Hi Everyone! Welcome back to my channel, this is Bonnie with By Bonnie Jewelry, where I talk about
all things diamonds! Okay, so today's episode is gonna be....different! We're not gonna be talking
about diamond specific, we're actually gonna tell you how to plan the perfect proposal! I feel like
this is a topic that you know...I basically talk to all my clients that are sitting with me as soon
as I hand them the ring I'm like...okay, how how are you gonna do it? What's the plan? "...We're back there..."
It does get a little...stressful...the word is stressful! I feel like every time it's
like..."Oh, I don't know...should I do this? Should I complicate it? Should I keep it simple? Private..." All
these questions that you might have...so today we're gonna break it down step by step on how to do it perfectly!
Step #1: Before you plan anything...are you both ready for marriage? I know
this is totally you know...not part of like an actual proposal planning but think about if
both parties are ready to get right..."now pronounce you two people who might realize they've made an
unfortunate mistake in about 3 years..." because I feel like sometimes I would get inquiries or
DMs whereas just one partner you know... designing their dream ring but the other partner is not...
it's totally not ready...."...No! God! Please no no no..." and we're just like...when is that happening and
so I feel like having a conversation you know...an open conversation..."Hey! Do you...do you want to
marry me?...but like just the basic question...Are you looking to have a long-term relationship?
Are you looking to have children? Those type of things...I feel like should be talked about openly!
Marriage is way beyond just you know...like holding hands...there's so many things once you get married...
like you know...financial planning, like do you get along...do you get along with the in-laws...like can
you not kill each other inside a cabin for 7 days and you're not leaving..."...Hate your face...my face...
I hate your face....oh you hate my face...it's just your face...I hate it!..." I think that would be a really
good trick or a test to find out... Step #2: Ask his or her parents for their blessing
"...Just very nervous....I uh the point is...I'm in love with your daughter and would like to marry her...please...."
Iit's optional but it is important you know... it's...it's respectful to ask...I'll give you my
personal story, I think we did it kind of backwards.... I think my...he had already proposed to me and then
we were like..."Oh we forgot to ask for permission...!" and then because I've been so independent my
whole life, so it's like...I'm gonna get married... I'm gonna get married you know...whether you like
it or not...so I feel like it's really up to you if you want to ask for permission but I do feel
like it is a respectful thing to ask parents for permission Step #3: Pick the perfect ring
Okay, and I say this of course in every single one of my video.... it's really important to...I would
say involve your partner...okay, I mean these days is really like...there are so many options....moissanite,
lab grown, natural....there are just infinite options for engagement ring and some people don't even
want a gemstone...they don't even want an engagement ring...they might just go on and go straight for a
wedding band...I've done all that, so involving your partner in the ring shopping process is extremely
important! Number 1...it validates your first point..."...I'd say more like one out of a million..."
"...So you're telling me there's a chance...YEEEAH"
So if the other person is involved, that gives you confidence if you're going to pay so
much money to put in a piece of ring you want to know that the other person is committed...right!
So involving the other partner for a ring...if you don't know how to get started
on looking at rings, what budget is set, what rings to get...binge watch my channel! I have
rings in all shapes and different styles, that I talk about the craftsmanship and center stone...
but in general if you wanted to be a complete surprise...maybe go for classic round you know...
that's you know...definitely something that you can't really go wrong...unless there's somebody
like me.. that's very opinionated, that wants things a certain way...then yeah involve them, get
the ring finger size you know...ask sister, mother, anybody in the family to help you out with that...
I also have a different video, that teaches you how to find finger size...make sure you watch that video!
Consider the 4 C's, the settings, metal, the budget...all of those are going to be important!
But I feel like getting a the basic idea of style would be important...then you know if you
don't have a budget...I know I get emails people are like..."Oh, I don't have a budget..." Everybody has
a budget, okay! Like whether it's you know... $5k... $10k....$20k....$100k.....
$1 million dollars....everybody has a limit! So, setting that up is gonna be really important
because if you ask any jeweler..."Hey I want a ring..." They're gonna wanna ask you...it's like walking to a
car dealership be like..."Excuse me! I want a car... Okay Sir or Ma'am...What kind of car do you want?" They're
gonna ask you...you want a SUV...you want a sedan... you want you know 4 seats....6 seats...all those
is very similar to ring shopping, okay...that would be really important, I talked about finger size
already...plan ahead! Oh my God! I can't stress this more! Everyone's like you know...emailing me a week
before Christmas..."I want a ring tomorrow...I want to propose..." Plan ahead! Right now it's like you know...if
you order furniture, they're telling me the wait is like 9 months for...you know bed frame or
couch....whatever whatever it's not in stock...with the shortage that we have right now, with the situation
the world is going through...definitely plan ahead! I would say minimum 10 to 12 weeks ahead anything
you do, just so that if you're gonna go through a custom design process you know...picking a stone
picking a ring...all of that takes time and then making it and finishing it and making sure that
there's no other further touches to go...10 to 12 weeks minimum! Write it down! Keep the ring secure
before proposal...meaning like don't get the ring and then start like showing it to...I mean there's a
funny commercial... I think James Allen does it...like you're gonna show it to your mom, your grandma, your
brother...yes show it to everyone but...inside the box! Don't get your greasy, dirty finger on the diamond!
because you want that moment to be sparkly Item #4 or step 4: Pick a date okay and that
is really important because if you're gonna book any type of photographers, you're gonna book any
type of venue, anyone or any invite any friends to come over after for a surprise party...nobody
is gonna be able to answer you, unless you give a firm date and a time...so make sure you give a date
that's really important and try to make sure that the date doesn't fall on any type of like random
dates of like...something sad or just think of like what other events could have been happening at
that time...Another tip is you know for those of you who are planning the proposal on like a special
occasion, either a birthday or anniversary if you want it to be a complete mind-blowing surprise
maybe avoid those dates, but if you're like "Oh no... she knows it's coming...like I wanted to be on that
special date..." then choose that but I think those are optional...you know your partner the best
what he or she might like, consider if they want it private or more like..."Oh I want 1000 roses
on the bed of the ocean..." I think personality of your partner is really important to consider! Some
people literally don't want like a flashy proposal... they really want to be intimate, just the 2 of you
But I do think that having possibly a surprise... family or close friends waiting in a separate
location to celebrate that moment because the moment you get engaged the first thing
you want to do is...well nowadays people either show it on social media or just be with your
loved ones and like show off your ring like... "Oh I get engaged!.." It's a happy moment...you really
want to share that! It's definitely something to consider! Another bonus tip is...nail appointment!
This is like so detail-oriented, but nobody really wants to get engaged and show off her ring with
like not so perfect nails, or at least not me... So plan for her to get her nails done or
have a family or a friend help you...say like..."Oh yeah...why don't we go get our nails done together..."
That way at the date, whether or not she's gonna be dressed up or not, at least her nails would be
nice with the ring! And also if you're planning to document this proposal, which is important in my
opinion because there is like literally one time only...or hopefully! Where you're gonna propose
book the photographer or videographer in advance! Plan out where you're gonna be, what
time of day, how light is gonna you know...reflect on your face...if you do it pitch black dark
you know...some lighting is gonna have to be involved for the picture to come
out right, right! So plan all these things ahead...if you're gonna do a destination
proposal...contact the local photographers, those photographers I feel like if they've done
a hundred proposals...they would know like if you go into Hawaii...they would know which corner of which
clip or beach or what time of day would look best for proposal...reach out to them, get price quotes
get timeline, get their availability...ask them for a perfect spot so that will kind of stress you less!
Step #5: Pick the location carefully Okay and the reason why I say this is because
you need to make sure if you're gonna do it indoor or outdoor...what is the lighting gonna be...okay! Like
if it's daylight...that's perfect! If it's well lit or not....one of my clients, Karl...he told me
that he was going to Vegas and he was going to propose in like...a lantern like in the desert...
and I was like..."Oh, okay...it's a lantern festival... so there's no light except for the lantern..." So I
was like okay...so when he proposes then there's gonna be...we can't see the ring...there's no light...
So I told him to buy an LED ring box off of Amazon...so that when he opens the box...
There's gonna be a light shining bright..."...shine bright like a diamond..."...on the diamond and of course after
he proposed he thanked me..."Bonnie the box was a hit!..." I was like..."Oh what about the ring? Oh the ring was
a hit! but the box was also really a hit!" So make sure that if it's you know...wherever you are the
environment is lit! Make a reservation if you're gonna do it at a restaurant or any type of event...
place, date again...date and time if you don't have those you cannot book anything! Also double
check the weather and the time of the day...if it's going to be raining...if it's going to be windy...
you know, if you're going to climb on top of a mountain...is it...is going to be blowing wind, where
all her hair is going to be all over her face... consider that and also accessibility! So like if
you're gonna have friends and family to hide...okay, if it's an open space with nowhere to hide like...
you gotta make sure that...they're you know... how everything's gonna play out, those detail matter!
Think about all these things like...how people are gonna get there...what type of transportation
they're gonna use...how many people are gonna be there...all these are details to consider and
lastly on the outdoor side...make sure it's clear of public foot traffic! Does that make sense...? Like if
you're going to be in the middle of the streets of New York...hustle bustle...you know that there's going
to be a million people around and if you're going to take pictures, there's going to be a million
stranger in your photo. Think about how you want a photo to look like....there are actually services
out there, that are like...I don't...I don't know it's called like...Instagrams proposals set up...I don't
know..someone told me about it, where they actually come and do like an Instagram perfect backdrop
for you, where you know...they have all the signs that says "Marry me" and the roses and everything...
So I think there are actually services out there, that people provide depending on the
city that you're in...so if you're a guy that's like..."Okay, I don't have time to plan all this...
....I just want to you know...show up, here's the ring..." Look into services like that, that could help you!
Step #6: Practice what you're gonna say to your significant other before...before you actually
get on the knee...okay! I'm not saying to write like a 50 page essay wedding vow...I'm just saying like...
if you're gonna marry someone...what you're gonna say...is it gonna be from your heart like... you're
gonna put something simple together, practice it... look at the mirror...I know it's kind of awkward but
it's important! Keep it simple...you know don't elaborate too much because you're gonna be on the knee...
You've been kneeling for an hour, so practice what you're gonna say a little bit ahead...that will
help you smooth out the entire proposal! Last but not least...the big moment...okay! The time when
everything is like...okay...photographer ready...you know everything's perfect... #7: Don't over complicate
the planning...okay! Everything that I listed above... I will tell you...the perfect proposal should look
something like...a decent location, well lit... whatever situation it is and don't plan like you know...
a circus behind you...because I think that would be really hard to pull off...because that you would
get really stressed out on like...how many things to execute, but of course if you're elaborate type of
person...you can do all the planning but I think try to keep it a little simpler, avoid you know...
proposing in the water, where your ring is gonna fall into the water or anywhere, where you're gonna
be in the snow or the sand, where your ring...you could get nervous, drop it and not find it...but
when the moment comes, we're gonna actually get on the knee...take a deep breath and do everything sloooow!
And when I say slow...I really mean slow! Because if you're gonna document this and you're
gonna just like...like...will you marry me....like awkward.... nobody's gonna be able to capture like all those moments...
So if you're gonna...slowly get on the knee... slowly pull out the ring...slowly take a deep breath...
and get the box open...keep your position for a few minutes, so whoever's documenting this can take
so many good photos of you...of course share the big news and one thing is...consider where you're
gonna put the ring box...Oh my God! This is like the biggest thing...because ring box generally is like...
you know...this big and it's like...you don't want it to be sticking...because guys don't wear
purses or immerse...you might be wearing a backpack whatever...but like the moment where
you're gonna surprise like...where are you gonna put the box...right! So there are flatter boxes
that you can buy on the internet, that can help you...you know plan for that but keep that in
mind and if you are traveling...do not put this ring in your suitcase, that's being transported
like in the back of the plane...because what if your luggage get lost you know...definitely put it close
to you, in your jacket or...but until the big surprise come leave it in the box, do not put it
in something, where it could bend the ring in... you know...your bag of things you know...keep it in
a hard surface on the outside to protect the ring! I think I've covered most of everything
to plan a perfect proposal! The biggest thing is take a deep breath...you love each other and enjoy
the moment because it's very short! Once you plan all that...it's like..."Will you marry me? YES!" and that's it!
Enjoy the moment! Thank you so much for watching my video, I hope you liked it! If you enjoyed it make
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I show you lots of good diamonds and teach you lots of things...I'll see you in my next episode...bye!