Hey guys something that I talk about often is
Positive self-talk, right? I talked a lot about affirmations
I talked a lot about practicing how to love yourself and like what all that stuff means and I always say, you know
The more you do it the easier it gets something with this work that people don't often understand because they want to avoid pain
Right. We're almost programmed to avoid the bad feelings and just embrace the good and just always want to feel good is
that this work is a continuous practice it is I
Still do the work every single day to make sure that mentally I'm in a good space emotionally
I'm in a good space
learning how to parent myself like learning how to have inner dialogue learning how to not suppress when I'm feeling learning how to
be honest with myself
Learning how to motivate myself and it's up its up and down, you know, I'm human. I'm not perfect
I'm never going to be but this is about learning life skills
so the importance of what I do I'm trying to teach is
These life skills and understanding that
Practicing this stuff, right?
Mastering the stuff being the master of your destiny
And creating your life and blah blah blah all of the stuff that we talk about is
About learning these skills and practicing these skills every single day work
seems hard for people or people get very overwhelmed with it is because
they haven't I
Don't say they haven't started this work, but they haven't
Dedicated every single day to waking up to saying I'm going to do this work. I'm going to take responsibility for my life
I'm gonna take responsibility for how I feel I'm gonna get up every day and
I'm not gonna suppress what I'm feeling
I'm gonna wake up every day and I'm gonna choose the thoughts that I want to thank and
Look, the reality is in the beginning. It is uncomfortable. You're going to be uncomfortable
It's gonna be a lot of hard work in the beginning because you're training you're creating a new muscle
You haven't learned these skills at all. So it's just like riding a bike
It's just like learning anything that you can do
Now that goes that is very easy for you to do at one point
it was easy for you to do and you had to fight through all of the pain all of the
Uncomfortableness that you had to go through in order to learn the skill or learn whatever it was that you can do now
That's very very easy to you. In order to elevate yourself as a human being right in order to grow so
Pain equals growth or growth equals pain, whatever it is that you want to say, but you have to start doing the work
Don't welcome the pain
I always say welcome the pain because if you don't welcome it number one
It's gonna be there regardless so you can either fear it and run from it, or you can welcome it and learn from it
So that's the choice that you have as a human being you get to choose am I gonna face it and here's the thing
Anything that you're struggling with you're strong enough then you think to face it
Most people don't want to face it because they're scared of what it is that they're feeling
Remember your feelings come from your thoughts. That just is point blank, whatever it is that you're feeling right now
It's based on a thought you were thinking now
Your if your thoughts create your feelings then you want your thoughts to be what good thoughts hopeful thoughts positive thoughts
Are we gonna always have positive thoughts throughout every single day and every single moment? No, because life happens and shitty situations happen and
Life, we can't avoid pain and suffering. We can't avoid that things are gonna happen in our lives that are gonna hurt us
Right, and we have to be able to deal with the suffering and deal with the pain
But it is a choice. So it's almost like you have to feel it
You have to deal with it and then you have to release it. You can't stay stuck in it
I think people stay stuck in it it is because they have a
Projection or they have an idea as what life is supposed to look like life's supposed to look like this
I'm not supposed to be
48 and never been married. I'm supposed to do this or I should have this much money by now
Or I should be here in life
And that's not where happiness lies because if you go off of that that that's what your happiness is
You're always going to be disappointed and you're filling
Bottomless, you're just filling a hole with no bottom underneath like it's never going to fill you up
you're gonna get everything you want and you're still not gonna be happy like basic base stuff and every, you know,
You might look at this or listen to this and think wow, that seems very, you know, it's so simple, but it's so hard
It's not it's not hard at all happiness is in this moment
This is this is your happiness right here because quite frankly, this is all you have you don't
You know if you have tomorrow and you can't think about yesterday because it's gone like what are you gonna do about it?
There's nothing you can do about yesterday. So all your happiness is is in this moment. So when you practice being in the moment of
everything that you're doing and it is a
practice and it's hard because you have an ego you have a mind that was created to distract you to avoid pain like and
You know
It's going a mile a minute and we're thinking all these thoughts in every single moment like it is a practice
It is a muscle that you're constantly working you to say. Okay, let me get back to this moment
Alright when I'm starting to get nervous or anxious, let me stay in this moment
What in this moment do I need to feel nervous or anxious about in this moment? What do I need to fear right now?
What do we need to worry about right now? Nothing?
It's about trying to get back to that childlike state where you were just in the moment living life and happy