hey folks pete here from Thairish Times how's it going how you doing what's the
story so if you've been following the channel you know that i'm irish my wife noon is thai
and today we're going to talk about culture clash and how it's impacted our relationship
and how we've overcome it but first before we do that folks if you've been following
this channel for a while you'll have seen that we've eaten some really strange stuff a couple
of months ago i had insects and then about two months ago noon ate a raw squid on camera
i nearly had a heart attack some of you nearly had a heart attack and just in front of me now
we have some snails i'm new and just said she's going to eat snails i said right if you're going
to eat snails i'm going to film you eating snails and that's what we're doing right now let's do it
here's my beautiful wife hello it's been about 10 videos since she's made an appearance and she's
back on the channel again right what's going on here neon so i have to tell you that i've never
had this snail before and basically the smell that you're gonna say they're from like rice fields
and the type of way you can not just found on like in the field easily they have to dig it in
from the soil on basically i'm gonna eat them for the first time of my life
gorgeous
no
um what's it called crunchy crunchy i'm not sure if i'm going to try it or not although i've eaten
it's like snow oh it's like it looks like a snot no it looks like it's not
looks like one of those bangkok snots you know if you live in bangkok for a long time because
of the pollution you get big black snots ew bangkok snots my turn i suppose yeah my turn
give me the bangkok snot put it into my mouth i'm not going to even think
i only want to look at it i just put it in my mouth just put it in
it even tastes like a snuff what i thought i eat snacks
very chewy yeah yeah yeah yeah tastes like rubber it's like squid
ah man the things i do for content on this channel eating insects now snails no one had raw
squid anyway the mind boggles as soon as noon is going all out here just a big bag of uh of snails
tiger snails huh mission mission in star right let's go find some more stuff
right now what do we have going on here we have a toast but it's not a usual toaster to see it and
it's the toast with cheese but the cheese is the rainbow shades from six color of cows six
colors of cows what like a red cow and a green cow and a yellow cow yeah right oh my god okay
rainbow cheese huh
amazing oh wow it's cheese but it's just color
now folks for our next cuisine
a bit of salt bit of butter bob's your uncle betty's your aunt
all right folks this is the second time we've had to do this because the first time the
market was too busy so we had to scrap that whole segment so second time around here we go culture
clash that's what she wanted to know that's where you clicked on the video conflict with
thai and irish man in a relationship where east meets west noon's going to start it off so last
month's last couple months the recent event is that we arrived at our like we arrived at
my parents place quite late in the evening so i thought it's gonna be fine so pete end up sleeping
in the master bedroom of my family where my parents stay as well so basically he didn't know
that he's gonna stay there but turns out like he ended up staying there and yeah a little bit
they're like quite frustration in it but we started out after because i i didn't know that
like i thought it was going to be okay because it's only like a couple hours until the morning
but turns out it's totally completely different because and westerners for rungs wouldn't
stay in the same bedroom of their own house so let me just let me just join me in here so we ended up
all sleeping in the same bedroom together noone's parents and myself and noon noon's parents were
in the double beds myself and noon were on the ground it was a strange experience newton's dad
was snoring i couldn't sleep um because you know in in the west if you go and meet stay with your
um in-laws you're gonna stay in the spare bedroom yeah you're not all gonna sleep in the sp in the
same room so i was uh not happy we had a bit of an argument and we had a chat about it and we kind of
sorted it out you know so that's the first one the second one is um i would say is that spontaneity
in the west we seem to be a little bit more time focused you have a schedule to meet people you
plan your schedule at least i am you know i want to know what day i'm meeting people
what activity i'm going to do i've noticed in thailand time is perceived differently it can be
more flexible let's just say so sometimes myself and they'll have a little bit of culture clash
when it comes to activities and times and dates and stuff like that
yeah i mean it doesn't mean that i'm late because i'm never late so um spontaneous
means that for example if it's around like 7 a.m or 7 p.m sorry 7 p.m and if my friends call at
7 p.m and wants to meet me at half seven i would just say to peter like here my friends dance there
my friend's gonna be downstairs in another 30 minutes then i'm gonna go out something like that
could happen and i'm fine with that if i'm okay to go so but like maybe westerners would want to
plan out longer ahead and less spontaneous or a little bit tight i don't know like ties are more
flexi and let it be easier than westerners that's what i could say as i could say yeah
what was the next one so the next one is that what i noticed about irish families that
are western families that when they when they discuss something it it would sound
like they argue it's more argumentative in that conversation and it could make monetize most
most ties misunderstand that they are fighting but no they they didn't vlog it happens to me
in 2017 when i first listened to pete and his family discuss only discuss about someone but then
like i thought that they were arguing they were fighting but not at all they
have basically like discussing and then the culture clash between myself and noon was
when we first started dating like i can be direct as a westerner i think we're kind of
a lot more direct in how we speak and sometimes thai people can see that as being argumentative
when it's not really being argumentative it's just how how we use the language our culture we're
straight up and honest and direct and it took us a little bit of time to get used to the fact that
you know i'm not being i'm not trying to start a fight i'm just being direct i mean you've seen the
interviews you know that i like to be direct when i ask them certain questions and stuff like that
but um yeah we sorted it out you know like since i realized now that it taught me to be like that
and now i kind of more argumentative and yeah like sounds like argumentative and then it made
a lot of toys we understand like we are we we were fighting because my when we talked about something
when me and peter discussed about something my friends built as like
we were fighting but yeah now we're just talking that's how you talk
like i get used to that now and i bring that thing in me already i'm basically i'm like you already
yeah so like it's good for you but like a lot of people wouldn't like when i do like
discussing a deep conversation yeah open openings and stuff okay so let's move into
the next point of how we actually resolve our problems when it comes to culture clash
right so the first and most important thing and it's the it sounds straightforward right
communication we talk about our stuff what's going on we have a problem with this we have
a problem with that open and honest even if it hurts the other person's feelings at least
you're being open and honest and communicating you know and if everyone has differences
no one's perfect and of course people argue that's part of life but i think it takes them
certain type of people to sit down and actually talk about their problems right so that's one
thing we've learned to do and you'd be surprised i actually do believe that that breaks up most thai
western relationships is that people just don't talk especially over here just don't talk to
each other so we've spoken to each other we've communicated and that's been the fundamental
pillar of our relationship the next one is accepting that mistakes are going to happen
we're both from opposite ends of the planet from different cultures
different backgrounds so of course you're going to have differences of opinion and
like it comes back to communication again how are you going to sort those differences out
when they occur sometimes you have to just accept that differences are going to happen
sometimes all you can do is say sorry and just learn it's it's that's just how it goes and
then that brings me into the last point that i've written down is you always have to be continuously
learning you never stop people change sometimes i change you i change yeah we both change especially
doing youtube i change in the last two years of being on youtube my life has pretty much changed
from a guy that never really was into social media now all of a sudden he's making content um noon
got a new job a couple of years ago that completely changed you i complete like i
turned to the opposite person comparing to the first time i met you yeah you have yeah
yeah like copyright world changed me a lot yeah as a person so like we change every day people change
every day and you have to accept that growth not shown change doesn't mean bad it means
growing so like you have to accept that for each other and learn new the new change that person
yeah and that's it that's been the key to it and there's loads of other points you could write a
whole book about all of this and i'm sure you guys have some interesting stories as well so leave
them in the comment section because we always want to hear what's going on in your lives as well
and we know we have a lot of people on the channel that are married to thai people so let's hear it
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