Okay, stay there...
Son of a bi-
Freddy! You're supposed to be on lockdown!
Vanessa...
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I don't know who needs to hear this but if I say 'Huh?' like six times,
please don't say nevermind.
Don't don't don't don't give up on me. I'm trying my best.
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Oh my god
Freddy! You're supposed to be on lockdown!
Vanessa, I Forgor 💀
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So crazy right now.
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Hey, excu- excuse me!
Hello excuse me.
What? What's up?
What is this? Where am I?
Oh you're in ADHD Hell.
I'm in ADHD Hell?
Yes! Let me show you the activities that we have for you.
Um over there is where we make you count to a million but then we interrupt you right before you reach a million.
998,876, 998,877...
Hey man, hey! Have you seen the remote?
On the couch I think?
900...
Dammit!
My god that's horrible!
No kidding.
And over here we put you in a room with only fidget toys in it but the fidget toys make sounds like nails on a chalkboard.
AAAhHhH! Why is it every one of them?!
My God! Is that the end of the tour? I mean there can't be anything worse than that right?
Tell that to the people watching Downton Abbey at half speed.
This... is...
My god just say what you have to say already!
*connor noises*
I feel kinda depressed and fucking awful.
oh
yeah
Next time say 'good' and then shut the fuck up.
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Well maybe it's me.
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Get the fuck out of bed bitch go!
Let's talk about how to talk about getting an ADHD diagnosis.
This is a great question,
but unfortunately it also highlights one of the realities of seeking an ADHD diagnosis.
Is that a lot of times the burden of proof falls on us.
Now I've talked about this before on my channel. Sometimes just talking about the symptoms of ADHD isn't enough.
Going in and saying 'Hey I struggle with keeping my house clean and paying attention at work' is a great way for them to go,
'Oh everybody feels like that. You look like you're doing fine. Bye!'
So one of the things that I really advocate for is bringing notes that highlight how your ADHD symptoms are affecting you.
Saying I notice that I'm struggling in the following ways,
then also saying what that's like for you and how it's affecting you.
For instance, I have trouble wrapping up the final details of a project,
that shows up a lot for me at work and so I'm in danger of being fired.
Now this is the part that sucks.
Diagnosing ADHD is an imperfect science.
And also ADHD comes with a lot of comorbidities like anxiety and depression,
and so sometimes you may find yourself in a situation,
where you really do feel like your ADHD symptoms are the most important thing to deal with.
The doctor might look at you and say,
'Actually your anxiety and depression are far more damaging to your current living situation.'
So it's important to ask questions.
Asking 'So are you taking the possibility of my having ADHD off the table?'
or 'So do you not feel like I need an ADHD evaluation at this time?.
Once they have given you an answer this part is key,
saying 'Please note that in my chart.'
And I know it sucks to have to do that.
I know that it sucks to have to feel like you're in antagonistic relationship with your doctor,
but the thing to keep in mind,
and I know what I'm about to say comes with an immense amount of privilege and can absolutely vary from person to person,
But your doctor is your employee.
You are paying them to perform a service for you.
And again I know this comes with privilege,
and I know that in the United States it is so fucking difficult to deal with the medical industry as a whole,
But if your doctor is not listening to you,
or dismissing you out of hand or not taking you seriously,
sometimes you have to fire that person and find an employee who will do the job that you are asking them to do.
Whenever I say that I usually get a lot of pushback from doctors and I understand why.
And so I want to be clear again, it's very important to communicate with your doctor,
and be very clear about why they are or are not listening to you.
Because there is a very big difference between a doctor looking at you and saying,
'Actually you fit the exact criteria for somebody with anxiety'
which can manifest in ways that look a lot like ADHD,
and a doctor looking at you and going 'You're a woman you can't possibly have ADHD.' as two very different scenarios.
So the short answer to this excellent question is, you ask firmly and politely.
But the longer answer is with that firm and polite ask,
comes the understanding that you may be expected to carry the burden of proof.
And that's not fair but that's the system that we're working with.
Also I have a link to that self-assessment in my bio because people always ask me for it. (It's in the description)
And for the record I'm really sorry that you're dealing with this because I know how much it sucks.
ADHD people,I'm just saying, I'm just saying, I'm just SAYING
You need to drink water. That's everything bye.