Salam Alikum wa Rahmatu-Allah, Adullah Wa-alikum Assalam
What's going on, man? You wanted to talk to me about one of your friends, or something
Yeah, I was playing ball with a guy
And afterwards, we did the whole Eid Mubarak thing
But he felt like he could not even celebrate Eid because he felt like he had
done some things in his past
and that that had kind of taken him too far
and everyone around him was making him feel bad, like
there was no hope. I tried to talk to him but at some point I don't know
I meet a lot of these people, but subhanallah
We are far more merciless
towards people, and it's ironic, we expect all this mercy
from Allah for ourselves and we don't give any of it to
people. So those people mess up, fine
some people
do Haram things, some people do like epic,
Super, Extra, Haram squared things
And other people find out about it, and they will say things like
Oh you will never be forgiven, Allah is never going to forgive you, dude!
You, forget it! you are so going to hell!
and that kind of thing, and you hear that enough times
you get guilt-tripped enough times
you start believing it. but the problem is
if you start believing that you are not going to be forgiven
then you really
have no motivation left to do anything good in your life
like, why would you
I mean, why would I even pray?
I'm going to go hell anyway!
Why would I
care about my parents? why would I speak the truth? why would I
stay away from more
Haram? it does not matter anymore, anyway
I am already done.
Yeah, just add it on!
you know
how much worse can it already get? that kind of a thing
so when I try to talk to people about this
state which is not something easy to pull out of
so you can give a reminder because
Allah said "Remind! remind!
It will have its own benefit. It will give some benefit
But this is something that has
be done like, reinforced. That is why "Remind!" is mentioned
you can't just tell someone a good thing once
You gotta, like
stay with people like that.
like a lot of people say "I watch your videos
I watched that same video like
ten times", I was like "yeah,
I hoped that helped" because, somethings you need to hear over and over again
you can't just hear it once, right?
one time I was telling somebody to have hope, and I said "let me tell you about Musa (pbuh)
and
she stopped me, she goes "No, no, no! but those are prophets!
those are such awesome people!
you know I'm messed up!
I made so many mistakes, so give me something I can relate to." and I was like, "hold on
a second, I'm going to tell you about Musa before he was a prophet,
not after, and before he was a prophet
he kinda, sorta, (pbuh)
did mess up, a little bit"
She's like "Whaa?!
prophet?! messed up?!"
I said "Yeah, he got upset and he punched a guy
and,
he kinda died
and then he was wanted for murder
in Egypt, and there was an order
to kill him on sight, and he had to kinda run away
and he was as a fugitive from the law
I mean, I am sure you have done something bad
but murder?
that is pretty big
Is that relevant?! maybe if we can see how he can find hope
maybe we can use that to find hope ourselves
so it is important to know he was
not a prophet yet, because if he is a prophet then he
talks to Allah and Allah talks to him, yes?
but if he is not a prophet, he talks to Allah
but Allah does not yet talk to him, just like us
we talk to Allah all the time, we pray all the time, but Allah does not talk back to us
so we ask forgiveness, but we do not get a message
from Allah saying
you are forgiven, so we do not know where it stands
so now, what is awesome about his story
is that as soon as he punched the guy and he died, and he said that "this is from the work of Satan,
he turned to Allah and said, "Master, I have
wronged myself"
he admitted that he did something wrong
"forgive me"
"forgive me" OK
does Allah talk to him? no, because he is not a prophet yet
but the Ayah of the Quran says
"Therefore,
He forgave him"
the Ayah says
Therefore, He forgave him", so "forgive me!"
"Therefore, He forgave him"
and the letter "Faa'" in Arabic is for: Therefore.
Sababyiah
it's also for immediacy
so therefore he forgave him
immediately
And then he says, and you would read that,
and go "wait! just like that?
he killed someone!"
and he didn't, like, grovel
and beg for an apology for years and years and years
"Oh Allah, Am I forgiven or not? What's gonna happen?" he asked Allah immediately
sincerely, "I have made
a huge mistake, forgive me" and how long before
the forgiveness arrives? It's done
and if you are doubting it
the ayah ends 'There is no doubt about it, He is the Extremely Forgiving,
always Loving and Merciful"
you can get murder forgiven
if it was a sincere mistake
and you sincerely turn to Allah
that what happens with Musa (pbuh)
I'm not suggesting somebody go do murder
what I am saying is that, probably your mistake is not that big
it is not that big
You know, killing someone
is probably one of the highest sins
against humanity. why?
because Allah says
"If you killed one person,
It is as though
you have killed humanity all together"
why is that? I mean, think about the logic behind it.
if you kill one person
that's one person, there is billion of people, so how is it the same as killing all humanity?
imagine someone killed Adam
what happens? there is no humanity left
there is no humanity left
this person has entire future generation
of people under him
and all human being are direct descendants of Adam
so they have the same status of Adam (pbuh)
So, murder is not a small deal
and yet Allah will leave the door open
even for that level of crime, imagine!
so there might be somebody, like, one day there is somebody who becomes Muslim
who did commit murder, who was in jail or something for committing murder
and he's thinking that "Allah will never forgive me"
well, he should read Musa (pbuh) story
you can be as great, I mean,
he is, after being that...
and you know what? every body in Egypt thinks of him as what?
A killer
a criminal, a fugitive
and Allah raises him to the level of a prophet
and the most
mentioned prophet in the Quran
think about that
to you think you have made a mistake and it is over for you
yes maybe in the eyes of people, because people are
cheap with their forgiveness, Allah is not
Allah gives.
He's just waiting for you to ask genuinely
so, if people just sincerely ask Allah to forgive them, turn around
and by the way he did not ask for forgiveness, he says
and here is the really cool part
so, OK, fine, Allah forgave immediately
but I kept saying Allah does not
talk to him
so does he know that Allah forgave him?
No. but in the very next Ayah
he says"
Master, because the favor you have done to me,
I will never back up criminals again"
wait, what favor did Allah do to him?
he just killed somebody,
asked for forgiveness because he got conned by the other guy
he backed up the criminal
so he punched the wrong guy
and now he says
"Because of the favor you did to me, I will never back up a criminal again" so what is the favor?
the favor is forgiveness. but then the question is
How does he know about the forgiveness?
Allah does not talk to him, you know what we are learning here?
if you are a sincere believer
in Allah, you do not need revelation
from Allah,
like an angel coming and telling you you are forgiven
when you sincerely ask for forgiveness
you should actually have no doubt
whatsoever
that forgiveness came, it is a matter of fact
it is not a matter of assumption
not to a believer
and since he is a believer
he does not have to be a prophet to know that
he just, knows it subhanallah, so you do not have to
like "I wonder if Allah forgave me?"
the only thing you should wonder is was my
apology and was my
seeking of forgiveness sincere?
was it genuine? was it
heartfelt? if it was then you have your answer
=Abdullah: and then you still have to deal with the people around
yeah, you have to deal with the consequences and all of that
and that's easy because once you have Allah's forgiveness then
Allah makes dealing with the consequences easy
because now Allah is on your side
when you have not sought Allah's forgiveness then you do not have Allah
on you side because you abandoned him
apologize to him first, and then, yes, you will have to deal
with the wrong you have done to other people
but he will help you deal with it, he will help you make right
out of the wrong
as best you possibly can
so people like that should
have hope insha'Allah
and you know, be encouraging and kinda slip things here and there
don't give up on people like that,
and do not let them kinda
fade away because usually when they get depressed like that
they stop showing up to play ball or whatever and
you do not see then anymore
and you are like I wonder what happened
and you hear even more messed up things about them, you know
so kind of stay in touch
maybe drop a text message kinda reach out to them just every once in a while
you do not have to give them this lecture
you just kind of like just throw in a few good words of encouragement here and there
and it will help insha'Allah
Thank you very much.
You got it
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