A NEW STUDY REVEALS THAT TEENS ARE CRIPPLED BY THE FEAR OF
MISSING OUT, #NOFOMO.
THIS IS THE NEW STUDY FROM CNN, CALLED #BEING13: INSIDE THE
SECRET WORLD OF TEENS, AND IT IS ABOUT KIDS AND HOW THEY
RELATE TO THEIR CELL PHONES.
A LOT OF PEOPLE THINK THAT CHILDREN ARE OBSESSED, AND
ABSOLUTELY ADDICTED TO CELL PHONE USE.
HERE'S A FEW FACTS ABOUT THAT.
FOMO, THE FEAR OF MISSING OUT, 55% OF TEENS "LURK" AT LEAST SIX
TIMES PER DAY.
THAT IS TO LOOK ON SOCIAL MEDIA WITHOUT THE INTENT TO POST.
FACEBOOK FRIENDS ARE SAID TO RAISE TEEN STRESS HORMONES,
AND EXCESSIVE SOCIAL MEDIA IS LINKED TO DEPRESSION.
WHY DO KIDS LURK?
WITH A GRAPHIC HERE THAT TELLS YOU WHY EIGHTH-GRADERS LURK
ON SOCIAL MEDIA.
80% IS THAT THEY ARE BORED.
SIMILAR TO THAT IS THAT THEY WANT TO CONNECT TO THEIR FRIENDS
BUT THEY ALSO WANT TO SEE IF THEIR POSTS ARE GETTING LIKES.
FOLLOWED BY THAT IS, I WANT TO SEE IF MY FRIENDS ARE DOING
THINGS WITHOUT ME.
AND, I'M WORRIED I MIGHT MISS A POST BY MY FRIEND.
ASKED WHY KIDS NEED TO BE PLUGGED IN ALL THE TIME, WE
HAVE ANOTHER GRAPHIC.
IT SAYS, "I FEAR MY FRIENDS HAVE MORE REWARDING EXPERIENCES
THAN ME."
FEWER AGREE WITH THAT THEN DISAGREE, BUT THEY ARE
WORRIED THEIR FRIENDS "ARE HAVING FUN WITHOUT ME."
IT'S ALSO IMPORTANT THAT THEY UNDERSTAND IN JOKES.
A CERTAIN PERCENTAGE SAY THAT WHEN THEY GO ON VACATION IT
IS IMPORTANT TO KEEP TABS ON WHAT THEIR FRIENDS ARE DOING.
DO YOU HAVE FEAR OF MISSING OUT?
FOR SURE, I'LL TAKE US TO THE EXTENT THAT TEENS ARE
EXPERIENCING IT TODAY, BECAUSE I WASN'T AS CONNECTED WHEN I
WAS GROWING UP, AND CERTAINLY NOT WHEN YOU WERE GROWING UP.
WHAT'S THAT SUPPOSED TO MEAN?
OLD MAN.
THIS DIDN'T SURPRISE ME AT ALL, BUT I DISAGREED A LITTLE BIT
WITH THEIR DEFINITION OF LURKING.
IT SEEMED SIMPLEST TO ME.
I THINK WHEN YOU ARE LURKING ON SOCIAL MEDIA, WHEN YOU ARE JUST
BOPPING AROUND FACEBOOK, AND INSTAGRAM, AND SNAPCHAT,
AND ALL THE OTHER MEDIUMS YOU HAVE AND YOU'RE NOT LOOKING
TO POST ANYTHING.
I THINK WHAT YOU ARE DOING, AND THIS MIGHT BE MY
EXPERIENCE, YOU ARE SEARCHING FOR SOMETHING.
LOOKING FOR SOME SORT OF VALIDATION, WHETHER IT
COMES IN THE FORM OF LIKES, OR SEEING SOMETHING THAT
SOMEONE ELSE POSTED THAT VALIDATES A FEAR, OR A
SUBCONSCIOUS FEAR OR UNCERTAINTY THAT YOU HAD.
I THINK THAT'S WHAT LURKING REALLY IS.
REALLY ARE PEOPLE ñ ESPECIALLY, I'M THINKING OF MY YOUNGER
COUSINS, ARE THEY TRULY MINDLESSLY LOOKING THROUGH.
I DO THAT SOMETIMES WHEN I'M LOOKING THROUGH THE NEWS ITEMS
OF THE DAY, BUT ON SOCIAL MEDIA, WHEN IT DIRECTLY RELATES TO YOU,
I FIND THAT IT SEEMS LIKE MOST TEENS ARE LOOKING FOR SOMETHING.
IT'S NOT AS MINDLESS AS THEY WRITE IT OFF TO BE, THAT
THEY ARE JUST BORED.
RIGHTS, I THINK THAT'S A VERY GOOD THING TO DO.
I SEE BOTH THINGS HAPPENING, BECAUSE I DO THAT THING WHERE I
WATCH PEOPLE ON THEIR PHONES ñ
JUST TO SEE IF MY GIRLFRIEND DOES ANY OTHER BOYS.
SHE DOESN'T.
AND SHE EXISTS.
BUT I KNOW THAT ON SNAPCHAT, IT IS THIS FRENETIC, FAST WAY THAT
PEOPLE USE SNAPCHAT.
NO NO NO NO NO, YES.
FACEBOOK, IT'S ñ
VIDEO BUFFERING ñ
ORIGINAL INTENT TO LEARN AND FIND THINGS OUT.
KIDS NOW HAVE HAD FACEBOOK THEIR ENTIRE LIVES, BUT WHEN
SOMEONE INTRODUCES YOU TO IT, YOU ARE THERE BECAUSE IT
DESCRIBES WHAT IT DOES AND YOU WANT TO USE IT FOR THAT.
THEN YOU GO AND SEARCH OUT STORIES.
BUT THEN GOING TO FACEBOOK BECOMES A COMPULSION.
BECAUSE SOMETHING ñ IT BECOMES SOMETHING YOU ARE USED TO DOING.
I ASKED DR.
DREW, I WAS LIKE I'VE PLAYED CANDY CRUSH ALL
DAY AM I ADDICTED?
HE'S LIKE, NO THAT'S A CONDITION, YOU HAVE THIS
PRACTICE AND HABIT OF DOING IT.
NOT FOR ANY PARTICULAR REWARD, BATTLE THINK IT'S AS
SINISTER AS THAT BECAUSE YOU JUST DO IT BECAUSE THERE'S
NOTHING ELSE TO DO AND YOU'RE JUST USED TO DOING IT.
I THINK YOU BRING UP A GOOD POINT WITH REGARDS TO THE
REWARD, AND THAT IS SOMETHING THAT DOESN'T REALLY EXIST.
THERE IS NO GRATIFICATION IN SOCIAL MEDIA BECAUSE THE
NUMBER OF LIKES IS INFINITE.
IT MIGHT BE DIFFERENT ñ IT MIGHT BE DIFFERENT IF YOU COULD Off
THE LIKES AT 200, IF YOU COULD GET A MAXIMUM ON WHATEVER YOU
PUT OUT THERE.
BUT BECAUSE THERE ISN'T THERE THAT ñ YEAH I ONE.
BECAUSE THERE IS THAT NUMBER, PEOPLE ARE CONSTANTLY SEARCHING,
PEOPLE ARE ASSESSED WITH HOW THEY ARE PERCEIVED ONLINE.
AND WHAT ARE OTHER PEOPLE DOING AND HOW DOES THAT COMPARE
TO THEIR LIVES, AND THERE'S JUST NO GRATIFICATION TO IT
BECAUSE THERE'S NO END RESULT.
YOU NEVER WIN THE GAME.
CANDY CRUSH, EVENTUALLY I WOULD THINK YOU WIN.
YOU JUST KEEP DOING LEVELS, LEVELS AND LEVELS, YOU PLAY
FOREVER.
IT NEVER ENDS?
YOU GET DONE AND THEN YOU WAIT UNTIL THEY RELEASE NEW LEVELS.
IT'S REALLY INTENSE.
ALSO, WAYS TO HANDLE FOMO.
YOU HAVE TO VALUE RELATIONSHIPS OVER ACQUISITIONS, SO THE
WAY YOU INTERACT ñ WITH PEOPLE OVERSTUFFED.
SAME WITH EXPERIENCES OVER SYMBOLS.
VALUE HAPPINESS AND NOT WEALTH AND LUXURY ITEMS.
PRACTICE DISCERNMENT AND BE WILLING TO NOT HAVE IT ALL.
YOU'RE NOT CAN HAVE EVERYTHING, BE SELECTIVE.
DO ONE THING AT A TIME.
BE MINDFUL AND SAVOR THE MOMENT.
HAVE AN ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE AND ENJOY THE PROCESS.
I LIKE IT.
SO JUST BE THERE ALL THE TIME.