- The best intimacy was when I-
"intimacy"
was when I,
threw my neck out,
sneezing.
- Yup.
- and I was on my monthly period.
And you were like "do you need me to change your tampon?"
(both laughing)
And I think I even texted my mom that day.
It was just when we were still dating
and I was like, this one, keeping him.
This one.
- This is a good one for you.
How would you tell the story of us?
- Oh God? How do I tell the story of us?
Well,
two couple of crazy kids, got on Tinder on a whim.
- Yeah, both not for the traditional Tinder reasons.
- No.
- That's Honest.
- I got. I was only on there to make fun of guys.
- And I thought you were a robot because you were cute,
you responded, you were friendly.
And I was like, this is too many checks, like in a good way.
- What did you, so what did you think I was like,
- Yeah, I thought it was gonna immediately go to like,
I'll send nipple picture for release.
And I thought I was going to be like,
oh, I got trapped,
oh no, like I thought that's where it was going,
but then you were just were a real person,
it was pretty exciting.
- Describe the moment you realized I was in love with you
- Then, after the first date and then,
or one of the first dates I think
and I was like
"Hey, I really want to see you again like seriously,
like we should do this again".
And I think like that next day or something like that
we went on another date
but usually, especially like on Tinder,
online dating and stuff, it was like,
I never got past one, I don't think, maybe?
- Those girls are crazy.
- First date? Yeah. I don't think so.
And like, I mean, I got like yelled at in the street
and stuff with, from girls,
it just never was a positive thing.
But I'm also not that like forward I guess,
usually like, usually I'll be like,
"Oh, it'll get figured out,
like if we want to see each other it'll happen".
But I was like, no, I've got to see you again.
Okay.
If you could go back to the first time we met
what advice would you give yourself,
regarding being in a relationship?
(indistinct)
- Um.
Don't hover.
Don't hover when he's trying to make pancakes
and tell him how to make the pancakes,
'cause he'll have a fit.
Um,
and, and be patient.
'Cause I had to learn that along the six years.
Be patient because you are a Libra
and you do like to like,
talk things to death.
Sometimes you'll say like,
"so, you know, when
We like, are we,
what are we thinking about this?"
And I'm like, "no, no, no.
I thought we made that decision,
like a week ago. Right?"
- That happened yesterday.
- Why are we still-
- Why are we so, why are we still doing this?
- No, that happened two days ago
with ordering Thai food.
- Thai food
- Yeah.
- I thought we made a decision and then you
freaked.
So just being patient and I, I I've, tried.
I've gotten better at the patience.
Cause-
- For sure.
- When we first met, I was like,
the Energizer bunny.
And you were like the tortoise and the hare.
- Yeah.
- So.
When do you,
when do you feel people judge us
and why do you think they do?
- I think people think,
that we're lying a lot about,
- (Uzumi laughs)
- like the quality of our relationship?
- Yeah.
I think people think
we're,
people say we're codependent
and they say it in such a negative way.
- Yeah.
- You know?
"Like, Oh, you guys are,
like you always want to be next to each other.
You always, always want to be with each other".
And it, I feel like that's judgmental,
- yeah
or like,
you guys like to spend so much time together ugh.
And I'm like, well,
yeah.
- When you think ahead to our wedding,
what excites you the most?
- I didn't tell you what did excite me in that,
I'm so sad that I think won't happen.
Because the melding of our families
That's what I was looking forward to.
But what I'm,
that was the question, right?
- What excites you?
- What excites me?
But what really excites me is just being married to you.
Just finally being Mrs. (censored)
Which I've had that email.
I've had that email address since, well
- You have. Really?
- Yeah well, (censored).
what do you think this is?
- Ah.
- But it's been sitting, sitting on the shelf.
- (Uzumi and Chris laugh)
That's what excites me.
Just being your wife,
just be just waking up in the morning
the morning after,
and being like,
Oh my god, I'm finally your wife
- Yeah.
- You're (beep) stuck with me forever.
Sucka.
- Yeah. No, I, I, I agree with that point heavily
it feels like it was,
not just because of COVID but like
it should have probably,
like emotionally, it feels
like that happened a long time ago
- yeah
- and some of our friends would even tease us
and just say
I'm just going to call her your wife.
Cause it's basically just what it is.
- Yeah.
- And I was always cool with that and agree.
Even just comfortable with that.
And it was just, it's just
if it's like a nice thing to say
but yeah, it's, it's, it's, it's the
that symbol
of saying like moving forward, like we were like
you guys are free to (beep) without a condom
and have a baby
- Honey.
- and get a house
and do all kinds of cool (beep).
- (Uzumi bursts out laughing)
- It's exciting. You know?
Like that makes me,
excited.
Not really I'm teasing about that first part, but
like the thought of having a kid
is really explaining it like,
- Yeah.
- trying to figure out how to like, yeah.
- Having a family and a house.
- Yeah. Like-
- The dog and the fence,
- dance and,
baseball and-
- (indistinct)
- all these kinds of things and,
yeah.
- Now.
Oh.
Oh boy.
If this were to be our last conversation
what's one thing you'd never want me to forget.
- That's so emo.
I just have to say that I will try my best.
I would just want you to never forget
that I loved you with everything I got.
- Yeah.
I don't like to think about not talking to you.
Ever again.
It makes me sad. Um.
Cause like, I mean with life, with COVID things can happen
and you cannot talk to somebody ever again.
- Yeah.
- Yeah, ditto.
I would want you to know that like I love you.
Like I've never loved anybody before. Um.
and then you mean a lot to me.
Sorry.
- You don't have to be sorry.
- I said I wouldn't cry.
- (indistinct)
- Yeah. I do.
Yeah.
I feel like that's so cheesy.
And I feel
like I wanted something more profound to say
but
just, I love you with my whole body.
My soul. You have,
made me such so much better.
You've healed my heart.
And if this was the last time we ever talked
I'd be okay with that because I would go out
knowing that I had something great in my life.
- Yeah.
I might, I might try to sneak something in like
I'll see you in the afterlife
or something to, to try to
- Yeah. You're not getting rid of me that fast
- You know that
but I'll still look for you later, you know?
- Yeah.
Aww, why do you love me?
- Why don't I love you.
- Aww
- Umm
I mean, I, I know I already said it, but just your, if you
you bring such peace to my life and like uh
you make me feel like I've done something good with life.
Like I feel completed with you.
It's a lifelong journey and you don't know
if you'll ever even find the right person.
And you know, I would just say like, if, if
if someone doesn't believe in like a real soulmate, like
I feel like we're an example of that.
- Yeah.
I feel like I found my soulmate
and I love you for so many reasons.
But first of all, that was probably one
of the nicest things I've ever heard.
I'm glad I'm your peace and not your crazy.
I think I might be a little bit of.
You're crazy.
- Not to me.
You're the crazier one of us probably.
But I get down a little bit.
- Why do I love you?
You're just it for me, for so many reasons
your love of family, the way you love me
the way you love our kids, our kids. You just
have such a good heart and I wish everybody could see that.
Cause I feel, but I, I love you
because he will allow me to see that
because not everybody gets to see that.
Sometimes people think you have RBF
- I do
- but I get to see the silly side of you.
And I get to see the loving
and caring and compassionate person that you are.
And that's why I love you.
You allow me to love you.
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