What is a gold-digger? And why do people use this word so much? I feel like this
has become the new word, popularly used by both men and women, instead of calling
someone a "bitch" a "slut" a "whore".. Whatever, people like to
use the word gold-digger. They like to shame women and tell her off basically!
Well, let's figure it all out! Why are people doing this? My name is Anna and I
run an online finishing school called SCHOOL OF AFFLUENCE. It's a program for
women who want to improve themselves to become high caliber women, elegant women,
and the woman who navigates successful in high society. If you want to join us
visit SCHOOLOFAFFLUENCE.COM ... So what is a gold-digger? Let's find out!
Okay, I have made some few notes here.. I had to Google this, of course, to give you
the exact definition. Because you know what? I've noticed that people have their
own definition of gold-digger. Some people think that "just because you have
rich friends" = you're a gold digger! Other people think that "just because you
don't want to pay the bill as a woman in a restaurant when you're on a date with
a man" = you're a gold digger! I think both is absolutely crazy!! But the whole point
that I'm trying to make is that, people have so many different variations and
perceptions of the word gold digger, so let's just quickly find out what it
actually means? Gold digger: A woman who forms
relationships with men purely to obtain money or gifts from them. Okay, so as I
understand it, it's ONLY if you want to have some material gain from them.
Another one, Someone who only likes people because of how much money they
have or because of the items they own. Again, we have this word ONLY. So as I
understand after googling around, it seems that according to dictionaries and
so on, the word gold digger stands for when women are ONLY interested in the
material or the monetary gain of somebody. I can understand the negative
associations with the word gold digger. If it's all about using and abusing
somebody, I do not believe in that myself. I don't think that we should use and
abuse anyone, as much as (we don't like when) men using women for sex. I don't think
women should use and abuse men for money. However, how come in our society
it's SO accepted for man to treat women as sex objects, YET - it's so incredibly
taboo and forbidden for a woman to somehow have a financial interest in the
man. SHE cannot have financial interest in a man, but a MAN can have sexual
interest in a woman. And why I'm mentioning these things is because
genetically speaking, men and women are wired differently research has proven.
Biologically speaking, we were designed this way for the survival of the
offspring. A woman needs to really take into account who she meets with, because
that increases the survival rates (or decreases) of her children. A man who can
offer the woman financial security, a man who can provide, a man who have some form
of status in the jungle. Now that's going to be a high survival rate for her
children, obviously a woman is going to take that into account and actually
prioritize it. This is written in our genetics, in our biology, in the millions
of years of DNA programming. Now men on the other hand, they're not driven by
this type of instinct because their instinct is to impregnate as many women
as possible because that has a higher chance of survival for their offspring.
For this reason, men are very much sexually orientated, the same way a woman
perhaps is more financially orientated than a man, but a man can get away with
being sexually orientated! How come, HOW UNFAIR is that in our society it's like
if a man sleeps around, he gets a pat on his back. But if a woman sleeps around: oh...
She is a slut, she is this, she's that! Anything to shame a woman! Now this is
something that I'm very tired of, and for that reason I make videos like this on
my channel to raise awareness because I think we all should start thinking about
exactly what happens when we call a woman a gold digger!
Should we really promote this misogynistic hate? I know my values, I
know what I stand for. I know that I'm not using and abusing anyone. I value the
romantic side in a relationship as much as I value the materialistic and
financial aspect. Both are equally important to me, and yes you can have
both in today's society! But what really frustrates me is how this word is being
used against women, and how it actually has an impact on women. I see it also in
my community. Women who are laying low with their interest in luxury lifestyle
because society are judging them and labeling them and that is unfair, and
that is against any form of feminism in my opinion! But where does this whole
misogynistic trend come from? The word gold-digger comes, of course, originally
from men. It comes from men who do not appreciate
women, who perhaps hate women. It comes from men who get triggered by
the higher standards of a woman that they cannot live up to!
It's basically broke guys, who cannot afford this type of women. So they start
creating this whole Gold Digger trend and in their way to try and control a woman
and somehow dominate a woman. This comes from dominating someone, to
push someone down, to put someone in their place, into the corner! Shaming a
woman by calling her a gold digger, is the man's, and also the society's - it's a way
of controlling her, it's a way of telling her that "You! Don't come and think that
you're somebody! Go back to your place!" That's basically what this gold digger
word is communicating to us. A woman is not allowed in this world, to be true to
her instincts the same way a man can be true to his sexual desires. A woman is
forbidden to have a desire for financial gain or status gain. Sadly these
misogynistic men get backup from our fellow women. Oh yes, us women we are
doing an amazing job backstabbing each other.
Which is something I really, really hope and pray for, that one day maybe we can
act more like sisters instead of predators. I believe we should hold each
other's backs instead of taking the side of men. Now I know this stems from
competitiveness. Women can be awfully jealous and competitive with each other.
So that's actually a way of controlling other women, by calling her gold digger,
by shaming her for having these types of interests. But more so often, do I notice
that actually these women who use this name-calling and call other women for
gold diggers, they are sadly enough just programmed by society, brainwashed
by thinking that a woman has absolutely no right to have this type of preference,
this type of interest. That she's a bad person and that they should do a
witch-hunt against her. The word gold digger has become a modern-day witch
hunt, as they did in history, burning all these women. They're doing the same thing
but but by bullying somebody emotionally and calling her gold digger! And lastly,
we have to also think about WHY does this upset people so much if a woman has
financial interest in a man, if a woman is benefiting financially from a man, if
a woman has a preference that she wants to be part of high society, she
wants to change her class from middle class to upper class. Why is it so
triggering to people? Why do people get so upset that a woman wants to do this
and has this interest? Because money triggers a lot of strong emotions in
people. Money is actually a very strong emotion in itself, because money
represents all kinds of different emotions in people. We have a lot of
things that are operating in our subconscious that we're not even aware
of! So money becomes a very very strong
heavily loaded emotion. But what I don't understand is why do other people care
so much what people do with their lives? Why don't people focus more on their own life
and perhaps improving it and becoming a better version of themselves? And maybe
go to counseling and maybe heal some issues? Perhaps WHY these issues are
triggering the person to feel all these strong emotions? One thing is to have a
different opinion but another thing is to have very strong emotions about
something. Not everyone has to have financial interest in a man. The same way
not every man has to be sexually obsessed, right? People are different! Some
people have a very high sex drive, some people have a very high financial drive!
People are different! Let them do whatever they want without judging. Let
us be who we are, we're not killing anyone...
We are just staying true to what we believe in, to what we desire and we are
not ashamed of having a man provide for us! And if that is a problem for you then
maybe you should think about why you have such a big problem with this? I have
more videos on this topic, so please do go and check them out I have loads of
interesting content about high society on this channel. But before I leave you, I
want to say one last thing... If you're a woman who want to have a financially secure
partner: You're not a gold digger! You are just staying true to instincts, so never
let society or anyone tell you that you're wrong! See you in the next video!