- What if the more you would let go
is the more you would then let in.
And this for many people is the missing key
to easily and effortlessly
attracting what they want in their life
because they are trying to wire something in,
they're trying to create something by thinking
of something or feeling something
or even taking action,
but they haven't identified
what they must let go of
in order to get,
or in order to just be in the vibration
of allowing that thing in.
This was a game changer for me
when I learned this back in,
I'd say about a year and a half ago.
I really started to touch on this.
And it was so counterintuitive.
Because I was like,
"Well, if thoughts create your reality,
"then just think about what you want."
However,
I would think about what I want,
but I would have these attachments.
That's what really letting go is.
It's about letting go of attachments.
There's something you must let go of
in order to allow in
that which you want.
Think of it like you want to buy more clothes
and you want to be able to wear those clothes,
but you have so many old clothes in your closet
that there is no room for it.
So you have clothes from when you were two,
you have clothes from when you were 15,
you have clothes that people gave you
that you never wear.
And you have a closet full of clothes,
most of what you don't wear
or isn't productive
and you're not gonna use it anymore.
Now, you want to bring in more clothes,
but instead of bringing in clothes
and realizing once you bring in the clothes,
there's no room for it,
the key to this
is first off clearing out the clothes
that you're no longer gonna wear.
It's letting go
to then allow in,
to then let in.
I know that any time there's something
I wanna create in my life
and I'm feeling blocked with it,
there's something I got to let go of.
Imagine you wanna attract love into your life,
but imagine that you haven't let go
of either a past relationship
or you haven't let go of a limiting belief
around relationships
or maybe you haven't let go of resentment
that you have towards your dad or your mom,
your parenting growing up.
This is just a side note in general,
I've been doing a lot of shadow work
and looking into this
over the last couple of weeks.
And your relationship with your mom
and your relationship with your dad
directly affects so many different areas
of your life,
and is propelling a certain attachment style.
So if you find that you're anxious in love
or you're blocking out love
and you're avoidant,
it's either anxious or avoidant normally,
then you're either leaning in
because you felt like
you didn't feel that nurturing
or you had some emotional unavailability going on
when you were growing up
and you may have some resentment
or abandonment around that.
And in the same way,
that is affecting many different areas of your life.
I was reading recently,
there was this book
and it was talking about
different patterns from childhood.
And one of the things it said
is if you had a feeling of emotional abandonment
growing up,
you probably get really triggered
when people are 10, 20, 30 minutes late.
It's because it's triggering that abandonment.
And I resonated with that
because let me tell you
that when people are 20 minutes late
or late in general
or don't show up,
I get triggered by it.
Well, really it's triggering an abandonment wound.
Here's the crazy thing though.
When we're talking about love and relationships,
people abandon themselves to attract love.
They will change themselves
or people please or something
to then attracting love,
which is an inauthentic expression of love.
But it's because growing up,
feeling emotional abandonment,
you had to abandon yourself
and then try to get the attention
to get your needs met of somebody else.
And you started feeling lonely.
So to attract love,
it's not about just thinking about the love
and thinking about the most amazing relationship
you could be in
and feeling it as if it were here now.
It's more so about changing and letting go
of either the resentment that you might have,
letting go of the blame that you might have,
letting go of the limiting beliefs you might have,
in order to then allow that in.
If you were to just focus on this one thing,
it would change everything.
Focus on what you must let go of
to attract what you want.
To let in what you want.
And let it be natural for you.
If you're attached to the outcome
and you put it on a pedestal,
you vibrationally separate yourself from it.
When I look at my old,
I was working a nine to five job
I didn't like,
I had to let go of a self-image of myself
and I had to let go of this story of,
"I work this nine to five job.
"This is how much I get paid."
And I had to let that go.
And then I could wire in
making daily videos on YouTube.
But I had to also let go of the comforts
that came with that job.
There was a comfort that I got
from working a nine to five job
selling women's shoes,
getting paid 60, $70,000 a year.
Wearing a suit to work every day,
even though it was slow.
I had to let go of that vision,
that story.
We all have stories about love.
We all have stories about money.
We all have stories about life.
And a lot of times your stories about life
are directly related to your relationship
with your parents.
So healing that is ideal
for attracting in anything.
Let go and realize your parents were doing
the best they could with what they had.
And if you remember,
sometimes we do this thing
where we only remember certain parts
of our past or childhood,
and we kind of neglect out the good stuff.
I've been focused more on
the things I appreciate about my parents.
And as I do that,
I feel that it's changing my own energy
and it's changing my own sense of self worthiness.
And I'm not abandoning myself.
And it's just a completely different energy.
But when you're talking about the big three
are obviously,
love, health and abundance.
Many of you may wanna check
love, health or abundance.
And the key to this
is realizing and recognizing
what belief do you have to let go of
and what attachment do you have to let go of
in order to allow it in.
Some of you may want to attract a relationship
into your life,
but you're so attached to the story
of past relationships
that your closet is full
and there's no space for anything new.
It's like a dog that's holding onto
a chewed up bone that's run its course.
And it wants another bone,
but it keeps fumbling
because it won't just let go of this one
to then get the other.
And let's talk for a second about letting go.
Letting go is a natural point
of a choice that you make.
You're letting go of the known.
That's what letting go is.
You're letting go of what you think you know.
Sometimes what you know though,
isn't even ideal.
It's just that you become comfortable with it
and you're afraid that in the unknown
is the lack of what you want.
So think about that.
You have this thing that you're attached to,
you're attached to this job,
and you're afraid to let it go
because if you let it go,
you're letting go off the comfort,
the money that's coming in.
And the only thing that is hard
is the choice to let it go.
It's not hard to let it go.
The letting go is a choice.
You have reasons that attach you to that thing
that make you feel fearful of letting it go.
The attachments are that it's comfortable,
it's known,
it's familiar.
It's bringing you this kind of security in your life.
And what you're really afraid of,
as they say that some people are afraid of the unknown,
you're not really afraid of the unknown.
You're afraid of the loss of the known.
Because what you know is comfortable.
That's a Anthony de Mello quote, by the way.
I didn't come up with that quote.
But you are afraid of the loss of the known.
And all magic happens in the unknown.
All magic happens in the unknown.
Stepping into what actually scares you a little bit.
And that's because what scares you
is what's gonna get you out of that box.
So when you step into the unknown,
you allow new opportunities
and new things to let in.
But you can't let anything in
when you're thinking the same thoughts every day,
feeling the same emotions every day,
and doing the same things every day.
You're gonna continue to get the same reality.
The key to this
is realizing you're afraid of losing this
because it feels comfortable and familiar,
but it's letting go of the stories
that attach you to this.
It's letting go of the reasons
of why it's so comfortable.
And that it's making the choice
to then wire in something exciting and new
knowing that you're then gonna allow in
something even more magical
than you can even imagine right now.
But a lot of this too is letting go
of the childhood trauma
you may have gone through.
Really going into that inner child healing.
And if you didn't know,
I have a free meditation.
It's on healing your inner child.
We energetically go to Kauai, Hawaii.
And we heal our own inner child.
It's completely free.
Go to AaronDoughty.com/child,
C-H-I-L-D.
And that'll take you to the page
for the free child meditation.
And listen to that for 21 days
and watch what happens.
And I'll also linked that below.
But realize that this process for you
of letting,
and manifesting in general
is people are always focused on what they want
but they haven't cleared their subconscious,
or they haven't healed the energy
that is keeping them trapped
in this old reality.
The key is to let go.
Let go to let in.
If you let go of a limiting belief around money,
which is also normally tied to your parents.
It's not your parents' fault, by the way.
Your parents were doing the best they could.
And they normally adopted those
from their environment
and from their parents.
It's just this trickle-down ancestry thing.
So if you wanna heal,
it's about forgiving
and realizing your love
and the connection that you have.
And as you do that,
you're going to begin to feel more whole and complete.
You're gonna stop abandoning yourself.
And you're gonna be yourself
the most authentically.
As I focused more on the letting go
than the wiring in,
I've naturally allowed things to wire in
and you receive easier.
It's easier to receive.
It's just that when people are only
focused on the receiving end of it,
they're just focused on
what can they wire in,
they create resistance around this.
So this is the key.
Let go of the focus on this.
Focus on letting go.
Focus on making the choice to step
out of the known and into the unknown.
What will you have to let go of.
Right now, share below,
what is something you wanna create in your life?
And what do you have to let go of?
What do you feel intuitively guided to let go of
in order to get that thing?
Maybe it's a past relationship.
Maybe it's a past belief that you have.
Maybe it's a belief that money is evil,
whatever it is.
Comment below, declare it.
There's a power to declaring it
that changes everything.
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