Alright. You got asked. Somebody asked you, "Hey can you help me with this?" I got
a project or I got to finish homework or I have a goal. Guess what? You're now the
coach. So how do you coach somebody? Let me walk you through the steps so you can
look good being a coach.
So, your friend calls you or you got something at the office and they just
asked you, "Hey, how do I... How do I get this done? You know, how do I... How do I
accomplish this goal? How do I finish this project?" What just happened there is
you got turned into a coach. And now you get to bring up all your coaching
abilities, right? To help them to be able to accomplish what they want to
accomplish. You know, if you if you have kids, sooner or later, you're going to be
coaching your children of how to get their homework done or how to finish
that project for school. No matter where it's going to come from, sooner or later,
you're going to want to know how to coach someone. So, let me give you some insight
of some very important steps that most people miss. Like they don't even know
about these steps and that's why their ideas their coaching just doesn't work.
So, let's look at this and really analyze what does it take to help somebody move
forward and accomplish what they're sitting out to work on. Now, first off...
First off, does the person really want to finish it? Do they really want to get to
the end? Do they really want to just have it be finished and over and and
they can move on? If they have a desire to finish and have it be complete, it
makes coaching a whole lot easier. So, how do you help somebody get to that place?
What would I like to do is I like to ask them. "What's it going to be like after
you accomplish this goal? What's it going to be like after the project? After the
homework's finished?" So, kids get hung up on homework because all they can see is
homework, homework, homework. And then just homework. But if we can help our kids see
what's it like after homework, you know or you help your friends see what it's
like after they achieve that 10,000 dollars in a month. When people start to
think after the goal, it starts to build some motivation of why they want to
finish the goal. So, I'd like to talk to them about not only what their goal is
but you take it to the next level and talk to them about what it's going to be
like afterwards. Because if we don't have a life after the goal, well what's the
reason of getting the goal? Doesn't make sense, does it? So, there's a
great insight already is talked about the goal, talked about what the goal is.
And then talk about what life is going to be like after it. Boy, you get somebody
think in that direction, you will see them open up and come alive. Okay coach,
here are some other steps that are super important on this person moving forward
and keeping their motivation alive. Education about the goal. I have a goal
that I want to go to Australia and catch a Marlin out of the ocean. For some
reason down there in Australia. The Marlin are gigantic, they're huge. They're
like a thousand twelve hundred pounds. They're just gigantic.
Now, I've caught Marlin now in the ocean before. But a whole lot smaller than
1,200 pounds. So, what keeps me motivated about going to Australia to go catch
these big fish is I read articles about the fishing boats, about the techniques,
about the times of the year. I keep the education coming towards me about my
goal. And as long as I keep reading and studying and learning all the different
parts about what it takes to create this moment, to catch a big fish like that, my
mind stays active. It's when a person loses that activity that they lose
interest. So, whoever you're coaching, line up for
them and ask them what is it that you can do to add some education to yourself
a little bit each day about your goal? A person who studies and learns more about
their goal stays naturally motivated. They don't need to be pushed, they don't
need to be you know, convinced. They don't need to be you know, gotten after to keep
going towards their goal when they keep learning about it. And it's magical
because when they're naturally empowered to do that, that is the magic sauce of
the motivation. Now, empowerment techniques. Every person who's that
trying to achieve something they've never had before, something they've never
done before. Their mind is a little slim and a little low on the power of the
mind to get him there. So what you want to do is help them with some empowerment
techniques. And here's 2 empowerment techniques that you can teach them that
will help empower their mind and the belief that they have in themselves to
accomplish this goal. Number 1, help them come up with 5 power statements.
5 sentences that are about them and about their abilities in going for this
goal. So 5 positive statements. 5 positive statements that they read each
day. These 5 positive statements that they read each day will help convince
and move forward they're thinking about their performance and what they can do.
So, when you empower the mind, it helps progress or helps speed up that progress
towards their goal. Second empowerment technique is to create a goal poster or
a vision board. So, the declarations are the positive statements are to empower
the left side of the mind. The vision board which are pictures of the goal or
pictures of what it's going to be like after the goal. So, a vision board is a
you know, you get like a poster and and you put all these pictures on there of
the goal and what its going to be like after the goal. So, that you can visually
see what it's going to be like. And go search and find all kinds of fun, crazy
pictures and create this collage of pictures of achieving the goal and what
its going to be like after the goal. So, you've got power statements that empower
the left side of their mind, you got a visual empowerment of accomplishing the
going after the goal. Now, you're working both sides of the mind in raising the
belief level so that the person can feel even more strongly motivated to take
their action steps. Powerful. Okay coach, next one. Action steps. If somebody has a
goal, each day Monday through Friday, they really ought to be taking at least
one step deliberately towards their goal. There's got to be something that they
can do each day. Monday through Friday to get closer to their goal. This, you're
going to need to brainstorm with them. Help them figure this out. But if I
notice that when somebody misses 2 or 3 or 4 days of doing action steps,
they start to lose momentum. They don't have to be big action steps. They just
need to be some kind of... Something that they do that helps them move closer to
their goal. They can meet somebody who already has the goal. They can study
about the goal, they can do their empowerment activities, they can do more
research about it. There's lots of things that they can
come up with for these action steps but help them brainstorm and line those out
on a Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday. To help them get closer to their
goal. This is where people struggle the most. They don't know what step to take
next. So, that's why you're there is to
brainstorm with them. And come up with a whole bunch of fun ideas of what it
would take to be able to accomplish that goal. And if you can't find any action
steps, go find somebody who already has the goal you want. And ask them, "What did
you do to get here?" And they'll tell you all the steps. And now you have your
action step list. I mean, it's not hard. You don't go find that person. You give
that to the person you're helping to as an assignment to go find the person. But
if they take an action step, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday.
Momentum will keep going. It's all about this momentum, it's all about focus, it's
all about keeping them going. Now, the last one, super important. You be the
person that they report to if they did their daily action step. A person who
does not have reporting where they don't report to somebody is setting them self
up for self sabotage. And what self sabotage is is using excuses and coming
up with excuses and making up more excuses
of why you didn't take a step towards your goal. Because you've never had this
goal before and it's going to take work and effort. And the mind likes to find any
reason why it doesn't have to work. Because your mind is all about trying to
save calories. It's trying to keep you alive longer with whatever you eat for
breakfast. So, it's not thinking how can it work every day. Your mind is thinking
how can I save calories today? How can I just add a bunch of calories to myself
and we do hardly anything. Because that means it's going to stay alive longer.
So, anything that requires work, we have to create that where the mind is trying
to find ways to not do things. So, self-sabotage is letting the mind be
lazy. So, when you have some made a report to, you now catch yourself when you're
about ready to give up on yourself for that day. Or you about ready to come up with
an excuse why you didn't do your action step. So, you as the coach, you be the
place that they report to. And they can text you, they could email you or they
could leave you a voicemail message to let you know how they did for that day
I'm doing their action steps. As a coach, you do not save them. Do not jump in and
save them when they fall down or struggle or have self-sabotage. You're a
coach and that means you're there to encourage them. You're there to remind
them of the goal and what it's going to be like to get it and what it's going to
be like after they get it. And you're there to help them. Point them in the
direction of education and using their empowerment techniques and helping them
brain storm in their action steps and then being there to help them in their
reporting process. That's what you do as a coach. But where you can mess up as a
coach is if you try to control the situation. Or you try to push them into
doing what they're doing. Pushing and encouraging are 2 different things.
Encouragement comes because of the reminding of the goal. Pushing comes from
"You have to do this. Get out there and do this." And you're using a strong voice and
you're trying to like, you're calling them and texting them
telling what to do. That's not going to help them. As soon as you stop being their
coach for the moment, they're just going to go back to where they were. A good coach
encourages, motivates and inspires.
Encourages, motivates and inspires. And use a tone of voice and an attitude of
encouraging, motivating and inspiring them. It's tough to get a goal. It's tough
to finish that project. It's tough to get all that homework done. It's not easy.
It's something they've never done before. So, have mercy on their soul. But still
encourage and motivate and inspire. So as a coach, if you follow the components
I've just shared with you, it's going to help you really keep them going because
you're covering the important parts that have to do with their psychology. And
you're giving them a great structure. Which raises the chances of them
accomplishing that goal to a whole new level. You can do it. You got this coach.
You can totally do this. And for you in being a coach, something else that will
help you in being a really good coach is that you have your own goal. I noticed
that when parents have their own personal goals that they're working on,
they are better coaches and support to their own children. But a parent that
doesn't have their own goal that they're struggling towards tends to be pretty
pushy. A manager who doesn't have their own goal ends up being controlling and
pushy. It's really interesting to really see
the difference between somebody who has their own goals they're struggling and
working towards compared to somebody who doesn't. They come from a totally
different come from, literally. So, if you want to be a really great coach in
helping whoever it is you're helping, you've got to step into it yourself and
it's up to you to be in a place of having your own goal and doing exactly
the same things. That will you a great coach. Now, I hope you enjoyed
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