I'm going to tell you what they are.
There's actually more than one
and I know what they are because I have dealt with narcissist in negotiating for more than 20 years.
So I'm spilling the secret in this video.
You will not want to miss this.
So stay tuned.
Okay, so I'm Rebecca Zung.
I'm an attorney.
I'm a narcissist negotiation expert.
I have been dealing with narcissist for more than 20 years in my career.
I've dealt with them in the worst possible situations.
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the end of this video because I'm going to be sharing exactly what their secrets are.
So here's the thing about a narcissist,
a lot of times they are bluffing when they're negotiating with you.
They take unreasonable positions a lot of times in negotiations,
and I actually have a whole video on how you can tell if a narcissist is bluffing
and you can definitely check that out.
Here's the thing about a narcissist.
Okay.
Many times people think that they just want to win.
Also many times people think there's no point in negotiating with narcissist
because they can't ever win.
You might as well just walk away and I'm here to tell you that.
That is so not true. I have helped thousands
and thousands of people actually beat narcissist for sure.
A lot of times they're just a whole bunch of noise.
A lot of times, they'll sit there and say, come on,
bring it.
I can definitely beat you.
Here's a funny story.
Actually, I had a situation where you know,
I had a guy who this was actually a modification of custody situation where
he was so used and abused by his acts
and he was just so constantly in fear of what she was going to do next, lie about next day.
next, you know, he would just find out things like from the doctor that she just made
appointments, did all sorts of things didn't even know that
she was getting ready to change medications.
Do things with the doctor and then
he would find out from the school, you know,
his child had special needs that she was getting ready to make all kinds of changes with the IEP.
The individualized education plan.
With the child, you know, she was just basically unilaterally making all these decisions about his child
not involving him to going around telling everybody.
He was a deadbeat dad when he wasn't,
you know, he had even had like a lot of extra time sharing while she was like off.
Not even involved with the child for years at a time sometimes
and, you know, he was like the furthest thing from a deadbeat dad
but yet she would go around telling everybody that he was.
I mean, it was just a horrible horrible situation.
So you know, I was helping him with creating a plan to get on the
offensive instead of constantly being on the defensive.
So we had formulated a plan to go ahead and file a bunch of things in the court system file.
Modification of custody file for a modification of child,
support file for enforcement,
you know, for all kinds of things that she hadn't done.
So, you know, there's a difference between enforcement and modification on that sort of thing.
So we had formulated plan.
We filed all these things at the court.
We hadn't even served her with any of this yet.
But yet somehow she found out about it.
So she sends him his email like go ahead,
bring it, I can't wait.
How come you haven't served me with it yet.
Basically trying to take the wind out of his sails.
It really spooked him.
He was like so nervous about the fact that,
oh my God.
She already knows about it.
She is posturing posturing posturing even though she didn't even have a good position.
She's just like trying to create a lot of upset.
This is what they do.
They try to create a lot of upset
even if they don't have a good position.
That's one of the things and I want to share with you actually create a lot of upset.
Even if they don't have a good position, they just want you to be spooked.
They’re really good at posturing.
They're really good at these things to you so that you can be spooked
and so that's what happened.
But we just marched forward and I'm telling you what.
She ended up begging him to settle, begging him
and she ended up signing everything over
and we ended up getting 100% of everything that he wanted at the end of the day
and he could not believe it.
Could not believe it and we had to like almost force him to stay strong.
Force him.
He was so nervous the whole way through
but now he is in the exact position that he wanted to be at.
So that's number one.
Even if they don't have a good position that create a lot
of upset just to get you to continue to be spooked.
All right, that's number one.
Number two is they will overshoot their positions.
Sometimes they'll continue to take these ridiculous positions
because they think they'll be able to continue to get away with it.
It will eventually catch up with them.
Their lives will eventually catch up with them a lot of times
and that becomes your leverage
but you have to be smart enough to figure out how to use it against them
and that's what I teach you comes in by the way
and by the way I want you to understand that
for those of you who are using a lot of what I teach you for divorce
and I know a lot of you who are watching and me are.
I want you to understand that there is a huge difference between no-fault state.
Some of you think that that means that fault never matters.
No fault just means that you don't have to prove fault in order to get a divorce.
Doesn't mean t hat fault never matters.
Fault can matter.
Fault can matter
sometimes it depends on the state that you're in
but sometimes, you know,
you can use things to prove
waste or dissipation.
Credibility always matters.
Bias matters.
Judges certainly want to know if people are liars.
There definitely ways that you can look at fault.
I mean they want to know if somebody is what their character is.
I would be very careful about going
well it's a no fault state.
So, you know, fault never matters.
I wanted to just kind of dispel that myth as well.
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Take them down.
right?
They don't have to win.
We can win.
The good guys can win.
That's what we're here for.
We can slay.
This slay is my brand.
Remember today's a great day to start negotiating your best life
and you can definitely do that too.
So I'm Rebecca Zung.
I'm so glad that you're here and I will definitely see you in the next video.