someone online. The trick is if online dating isn't working it's because you
don't know how to do it right. It's not that it doesn't work or that it's full of scammers. It's
that you have to know the right things so that you do not attract those scammers. So that instead you
attract the type of woman you're really wanting to meet. That makes sense, right? With that let's
dive into these online dating tips so you can stop being rejected, stop being ghosted, and
instead meet a really amazing woman. So my first online dating tip is that your profile picture
is not everything, but it is important. And not in the way that you think. First impressions
are everything. Something you need to realize when it comes to online dating is she is just
as afraid, if not more afraid, than you are of being scammed or being hurt or someone
not being honest, not being real. So if there is anything that makes her feel uncomfortable or
nervous in any way she's going to keep scrolling because there are so many other opportunities
to meet people online. And so if there's anything that makes her nervous in any way she's going to
keep scrolling. And so you really want your profile picture to make a really good first
impression. This obviously means that you want to be well groomed and have a nice smile on your
face and really put your best foot forward. If your profile picture looks cluttered or cheesy
or if there's a ton of people in the picture or if you're really small in the picture she's going to
keep scrolling. Online dating is actually one of the things I cover in my program. And something
I really enjoyed teaching in that program is about how to take a really nice picture.
Many people don't know this about me, but I have a little bit of a background in photography.
So many people think that they're just not photogenic. That's a totally normal thing to
think. But the truth is it's not that they're not photogenic it's that they don't know how to take a
good picture. If you take a picture at a bad angle or in bad lighting or if it's a cluttered picture
that can make you appear like you're not photogenic when really it's just how the picture
was taken. So just know that selfies are totally fine, you just need to make sure that you do get
a really good angle, you get good lighting, and that your background isn't cluttered.
So don't just assume "oh I have to look like a supermodel in order for this picture to be nice."
That's not the case at all. She's just looking to connect with a really awesome guy. And so
you want to make sure that the way you compose your picture shows her that you're not scammy,
you're not cheesy, you're not weird, you're just an awesome guy who would be fun to meet. Let's
move on to my next online dating tip. After she notices your picture she's going to look at your
bio. And again you want to give her no reason to keep scrolling, no reason to feel uncomfortable or
nervous or like this isn't a good idea. So the way you craft your bio is actually very important. If
it is boring or if it's overly preachy or really needy and sappy and cheesy and trying too hard,
she's done. Some of the biggest mistakes I see are being really needy, like telling how many kids you
want to have or how desperately you want a wife. Another big mistake is trying too hard to be
romantic or attractive or super hot. "Oh I like long walks on the beach." You know,
things like that. That's just like "whoa, okay that's too much." It makes her think that you just
want something from her. Another big mistake is being too preachy. If your bio is full of
like scriptures and how much you want a Godly relationship and all of that,
that's too personal for someone she doesn't really know and it pushes her away, causes her to keep
scrolling. And another big mistake is just being boring or not letting her know anything about you.
She is looking to see if she would enjoy getting to know you better. And if there's nothing that
lets her know that you guys would have anything in common she's gonna keep scrolling. It's kind
of like meeting someone in person. You would never walk up to someone and say "Hi. My name is John.
I want a dog and three kids." That would freak her out, right? Instead you'd say, "hey,
I'm John. Nice to meet you. How's your day been so far?" So you want to make sure that you're
not too personal. What that does is that creeps her out and freaks her out and causes her to keep
scrolling. You don't want to overwhelm her. It doesn't matter how awesome you are, if you make
these really easy mistakes to make, that's what's going to cause you to be rejected and ghosted and
feel like online dating doesn't work at all. Now speaking of being a really awesome guy
and being rejected and ghosted, would you like to learn the three biggest reasons that happens,
the three biggest mistakes that will keep you single and alone forever? Those are valuable
things to know, right? I just put together a free masterclass for you on this. You're going to learn
the three biggest mistakes and the three biggest secrets to instead getting your dream girl. So
if you're tired of being lonely and rejected and being so awesome but still being alone make sure
you watch this free masterclass. There's a link in the description below. I will also put a link in
the pinned comment. The things I teach you in that masterclass are how you go from lonely to holding
your dream girl so make sure you give it a watch. Okay, back to our online dating tips. Our next tip
is make sure that you have a game plan for how to message girls. It doesn't matter how awesome your
profile picture is or how awesome your bio is if when you message her or try to chat with her if it
is awkward or makes her uncomfortable in any way she's done. And some of the mistakes I mentioned
in writing your bio are really easy to make when you're chatting with her. For instance, being
really needy or too personal like "oh I want a dog and three kids" or "how many kids would you like
to have?" Another really important thing I love to teach in my program when it comes to online dating
is realize that right now she doesn't want to be your wife. She doesn't know you yet. And so, yeah,
knowing that you want a Godly relationship and that you want a dog and three kids, that's really
cute, if she's been dating you for a while, if she wants to be your girlfriend, if she is your
girlfriend. Those are all really cute things, but if she doesn't know you yet that's creepy,
that freaks her out, that's pushing an emotional barrier. You guys have no emotional closeness yet,
because you don't know each other. So talking about those things too soon is going to freak
her out. Instead, like I mentioned earlier, you need to treat it like meeting someone in person
and chatting with someone in person. You want to be friendly with her, you want to get to know her
better, and you want her to have an opportunity to get to know you better. It's just two people
seeing if they have anything in common. So having a game plan, knowing what to say,
is going to help you so much. Because this right here, messaging and chatting with her,
that can kill the attraction so fast. It's very important that you have a game plan. To learn a
little bit more about how to talk to girls do make sure you watch this video. I will put a
link in the description below for that. So are you enjoying these online dating tips and is it
making sense so far? I would love to hear which of these tips you are finding the most helpful, which
one you are going to focus on first. Please tell me about it in the comments below. And if you are
enjoying this video and you would like more online dating tips and and more advice in the future
please be sure to comment 'online dating' so I know to make those for you. All right, are you
ready for our next tip? Our next tip is to take it offline as soon as you can. A really good way to
end up with a toxic woman or to end up being scammed or to just end up in the friend zone is to
keep it online. Obviously it's a good idea to chat and message online for a while, get to know each
other, see how how you get along, and then you want to start talking on the phone or better yet
video chatting. This is going to help you one, make sure it's a real person, and help you kind of
read her tone of voice and her body language, see if you guys have chemistry, and really help you
know if this is a good idea and if you'd like to pursue this relationship at all. Then after you've
been doing that for a while you do want to meet in person. You don't want to put too much pressure on
yourselves and meet too soon but you do want to meet in person. Make sure you just do it in a
public place for the first little while. And this leads me to my next online dating tip which is
make sure you know how to charm her offline as well as online. This is a big big thing that
a lot of guys forget to think about. You need to make sure that you know how to flirt with her, how
to talk to her, how to interact with her in person and basically you want to make sure you have solid
dating and relationship skills. If you don't, it doesn't matter how awesome you were chatting
in person it's going to fall apart. This happens for so many people. Bottom line, men with solid
dating and relationship skills get their dream girl. Men who don't have those skills, don't. So
you do want to make it a priority to make sure you have those solid dating and relationship skills.
Now this is actually something else I do cover in that free masterclass I talked about.
So if you want to make sure you really set yourself up for success instead of setting
yourself up for another failed relationship do make sure you watch that free masterclass now.
There is a link in the description and a link in the pinned comment. Let's sum up what you have
learned so far. Our first online dating tip is to know that your profile picture is not everything.
This is not about looking like a supermodel, but it is important. You just need to make sure that
you're paying attention to those little details. Making sure you have a big smile, making sure that
the picture isn't too far away, there aren't too many people in it, or that your background isn't
cluttered. Your profile picture is what initially gets her to stop scrolling so make sure it's a
good one. My next online dating tip is to make sure your bio is carefully crafted. You don't
want to be needy or look like you're trying too hard to be romantic or that you're just plain
boring or even preachy. You want to instead be interesting and someone she really could see
herself getting to know better. Next, make sure you have a game plan for how you are going to
message her and how you are going to talk to her. It doesn't matter how awesome your profile picture
and your bio are if she's uncomfortable or bored or just doesn't feel good about it when you are
chatting and messaging it's done. My next online dating tip is to take it offline as soon as you
can. Make sure you start talking in the phone and video chatting and when it's time make sure
you do meet her in person. You want to see how you guys interact together. And make sure that
you know how to charm her offline too. Texting and chatting and messaging online is one thing,
but actually knowing how to flirt and talk to her and how to act on a date and all of those things,
that's another thing entirely. And if you are looking for a long-term relationship
how you interact in person is far more important than how you interact online. So do make sure you
have those solid dating and relationship skills. As I mentioned you're going to learn more about
that in my free masterclass so make sure you check it out through the link in the description below.
Thank you so much for watching my amazing friend! If you enjoyed what you saw be sure to give me a
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these tips surprised you the most and which one you found the most helpful. Do you have a friend
who would really like to meet someone awesome online and is sick of being ghosted? If you do
please share this with him. If we're not yet friends on social media we totally need to be
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Thank you so much again my amazing friend and have an amazing day! [blooper beep] Are you trying-
I'm trying really hard but my brain is not cooperating. We're just gonna pause here
and wait for the jet to leave. Here we are waiting oh so patiently for the jet leave. [laughter]
This is me waiting, patiently, for the jet to leave. In case you were wondering. [laughter]
It's fine. I can never focus because the jets are always going. [laughter]
Interrupting me. So insensitive. [laughter]