This is my best small talk tip,
how to introduce yourself to someone new.
Right now I'm going to teach you my four-step method
to make introducing yourself to someone in English
easy and enjoyable.
You can use these steps to introduce yourself at work,
to a neighbour, at a bar, at the dog park, anywhere
and the best part is it's short, it's fast,
it's easy to remember
so you can start practising your introduction today.
I'm Emma from mmmEnglish and I help English learners
around the world to speak English confidently.
I'm also the co-founder of Hey Lady!,
an English-speaking community for women
to develop confidence and fluency as English speakers.
You can find me on all my socials, all the links are down
in the description.
But right now, let's dive into my
four-step process to help you introduce yourself to anyone.
Okay I'm so excited to share my method
to introduce yourself in English because it's
simple and it's easy to remember.
We can get so worried and so nervous about meeting
new people.
Perhaps you worry about making a mistake in English,
perhaps you don't quite know what to say
or you worry about running out of things to say once you start.
Maybe you're an introvert and you really have to force
yourself to meet new people.
Is that you?
What makes you nervous about
meeting someone new in English?
Let me know down in the comments.
So let's get started with those four steps to introduce yourself.
Step one:
Find an interesting point that connects you
to this person in that moment.
Step two:
Introduce yourself, tell them your name.
Step three:
Engage with a relevant question about the context
or the topic that you mentioned in step one.
Step four:
Give good vibes and move on.
All of this should be over in two or three minutes.
We worry about starting conversations but the reality is that
most first-time meetings are really brief
and they are the opportunities that we have to
find connections,
connections that you can use
later on when you see that person again next time.
So don't think about this first conversation as being
a huge commitment.
It's brief, it's fast
and you've got to hit some key points.
So I'm going to break down each of those steps now
but to do that, I'm going to share three different scenarios.
Meeting your neighbour, you've just moved into a new house.
At the office,
you've been working there for a few months now
but you see someone that you haven't met yet
in the staff kitchen.
When you're dropping your kids off at school
and you see some of the other parents
chatting outside the classroom.
At each step, we'll talk about these three different scenarios
so that you can see how my method applies in
each of these different contexts
and I'll give you some examples.
Step one, find an interesting point that connects you to this
person in that moment.
It's a beautiful day, isn't it?
The weather is a perfect topic because most likely,
you'll be outside when you're meeting your neighbour.
That smells good!
What have you got for lunch?
Usually, you run into people in places like the staff kitchen
so we're using the context to start our conversation.
Don't forget your lunchbox, Ted!
He forgot it three times last week.
This is great because it's relatable, everyone's a parent
here so they can laugh about the silly frustrating things
that their kids do so it's a really great way to start
a conversation.
See how in each of those different situations, the comment
or the question that I use to start the conversation
connects you to that moment that you're in.
It could be the weather, it could be a sports game,
it could be your kids or your car,
whatever it is that is relevant in that moment
and it can be really simple.
In fact, it should be because
you're just getting started here, you want to keep it simple.
Now at step two, you want to take the opportunity
to introduce yourself
but this is not the type of introduction where you
give lots of information about your
family or what you do for work or
where you're from or anything like that.
It should be fleeting, almost like
a little extra piece of information.
I'm Emma, by the way.
Adding "by the way" helps
this interjection seem casual and relaxed.
We use it in English conversations all of the time
to give a little bit more information or
to introduce a new subject to a conversation so it's just like
a little interjection, a little disruption
and you can add a little bit more context to it if you want.
I'm Emma, by the way.
I just moved into number seven.
I'm Emma, by the way.
I just started in the policy team.
I'm Emma, by the way, Ted's mum.
I think our kids are in the same class.
Easy, right?
Just keep it simple.
Once you've introduced yourself,
then pause, let them speak.
They're probably going to introduce themselves
or say something nice.
They might even ask you a question.
Step three, engage them with a relevant question about
the context or the interesting point you made in step one.
How long have you lived in the area?
Hey, you wouldn't have any recommendations about a great
restaurant nearby, would you?
Do you know if there's a dog park in the area?
How long does it take to walk to the beach from here?
How long have you worked here?
Which team do you work in?
What projects are you working on at the moment?
So tell me, where is the best coffee around here?
What's your son or daughter's name?
I think Ted has talked about Sam before.
Are you going to the school concert on Friday?
Do you have any other kids at the school?
How old are they?
These are just a few ideas but you can see that we're just
extending the simple ideas and the questions
that are related to the context in that moment.
And we've already made it to the last step guys.
Step four, give good vibes and move on.
We're not aiming for a ten minute conversation here.
We're aiming to make a good impression and importantly,
inspire the next opportunities for our next conversation.
We're going to take all of the information we collect
at this first brief meeting and use it to build a stronger
connection with this person next time.
So right now, all we need to do is leave this conversation
in a friendly way so that that person you're talking to
looks forward to talking to you again next time.
Well I've got dinner on the stove so I'd better go but
lovely to meet you.
It was great to meet you anyway.
I'm sure I'll see you around.
Well it was lovely to meet you.
I'll see you at drop off tomorrow!
Okay now it's your turn to practise.
I'm going to give you the opportunity to meet someone new
and I want you to think about the four steps in this process.
I want you to write down your answers in your notebook
or type them down into the comments below.
I want you to think about what you would say for all four steps.
If you add it down into the comments,
I'll be able to come down and read your ideas,
make some suggestions or some corrections if you need it.
Sound good?
You see this woman while you're out walking your dog.
How can you start a conversation with her?
So step one is
find an interesting point that connects you to this person.
Step two, introduce yourself.
Step three,
engage them with a relevant question about the context.
And step four, give good vibes and move on.
Pause the video and imagine your conversation.
And there you have it!
I hope my small talk tips help you to introduce yourself
to start more English conversations and make more
English-speaking friends.
Remember that the first time you introduce yourself
to someone,
your aim is just to have a friendly, positive interaction,
not to have a long, deep, detailed conversation.
Think of this first meeting as you laying the very first brick
in a wall.
That wall is going to grow, it's going to become bigger
with every short interaction you have with this person.
Right now, you're just creating the opportunity for your next
friendly interaction.
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