Hey guys this Wednesday's with Chasey poo, we are talking about being rejected because you're trans, that's disgusting
Okay, but for real um I have experience with this
unfortunately a lot I I
Have been on dating apps like Grindr tinder
Hornets what's that growler is that that growler?
Yeah, growler scruff
OkCupid and plenty of fish Jesus Christ
I've been all of those okay, and I did some tests in the past
And I wrote all my profile. I'm trans and then sometimes I wouldn't write that
I'm trans just to see and I did realize that a lot more people contacted me when I said that I wasn't trans
To be interested in sleeping with me, but I got a lot of messages
When I said that I was trans of people asking me inappropriate questions about being trans like have you had surgery
What does that mean? Do you still have a penis? Are you a woman?
Like very confusing because people don't know what trans men are they have to they somehow
Just think that trans only means trans women because trans men are still not super represented in the media and
people literally don't know we exist so that really sucks, but I
have been rejected a lot and
It has been because I'm trans I know a lot of you like these are dating
apps people get rejected all the time because they're not the body type. This is different if I'm talking to somebody and
We are interested in each other. We're like
oh, yeah, we're gonna go on a date, or we're gonna sleep together or something like that
And then I tell them oh I'm trans and then they turn around right away and say oh
That's no I can't do that this difference between oh, I've never
Experienced this before can I ask you some questions just so I know what's going on that's appropriate
You know you're asking can I ask you the question, but I promise you this is a real story, okay?
I was on a date with a guy. I know three four years ago, and we were out
It was the summer it was nice. We were all in Montreal and we sat down and we
Were on the grass. It was just like a chill day. It was just we were just getting to know each other
It wasn't really a real date. I guess but I guess it was I don't know
anyways
We're talking about something completely random this man knows I am a trans okay
We're sitting and we're not talking about trans things at all. I didn't bring it up
He didn't bring it up like it's not that it didn't need to be just whatever so we're sitting there
And
He looks at me and says
you know I just I don't know how the sex would work like I'm still like I don't know how it would work because you're
trans
We are outside in the middle of the day under the Sun on the grass you think we're gonna fuck right now
Are you kidding me? What was that?
Who says that, what kind of, what kind if, who yoo he
literally in the middle of a rando conversation we're having probably about food
Um
He brings this up
And I'm like I didn't I was like um I I I didn't even I don't remember what I said
What did I say I think I was like actually speechless. I didn't know what to say
I think I was probably my I feel like my reaction
would have just been like a stunned look and been like I
Don't know I'm pretty sure that that's what I would have said
Honestly because what else is there to say when someone says that to you like that was really rude
And I'm not saying that like this
Yeah, being rejected because you're trans
But having someone say that to your face when you're on a date with them them knowing you're trans
Why don't you keep that to yourself? Why can't you be like hey? I've whatever this person
just I just I can't that experience just turned me off to like a
Lot of different dating things honestly because it was just such a rude thing to ask somebody or not
Then even ask sorry it was he was just saying
You know I don't know how the whole sex thing would work
I don't know
Maybe if we got to that point we could ask each other questions
About what each of us likes and what we would like to do to each other
Oh my god, and I get it. Maybe he was like I've never had sex with that part
Not that he knew if I had bottom surgery or not by the way. Thanks for assuming
Um, but he uh
He made these assumptions, and he assumed that I'm comfortable with sex
And he assumed that I don't know he assumed a lot of things and I feel like there are certain things that he could have
Asked questions on and I know we're always like dude whose questions cuz you stupid no if using hey
I have like maybe an inappropriate question to ask you
I'm not sure can I ask you? Of course you can ask me, please
Because if you ask the question then you'll know and you won't say dumb shit like that on a date
Anyways being rejected for being trans sucks it has happened on these apps all the time like I messaged someone
And it says I'm trans on my profile. I'm sorry. I'm not interested in a trans
Excuse me. Well. You just missed out you just missed out on this because hunty
There's things that I can do to you mmm. So that's the only way that I'm able to deal with this
Honestly is to like know that I'm better
Or that I'm a good person nothing
I'm better but like like you're missing out because I'm a good person
And I if it's like a sex thing and it's not a date thing then you're missing out because I can I can do things
That other people can't do to you, and you would be surprised you would be shook and you would love it
so it's like that makes me feel better because
I feel like that's that that's I don't know it made like confidence right having confidence it helps all right. That's it
I don't know what I'm saying anymore. I'll see you guys next week. Let me know what you think in the description below
Have you been on dates like that every bite?
I don't have a sex toy to work, or have you been rejected for being trans. How do you deal with it?
What have you done? Let me know in the comments below. I'll see you later. Bye