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Is there someone that you like
that you feel may be tryin' to play
with you a little bit?
Maybe, even tryin' to make you feel jealous?
It's hard to outright tell if someone's tryin'
to make you feel jealous, but there are five things
you can look for, which I'll share with you,
right after this.
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Have you ever wondered if,
when your crush says hi, or smiles at you,
that they actually like you?
Or if they ignore your messages on Snapchat or Instagram
they're actually playing hard to get?
It's not easy to get a read on someone else's behavior,
but if they're really going out of their way
to get your attention,
then it might be a sign that they're actually jealous.
For example, if your crush sees you talking
to a lot of other girls or guys,
they may feel like they're losing their grip
on your attention, and no one like to feel that way.
What you may notice your crush start doing
is inserting themselves into conversations
you're having with other people
to direct the attention back to them.
Now, this may be something that you do, too.
Think about it.
If you see your crush talking to someone else,
and getting really close with them,
wouldn't you want to interfere
to prevent them from developing any other kind
of further connection?
Whether it's you or your crush doing it,
the focus, here, should really come down to you two,
not anyone else.
Once you start focusing your attention
on preventing anyone else from talking to them,
you're losing sight of what you really want, here.
If you start to notice your crush
doing something like this,
be straight up with them and say something, like:
Look, if you really want my attention,
let's hang out one-on-one on Friday.
It's bold, it's daring, and it might be
that confidence step you need going forward
to make something happen between you two.
And it's not just interrupting
that's a potential sign of jealousy,
it's a willingness to learn a lot more about your life,
specifically about your relationship status.
Your crush, or your crush's friends,
might ask you something like:
Are you seeing anyone right now,
or, do you like anyone?
All with the hopes of learning more
about what their potential chances are of being with you.
I've done a video in the past
about what to do if someone asks you who you like.
And I think being straightforward
is the best possible solution, here.
Don't feed into your crush's jealousy
by making them think that you like someone else.
Tell them that you like them,
and then ask them out.
Now, you might also be thinking:
Well, my crush actually does the opposite.
They completely ignore me,
or just give me the silent treatment.
That might actually be a sign of jealousy, too.
If your crush sees you talking to other girls and guys,
their jealousy and pride might kick in
and make them stand tall,
like it doesn't bother them at all.
The mindset, there, is that by ignoring you,
it'll actually make you pay more attention to them
and start to chase them,
which you may or may not want to do.
I understand that chasing is part of the flirting process
and I think there's a time and place for it,
but if you outright see your crush purposely ignoring you,
just so you'll pay more attention to them,
I don't think you should play that game
and jump through their loops.
Once you get into the habit of going after them,
every single time they ignore you,
they're not gonna see you on equal levels with them.
They're gonna see you as someone
that will do whatever they want
if they just change the rules a little bit.
Instead of chasing them, here,
which often leads to you feeling
like you did something wrong to push them away,
ask them outright and say:
Look, you're acting kinda distant, right now.
What's up?
Your crush might even try to take it a step further
and start flirting with someone in front of you.
Now, don't get me wrong, here.
Just because you have a crush on someone,
and that crush is talking or flirting
with other people, it doesn't always mean
that they're trying to make you jealous.
They may just be talking and flirting with people.
That's why it's so important to take notice
of how they do it.
For example, are they only flirting
or talking with people directly in front of you
so you can see?
Do you feel like your crush is turning up the dial
a little too much and acting really over-the-top?
If that's the case, you could always make a joke
about it and say something like:
You two look so cute together.
I know it sounds counterintuitive
because you don't want your crush
to go off with someone else,
but you're gonna show your crush
that you're not feeling jealous
and you're not falling prey to their plan.
I know it sounds weird,
but sometimes your crush wants to see
a little bit of jealousy from you.
And what they really mean by that
is that they want to see you take the initiative
in approaching and talking to them.
That's why another sign is that your crush
is starting to get annoyed with you.
They're starting to fight with you more
because you're just not getting the signals
that they're putting out there.
The way they're acting is with the intention
of making you feel like you two
are not right for each other.
And where the jealousy plays into that
is that you might start to think
about imaginary people that might actually
be better suited for your crush.
I've seen two paths generally develop
when people are in this type of situation.
The first one is that people become more persistent.
They go after their crush.
They ask them out.
They really try to make it work.
And then, the second path are people who feel
like things are hopeless, like there's no chance at all
and you two are just not right for each other.
If you're on that second path,
my simple advice for you is: Don't give up.
So many times, we make decisions based on speculation.
And instead of allowing yourself to get jealous
about the imaginary, perfect person
that's out there for them,
flirt with them, talk to them, be persistent,
and ask them out.
I put a lot of emphasis on asking them out
because that's such a crucial piece to it.
I mean, what's the worse that can happen?
They say no and then, you guys either become friends,
or you move on; that's it.
Even if you've already asked them out,
and they've casually said no, or something came up,
be persistent, and think of new and creative ways
to ask them out again.
Don't let jealousy be the driver, here.
Their jealousy or your jealousy.
Being straightforward clears all of that
and makes things a whole lot easier.
What do you think, though?
Have you ever felt like your crush
was trying to make you jealous?
Have you ever tried to make your crush jealous?
Leave your comments below and we'll talk about it.
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