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- I love sports.
This was one of my passions, this bowling league.
Doing something together, and having the same beliefs,
and not being discriminated,
or being feared, or threatened, or being scared.
- So it's these fingers?
- Yeah. Your three fingers, so.
- Not these?
- I definitely love it,
and I have a feeling I'll be taking it to my grave.
(both laughing)
- Meet Donald Pinke,
president of the Buffalo Historical Bowling League.
A bowling league that's paved the way for gay sports
in the Buffalo community.
But having a space to bowl is
about more than just kicking it with your friends.
Research shows that playing sports is linked
to lower rates of depression and suicide.
Sadly, LGBTQ+ folks are far less likely to participate,
and can be actively discouraged from taking part.
The need for inclusive sports is essential
to the LGBTQ+ community health,
and groups like the Buffalo Historical Bowling League,
are evening the score.
I'm Devin-Norelle and this is, "Brave Spaces."
Oop. (Devin-Norelle laughing)
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- Buffalo Historical Bowling League.
It started in 1978.
I just actually wanted to be with people
that had the same belief with me, kind of being funny,
crazy and not worrying what people think or say, and...
- To find a no judgment zone.
- Yep. And it's like, but that's the problem.
It's like, you'll be gay.
It's like you're accepted in that,
but they judge you on, "Well, you stink at sports."
(Donald chuckling)
And it's like, that's not the hope.
It's not the purpose that we want to embrace
within our organization here at Buffalo Historical.
- Why is it called the Buffalo Historical League?
- And historical was the clue.
Like the "friend of Dorothy". - [Devin-Norelle] Mm.
- Which we actually used.
- It was a code word.
- Like back in the nineties
when gay men used to wear earrings.
- Yeah. - Okay, I see.
But your bowling league accepts all-
- [Donald] Yes we do.
- People from all walks of life.
- We have never turned anybody away and we never will.
We feel that it's wrong to exclude,
when we want to be accepted.
- I see.
(Donald sobbing)
Can I hug you? (Donald chuckling)
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You okay?
- Mm hmm.
Because we all struggled, you know,
to be accepted, and,
it's just the right thing to do.
(bowling pins clattering) (background chatter)
- At Classic Lanes,
I bowled with Jeffrey McConnell, secretary and treasurer
of the Buffalo Historical Bowling League,
and Sherry Fossett, vice president of the league,
and a straight ally.
They definitely taught me a thing or two.
- Okay, watch. Okay, here.
- Mm hmm. - Follow through. Perfect.
See? There you go. Nice!
- I see. So my hand has to be turned this way.
- Yep, it should be just like that.
- Okay.
- I've been treated badly, I've been ostracized,
I've been called names and I know how that hurts.
When I came through here,
(indistinct background conversation)
they wrapped me in love,
and I felt safe.
They saved me.
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I came here with a broken heart,
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and they fixed my heart.
Counseling didn't do that.
They did.
(bowling pins clattering)
- I see the, the people who show up at bowling alone,
who don't have a team, who don't know anyone here.
And you know, we, we work with, we, we talk to them,
we, we welcome them, and we found them a place
with other bowlers who they'll be able to connect with.
We provide an opportunity for people to be themselves
no matter what their situation is
outside of these bowling lanes.
- [Devin-Norelle] Mm hmm.
- So if they're not out at work,
they can still be brave here.
- Wow, that's an excellent, never thought about it
as a place where you can come out first.
- [Jeffrey] Mm hmm.
- The Buffalo Historical Bowling League
has grown since 1978.
They've won two silver medals in the Gay Games,
and their largest season had 24 teams.
So here we are more than 40 years later.
Have things changed?
Well, yes and no.
Time magazine reported that
across the US, UK, Australia, Canada,
Ireland, and New Zealand, the US ranked the worst
for homophobia and discrimination.
If this doesn't shock you, you're not alone.
One third of US adults view sports
as unwelcoming to gay athletes.
And 80% of people have experienced
or witnessed homophobia directly,
on the field and in the stands.
(shrill whistle noise)
This is a major red flag.
(bowling pins clattering)
- I mean, I, I felt like I was a pretty athletic child.
But, you know, I tried to stick to individual sports
because I was kind of concerned about the team aspect
and bullying, and.
Which I think in terms of disservice,
I think there's a lot of people who are LGBTQ+,
who would've been great basketball, great baseball,
great football players, but because of their fear
of being treated in the locker room,
didn't pursue those sports.
- Around four in ten LGBTQ+ students dodge gym class
and the locker room.
Some avoid athletic facilities in general.
This is due to the fear of retaliation, bullying,
and the sense that these spaces are not safe.
Among them, non-binary and trans students
feel the least at ease.
This is a big deal,
because there's evidence that LGBTQ+ youth who play sports
are more likely to feel safer in the classroom,
do better in school, have higher self-esteem,
and are less likely to have suicidal thoughts.
The truth is, we're more likely to play sports as an adult
if our childhood experiences with them were positive.
I grew up playing basketball, running track,
and found a super dope queer skate club in Brooklyn.
They don't care if you're gay, straight,
or straight up trash.
(Devin-Norelle laughing loudly)
If sports have the potential to save lives,
is there anything that can be done
to help LGBTQ+ youth feel empowered to play?
School climate is a key factor.
An active Gay-Straight Alliance club,
supportive coaches and teachers,
and a strong anti-bullying policy
are a few of the ways we can dunk on homophobia
and help make LGBTQ+ youth feel welcome in athletic spaces.
- It's going to be tough.
It's a uphill battle and it, it will get better.
The world's out there.
Life is, can be totally awesome, and you can make it.
- I'm here.
(Devin-Norelle chuckling)
Proof that you can make it.
Yes.
Gay sports leagues are becoming more widely accessible
throughout the country.
You can head to the US Gay Sports Network website
to locate leagues near you.
They have a database spanning 84 cities, across 41 states,
totaling 721 leagues, and 48 sports.
Woo! And counting.
In 2012, 23 out athletes competed in the London Olympics,
but, at the 2020 Tokyo Games a record 185 competed.
How's that for progress?
- Where were they when I was younger?
(Devin-Norelle laughing loudly)
Oh my God.
I do see them as a role model for the gay community.
That, you know, they're stepping out
and they're trying to help and,
and just kill that phobia.
- When I was young and gay,
the bars all had blackened windows.
- Mm hmm.
- So the fact that, in the course of my lifetime,
we've come so far where you can be yourself,
you can kiss your husband in a bowling alley,
and that's the way life should be.
- Mm hmm. - Where you can just
be yourself wherever you are.
- We are married and we met at the gay softball league.
- We believe we're part of the community as well,
even though, maybe it's not one of the letters.
- I like to say that allyship is a verb.
Definitely step back when it's time for us to speak,
but always speak up for us when we can't.
- [Jeffrey] It's a different world and we're,
we're not there yet.
- [Devin-Norelle] Mm hmm.
- We keep making steps. - [Devin-Norelle] Mm hmm.
- And if we keep making steps, we'll get there.
- There's still a lot to learn
about the intersection of LGBTQ+ people and sports.
And right now the spotlight is on the trans community.
States across the country are introducing bans
on trans kids participating in sports,
and we have to look at the facts.
Trans youth and young adults are far more likely
to experience bullying, harassment, and violence
than their cis peers.
And nearly half have contemplated suicide.
Half.
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So we have to ask ourselves,
will we let history run laps around us,
or will we go to the mat to change the climate
that forced queer sports leagues to use code words
and hide from the public?
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(bowling pins clatter)
Woo!
- Whoa!
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- Yeah, that's it.
- Okay.
- That's how you put it through.
- How heavy is it supposed to be?
10 it is. 10 out of 10.
(Devin-Norelle laughing) - 10 out of 10. 10 out of 10.
- All right which lane?
(soft upbeat music)
So I can embarrass myself now.
- Whichever one! Take ours. (Devin-Norelle laughing)
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