And some level of anxiety, I think it is needed.
We become aware of anxiety, when it has become too much
and then you are not able to handle it.
So what do we do at that time? Anxiety,
depression, panic attacks, anger are some of the manifestations.
All these things, to me,
it is best,
if you can prevent it from coming first.
Stress, anxiety and depression, like anger, the moment it comes, it is difficult to control.
But a good training will teach us how
not to get angry.
Once you are angry, it is difficult to control.
I mean, all of us without an exception, have gone through these phases of anger.
Some people say, “Okay, kuch argument hua (some argument happened)” – I will give you a real example
from my lifestyle, “ghar jaake bolunga biwi ko (I will talk to my wife at home)”,
right?
So you have bought time.
You have left from your work, “aaj ghar jake dikhadoonga (Today I will go home and show her)”.
You have an inner dialogue going on, “jaake kya bolunga?
(what will I say after going there?)” So you are having an inner dialogue.
“Unhone aaj aisa bola, vo galat baat thi,(She said this today, this was wrong) Unko aisa bolna nahi tha (She
should not have said this)”, toh us samay aapko temporary gussa aa gaya (At that time, you get temporarily angry).
But now you are buying time.
Ghar jaakar dikhaadunga (I will show her today).
But then, during that one hour of going home, you are realizing that she is right.
But, if this argument was face to face, then it would have resulted in disaster.
You would not have the opportunity of analysing the whole thing.
So, the best medicine for anger
is to postpone it as much as you can.
About anxiety, I feel that anxiety and stress are related.
Imagine if you did not have stress, for example, would you study?
No one would study
So stress and some amount of anxiety, I think, it is needed.
We become aware of anxiety, when it becomes too much
and you are not able to handle it.
So what do we do at that time?
Clean yourself.
We have this Cleaning methodology.
Sit for a few minutes and clean yourself with the suggestion that this complexity, which is causing
anxiety, is going away from my system in the form of smoke or vapour from the backside.
And just sit for 10 minutes.
That is all. It will go away.
If it is still remaining, then you better attend to that anxiety.
Why is it there?
Are you worried about your mother? It is an anxiety.
Why are you worried about your mother?
Maybe something is wrong.
Maybe she wanted a medicine and you forgot to buy it.
And you kept worring about it all night when you should have bought it.
When you remember, you better go do it.
Once you solve the problem that I should have bought and now I am buying it, so that will
not become the reason for my anxiety.
So anger and anxiety, both have a real, solid reason.
When someone tells you on your face, “you are stupid”.
And she gives you a reason.
After sometime when you analyze, you feel ‘She was right.’ Then you say, “Oh,
she did a very good thing in my life that she corrected
me, she tried to correct me.” Often
we lose our fuse when we are wrong
because the other person is right, and the ego hurts.
When ego hurts, the anger erupts.
So some level of generosity has to be brought in.
I think it just cannot be brought in at that time.
It is who you are.
So through daily meditative practices, I think it can take many years before
we can really become generous, empathetic and compassionate. Buying time is the only solution.
I think wherever such disorders are to be combatted.
Convicted.