You know what's cool?
My dancing Hey guy it is Cara and today I wanted to talk about the idea of being cool.
Am I cool?
Is he cool?
Am I cool?
What is cool exactly?
You know what I'm going to look up the exact definition of cool.
Not the cool I'm looking for.
It's all about being impressed, I guess.
Being impressed by this person or this thing and I think that's hard because it's so subjective,
right?
We are all impressed by very different things.
I'm impressed whenever someone does a backflip, but a gymnast who has done backflips before
maybe not so much.
But maybe, maybe they think cracking knuckles is really cool and in that case I am so cool.
So coolness is subjective, being impressed is subjective.
For example, celebrities.
Let's take Justin Bieber.
Some people think he's really cool.
They like the way he dresses, the way he sings, they want to date him, they want to be him.
He is cool.
But other people, not so much.
And so how do we say whether he's cool or not?
On a personal standpoint, in high school when you're walking down the hall and everyone's
like "oh my god, she's so cool!"
Is she though?
Because maybe you think oh no she's not cool because to me coolness is her being nice and
her being kind to others and she's not.
But then to someone else cool might be she wears the hippest clothes, she uses the coolest
slang.
Peace signs.
I'm not exactly sure where I'm going with this video, but I think it's to deconstruct
the word cool.
And get us to thinking there's not just one definition of cool.
Especially in high school and middle school, I think it's very easy to get this idea that
oh the popular crowd, or what I'd call the "think-they're-popular" crowd, like that's
the definition of cool, that becomes the standard of cool and so in order to be "cool" you have
to talk a certain way, you have to dress a certain way, you have to do certain things.
And I think that's crap.
There' s these different spheres of coolness and just because you don't fit into one of
the spheres doesn't mean you don't fit into another one.
There's just so many different definitions of what cool can be and is.
I was listening to Rhett & Link's podcast, Earbiscuits and they were talking to Hank
Green.
And Hank was saying it's so weird for him when he comes to LA because he gets to hang
out with all the cool kids like Grace, and Rhett & Link, and Hannah.
They thought like no you're cool; you've created all these things, you made Vidcon you are
such an intelligent dude you're cool.
And there were these mutual feelings of inadequacy with one another.
They both felt like they weren't cool enough for the other person.
Everyone think that they're uncool.
It's just this viscous cycle of insecurity and inferiority complexes.
We meet people and we might be really intimidated like "oh my god they are so awesome!"
they might be saying the exact same thing about you because maybe you're doing something
they really want to do in their life; you're acting a certain way, you look a certain way,
you're carrying yourself a certain way that they really admire.
A lot of times we are insecure about things we think of as "flaws" We think are uncool
parts about us.
When there are probably a lot of people out there who see us and see those flaws as actually
the coolest things about us.
Cool is not something that's etched in stone; it doesn't have a certain look, it doesn't
have a certain style or a way of speaking or a favorite hobby or TV show.
There's no standard for cool.
I think we always like to think that the grass is greener on the other side, and that's just
not true.
We always think that if we just do this one thing, if we get this haircut, if we lose
this weight, if we wear these clothes, if we achieve this award that we'll somehow get
there, get to this status of cool kid.
Instead we need to shift our focus and realize that what we have now, if we just let it be
and be ourselves the coolness is going to come out.
Maybe not to everyone, but it's impossible for everyone in the world to think you're
cool.
Someone out there is going to think you're uncool, it might be your mom I don't know.
But you're not going to have everyone's approval, that's okay.
You really only need your approval.
Okay well I'm hoping I got that point across.
I'm not entirely sure because I didn't have this scripted I just had a few notes because
I really wanted to talk about this and it's something that I think is really interesting.
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