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you
how much is fair play into preventing us
from grasping perspective though I don't
know fear is everything yeah like if if
there's if there was one concept that I
would suggest to people to take a daily
confrontation with is fear the the
problem with fear is that it lies right
so fear tells you hey you know if if you
say that to that girl she's gonna know
she has you you know and she'll never
really be attracted to you if she knows
how much you attracted to her don't say
that know how we get her is when she
walks by ignore her Oh beer tells you
dumb [ __ ] like that you know you know
for me the the daily confrontation with
fear has become a real practice for me
since about 3 or 3 years ago I went I
went skydiving in Dubai right and
skydiving skydiving is a really
interesting confront with fear right so
so I guess I gotta stand all right so so
all your friends what happens you go out
how you oh sorry all right got my thing
so what happens is you go out the night
before and you you know you take a drink
with your friends and somebody says yeah
we should go skydiving tomorrow and you
go yeah we'll go skydiving oh yeah yeah
yeah right and you go home but you by
yourself you like mmm
right you're like well I mean they was
drunk too right so so maybe maybe they
not maybe maybe I mean we don't have to
go we don't have to do it so then that
night you're laying in your bed and you
just keep and you're terrified you keep
imagining over and over again jumping
out of an airplane and you can't figure
out why you would do that right and
you're laying there and you have the
worst night's sleep of your life but you
still have the hope that your friends
we're drunk right so you wake up the
next day and you go you know down and
you say where you were going to meet and
everybody's there you're like oh [ __ ]
all right all right cool cool cool cool
cool cool right so you get in the van
and you don't know that your friends had
the same night that you had cuz they're
pretended like they didn't it like yeah
man my uncle is a Navy SEAL and you know
this is gonna be great I've been looking
forward to this you like oh my god oh my
god and your stomach is terrible you
can't eat and everything but you don't
want to be the only punk who doesn't
jump out of this airplane so you get
there and then you have this safety
brief and you're standing there and the
guys that tell you what the chute
doesn't open what's going to happen is
you're doing you a lot of help with what
could happen that the chute the chute
wouldn't open right so you do a thing
and what you do is your first jump
you're attached to a guy who is going
you know he's gonna walk you out so you
go and you get there and there's an
airplane and nobody's stopping
everybody's still going so you get onto
their airplane and you're sitting there
and and you know it's extra because
you're sitting on some dudes lap some
stranger you sit on his lap and it's not
you know you got trying to make small
talk yeah man
so you deal UV you be jumping with
people all the time right you know so
and then you just want to make sure you
got you got kids right you got people
you need to see right just want to make
sure he's serious right so you get in
there so everything's normal so you fly
and you go up you go up you go up you go
up to 14,000 feet and you notice there's
a light it's red and it's yellow and
green right so right now the lights red
so then you start thinking at some point
the lights going to go green it but you
don't know what's going to happen right
and you wait and it goes yellow and the
light goes green and somebody opens the
door and in that moment you realize
you've never been in a freaking airplane
with the door open right terror go sorry
I'm spitting I'm sorry terror terror
terror terror right so you go and then
you know if you're if you were smart you
sat in the back so you don't go first
right and then people start going out of
the airplane and you go and the guy
walks you up to the end of the thing and
you're standing and your toes are on the
edge and you're looking out down to
death and they say on three and they say
one two and he pushes you on to because
people grab on three right and you go
and you fall out of the airplane and in
one second you realize that it's the
most blissful experience of your life
you're flying right it doesn't feel like
falling right it's like that you
actually are kind of held a little bit
by the wind and then you start and you
you start falling you falling and you
there's zero fear you realize that the
point of maximum danger is the point of
minimum fear it's bliss it's bliss and
you're flying
right and you're doing it and then 20
seconds 25 seconds 40 seconds and you
have enough time to just kind of like ah
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that much right you start doing all that
and the the lesson for me was why were
you scared in your bed the night before
why did you what do you need that fear
for just don't go why are you scared in
your bed 16 hours before you jump why
are you scared in the car why could you
not enjoy breakfast what would what did
you need that the fear is fear of what
you're nowhere to even near the airplane
everything up to the stepping out
there's actually no reason to be scared
it only just ruins your day you're you
don't have to jump and then in that
moment all of a sudden where you should
be terrified is the most blissful
experience of your life and God placed
the best things in life on the other
side of terror on the other side of your
maximum fear or all of the best things
in life you know so that was out sorry
so there are thousand yeah that was that
was my experience with with skydiving
and fear practically speaking but I
didn't like that take I'm gonna do it
again back to the I can sell that better
I can tell them to do something like
that like how does it work practically
do you call your wife and be like I
might be dead tomorrow right no but
that's what I know just promise
yeah yeah I made a drunk promise yeah
how about this so I jumped I had such a
mystical powerful spiritual experience
I flew home and got my sons and I went
back and ten days later my son's jumped
right now that was a little different
how to say that makes me stand out ready
because I'm scared I'm scared right so
it was one so Jaden went first right
Jaden wants to do everything first so
I'm sitting there and I'm like yeah my
sons are gonna have this crazy
experience and then Jaden went out of
the airplane I was like him then my
oldest son Trey goes up and he goes out
of the airplane and I was like this
could potentially be the worst display
of african-american parenting in history
I was like both my sons just fell out of
an airplane
jump jump right because I told him to
and that but again the fear again I was
like oh my god so I told the dude I was
like listen I want to see them go out
but I also want to see them land and
he's like no it was cool so this time we
went out and we did the straight bullet
and I just went straight down past them
good right did the bullish straight pass
pull the chute late concise makes me
spit I'm sorry I'm sorry
pulled the chute late landed and then
videoed them coming down but it was like
they had the same thing the same
experience with the fear but that I'm
telling you the confrontation with fear
is an absolute magical way of facing the
things we have to do in this life you
know forget security live for experience
right so with that every every morning
when I when I get out of the bed you
know I I haven't fixed everything in the
world yet so there's always something to
do and in this film I read an
interesting quote for the Siddhartha
Gautama the Buddha he said that good
people have to get out of the bed every
day and try to empty the ocean with a
ladle right and I thought that was you
know I knew that was profound and I
paused for a second and I said all right
what the hell is a ladle right right so
there you know I just I touched it on my
iPad is ladle oh it's like a big spoon a
big spoon okay so trying to empty the
ocean with a soup spoon you know as the
the mentality of how you you wake up
every day to try to do good in the world
so for me I'm really driven by
continually trying to elevate my elevate
my mind and elevate my spirit and care
for my body and to be able to love as
many people as effectively as as
possible with this mystery of life that
I've been given
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