There is a massive false belief out there that men don't want to commit.
And I get it.
I know you're meeting men who are emotionally unavailable.
And some of the men that you're meeting don't wanna commit, but the truth is that men do
wanna commit.
All you have to do is look at the hundreds of millions of men around the planet who are
in relationships.
Maybe google or Youtube 'epic proposals' and you will see men who deeply wanna commit because
as human beings all of us want that deep connection, that deep partnership.
But how do you know if you're dating a total guy who just wants to hook up, or you're dating
someone who is ready and wants to commit.
In this video I'm gonna share with you five signs that your man wants to commit to you.
Number one is immediacy.
What does this mean?
That means that there is a quick progression from one stage to the next.
You're texting.
That quickly leads to a phone call.
He wants to talk to you right away.
On that phone call, he asks you out on a date.
There's this urgency or this immediacy to the progression.
In fact, let me give you an example.
My chief technology officer, who's an amazing guy, a total romantic at heart, said 20 years
ago he met his wife at the copy machine, asked her out for coffee.
That very night, they went out on a date, they went back to her place, and he said he
never left.
They ended up falling in love, getting married, and they've been married for 20 years.
So look at the immediacy and that is a clue, a sign, that he wants to commit to you.
Number two is regularity.
There is consistency to how often you're seeing each other.
He wants to see you consistency.
Immediacy is the speed at which you progress forward.
Regularity is the consistency that you are hanging out.
So are you hanging out every Friday night?
Are you hanging out multiple times a week, every week?
Or are there long stretches, unexplained stretches, where you're not seeing each other?
He's not away on business.
It's just you don't hear from him for a couple of weeks.
So the guys who are going super hot, and then super cold, are not the guys who wanna commit.
The guys who want a relationship are interested in regularly seeing you.
Number three is exclusivity.
Men, we are naturally competitive.
So once he has made up his mind that he wants you, he wants to keep your focus on him and
not any other guys.
He wants to make sure that no other man has the opportunity to come in and swoop you up,
sweep you off your feet, and get your attention on him.
So a guy who is really interested in you and wanting to take things to the next level is
gonna ask for exclusivity.
A good rule of thumb is that he, if he hasn't asked for exclusivity, that you aren't exclusive
yet, because guys who aren't sold yet tha they wanna commit, just like you if you're
not sold on the guy, you wanna keep your options open.
And so you're not really driving or pushing the exclusivity status of the relationship
'cause you're wanting to keep your options open.
But the guy who is sold on you, who wants to commit to you, is gonna ask for that exclusivity
or at least move the conversation in that direction.
Let me give you an example.
One of my clients the other week was saying how she's dating this guy.
They have immediacy.
They moved right from phone conversations to dating.
They have regularity.
They're going out every week.
And they're really vibing with one another.
They really like one another, but he hasn't asked for exclusivity.
The other night, he was talking to her, and he was noticing.
He's like, "Hey.
You still have your online profile up."
And she was asking me "What do I say in that moment?"
And she was like, "Well, yeah I do," and she kind of skirted the issue.
She didn't wanna put pressure on him to be exclusive but she wasn't sure how to handle
that.
And so I said, "If he brings that up, ask him this female ninja move question."
The question is this.
If he's like, "Hey, you still have your online profile up."
She can ask, "Yeah.
Are you asking me to be exclusive with you?"
And what I love about that is that you're not driving the exclusivity forward.
You're simply asking what he would love and allowing him, creating an invitation for him,
to drive the relationship forward to the next level.
It's a very feminine thing to do.
It is a ninja feminine move.
Kind of like this.
It's like you were a little ninja, and you had all your little ninja moves going on.
Look at that.
Look at how cute she is.
Look at that.
Oh my ... oh!
Whoa!
That's pretty powerful ninja move right there.
Okay.
Next one.
Number four is he futurizes with you.
Now not all men know how to express themselves equally when it comes to their emotions, but
when a man wants to commit to you, he will start to futurize.
And here's what that looks like.
He will put on his future goggles and imagine his future life with you.
And he'll start talking about.
He'll start talking about where you guys are gonna do for vacation three months from now.
He'll start talking about getting Bruno Mars tickets six months from now and you guys going
to that Bruno Mars concert together.
He'll talk about getting a dog together.
Now when a man sees his future with you.
He starts to imagine those things, those possibilities, he starts speaking that future with you.
And that's a great sign that he is in it to win it with you and wants to commit to you.
Now I've got a great gift for you, because ultimately men want to commit to women that
they ar highly attracted to and have a deep connection with.
And so, I've written an ebook to support you in understanding men on a deeper level of
what creates that attraction and connection.
I'm gonna link it up right here in this video, this ebook.
It's a gift from me to you.
I also put a link in the comments or the description for you below.
You can go ahead and check that out.
Number five is he shows the world that he's with you.
Men who don't wanna commit, wanna keep the relationship hidden.
They don't want other people to know that he's with anybody.
But men who ... Your man who loves you, who wants to commit to you, is going to wanna
share that with the world.
He wants the world to know that.
So this is the guy who's willing to hold your hand in public or make public displays of
affection and kiss you.
He's the man who wants to go to parties with you., take you to his parties, attend the
parties you're going to, go to events together, and probably the biggest one in today's day
and age is social media, isn't it?
So it's the guy who's willing to post photos of the two of you on his social media page.
In fact, a friend of mine recently posted a photo of him with a woman clearly in a relationship,
and I've never heard of this woman.
So the next time I saw him, I was like, "Hey man, what's up with this."
And he was like, "Yeah, that's my girlfriend.
We finally decided to commit to one another."
And I thought, "Wow, isn't that interesting."
Never even heard of her.
He was in that state of not wanting to commit.
He finally committed to her.
First thing he does is post it on the social media.
Now remember, when a man wants to commit to you, it's because he loves you, it's because
he wants a partnership with you, it's because he cares about you., and as many men that
you're meeting that don't want a relationship or emotionally unavailable, know that there
are men out there who deeply do want a partnership, and a man who is absolutely gonna love you
and want to commit to you.
And knowing these signs could just help you relax and lean in as you're in that experience.
Now, I would love to hear from you.
What signs have you noticed when a man wants to commit to you?
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