Brooklyn says he goes to Brittney
because of her trust issues.
Have another one of her ghosts joining us
on the phone today.
He wants to remain anonymous, which I respect.
So are you there?
Hey, Doc, I'm here.
Thank you for joining us, I really appreciate it.
So how many times did you date Brittney?
It was brief, we met one time at a party,
you know, said it was like a little kickback
at, you know, a mutual friend's house.
And we hung out just a little bit at the party
and after that, we texted for a while
and it kinda just ended shortly after that.
We didn't really do dates, you know, get to that point.
Yeah, you said her text messages were a red flag to you.
What was the problem?
Oh, man, it was like a number of them, Doc.
Oh, my God. It was kinda like
the back-to-back text messaging
before I can even respond to one.
And it just seemed like a lot of pressure
being put in those text messages initially.
Right, so you felt she was a little aggressive?
Very much so, very much so.
Right, so what words of advice would you have for her?
Since, I mean, just being honest,
you're not gonna see her again, she's not gonna see you.
If you were just trying to, like, be a brother
and give her advice to help her, what would it be?
I would honestly say, you know, Brittney,
I think, you know, you are a good-looking young woman.
You know, you do have, from what I've, you know, seen,
you have a good head on your shoulders.
I would say, as young people,
we kinda have this vision in our head
of what things should look like
and we have a timeline of when we should get it.
But I think just live life.
Like, learn people and enjoy them for who they are.
And if, you know, the chemistry is there, it's there.
Yeah, that's ... (audience applauds)
That's pretty good advice.
What do you think about what he's saying?
It's really good advice.
Yes, I wish he would follow his own advice.
Let me get some other advice and input here.
Matthew's joining us.
Matthew Hussey has the number one
YouTube channel in the world
for dating and relationship advice for women.
His advice reaches over eight million followers weekly
and his YouTube videos have been viewed a few times.
300 million to be exact.
He says he's concerned with Brittney's self-worth issues.
Matthew, what do you think here?
We always have to be aware
of the language that we're using.
'Cause you asked, do you have a girlfriend?
You also presumably don't want him to be an ax murderer.
But you don't say, by the way,
are you an ax murderer?
Right.
So then why is it that you say that?
It's because you've been burned on that in the past.
Now the problem with that is you're telegraphing it
to the exact person you wanna attract.
It's kinda like in a dating profile
when someone says, no hookups.
That doesn't invite people who don't wanna hook up.
All it does is show your scars.
It says, this has been my problem in the past.
And I'm now telegraphing it to the world.
So you're telegraphing all of your insecurities
right off the bat.
Here's my concern: you get shown a little interest
and then you go all in based on a little interest.
Yeah.
Your standard has to be higher than that.
It does, I know that.
That's like you going out.
(audience applauds)
That's like, it's like you leaving your house
and someone says, I like your house
and you go, well, here's a key.
Oh, my God.
Why, someone doesn't get a key to your house
just because they said you have a nice house.
Now, closure, I want you to hear this over and over again,
closure is overrated, okay?
Disinterest is closure.
When someone ghosts you, that's the closure.
Because in my life, I always, always follow the principle,
I never invest in someone based on how much I like them.
I invest in someone based on how much they invest in me.
That's good.
(audience applauds)
Okay, I'll leave you with this thought.
I'll leave you with this thought.
Robin says this all the time.
Don't burn daylight chasing the wrong one
because the right one won't run.
That's good. And you'll know it
when you feel it.
The right one won't run.