- List all the illicit drugs you've tried.
What more would you like to try?
(laughs)
- So my name's Marisa, I am my dad's daughter.
I was adopted.
- And I am the proud father of my wonderful daughter.
- Do you love that?
He's proud.
Are you as proud of my brother as you are of me?
- That's a long story,
(Marisa laughs)
but no.
- He's a little crazy and I love him.
- My brother is adopted.
- Yes. - Yeah.
- Hell yeah.
- Cheers.
- Do you want to go first?
- Sure.
Whew.
- Grab one, don't get crazy.
- Have you ever caught me masturbating or having sex?
(laughs loudly)
- Uh.
I haven't caught the full act.
I like walked into the den in the back
and I was like whoa.
- He was alone.
He and my mom were married for like 36 years
before she passed away so I'm just like
oh God it would be weird to see you
with like another human being.
Okay, you ready for the next question?
- Oh sure.
If you choose to have kids,
how likely are you to adopt?
- I mean I've thought about it,
but if I could choose I would rather have my own kids
because I want to see what I could produce
and who I would look like.
But it's funny 'cause my birth mother
does not look like me at all.
Yeah, my birth father you can't really tell
'cause he's all scruffy and like rock band guy, so.
- Yeah, well he was a rock band musician.
- Yeah, she was a groupie, my birth mother, apparently.
Have you ever had a threesome and would you?
Can we drink to that?
- I can say no, but we can still have a drink.
(laughs)
- We're drinking.
- Okay.
(laughing)
- Shit.
- List all the illicit drugs you've tried.
What more would you like to try?
(laughs)
- Oh my God.
I told you recently that I had just gotten sober
off of smoking meth.
- Yes.
- Yeah, I was doing that for about two years.
I did try heroin one, one time.
I didn't like it, thank God for that.
- Why did you even think you needed that?
- I was really sad that mom passed away
and it felt like it was the only thing I could do
to keep my mind off of losing her.
So I also tried ecstasy, which you knew, actually.
- Yes.
- So I love you, thank you for keeping me alive.
- Well. - But that's that.
Okay, you ready?
Yeah.
Make it a good one. - Why did you choose to adopt?
- Well, I had two children prior to meeting your mom,
she had finally figured out that probably nothing better's
gonna come along than me.
(laughs)
I had a vasectomy, we wind up going,
ya know what's our choices, adoptions.
- Did you ever have any reservations about it?
Thinking that maybe I wouldn't love you the same
or anything like that?
- Never crossed my mind, never did.
What's something you wish I had done differently
around your adoption.
- You and mom both handled it better
than I could've ever hoped for.
I've always known that I was a chosen child,
like that I was wanted.
I think it was perfect just the way you did it.
This isn't relevant.
It's when I moved out, I've never moved out.
- Do you want me to move out?
- Hell no.
(shrieks)
Why would I want to do that?
- So part of my thing is I don't want
to make you feel like you're alone
and you know before mom passed away
you were always taking care of her
and now it's time for someone to take care of you.
- Well, I'll have to find a new companion.
- Ew.
No!
(laughs)
- This is a good one.
- Uh oh, is it a sex question?
- No, no, no. - Okay.
(laughs)
This is, no these are really good questions actually.
Do you wish you had been raised by your biological parents?
- Fuck no.
No.
You've shown me so many things
whether it be compassion for other people
or the genuine thirst for knowledge that you've had
or just how many times you got up to help mom
when she was sick and you were so tired.
You'd fall asleep at the dining room table doing a puzzle.
There are so many things and I would never give them up
for any person, even my biological parents.
What was your reaction when you found out you were going
to be a parent?
- Oh shit, no.
- You're paying for this child,
I hope you wouldn't say oh shit.
- No.
(laughing)
No, it was very exciting because I was going
to get to be a parent again.
My first biologic daughter she was on a church outing.
I got a call from an E.R. doctor
that says that your daughter is here in our E.R.
she had a cardiac and respiratory arrest
and couldn't get her restarted.
And so she passed away when she was 17.
There was a hole in our lives
and the opportunity came along
and sure enough you were going to be ours.
- I don't want to cry.
I like you.
- I love you very much. - You're the best.
- You know that.
- Oh yeah.
- Okay.
- Why would you do this?
What's your favorite sexual position?
You wanna drink on that one?
- Yeah I think so.
- Let's drink on that one.
- By the way it's mother on top.
Anyway. - Damn it!
Why did he tell me that?
No.
Ew!
- I've had too much to drink, what can I tell you?
(laughing)
- Gross.
- A lot more eye opening than I thought,
'cause I thought we were really open with each other,
but then realizing that there are a few questions
that I never thought to ask or like
there are a few questions-- - Oh yeah.
- That I never wanted to fucking ask, but--
(laughing)
but I like to know more about you
and I'm glad that we did this.
- Absolutely. (laughs)