All right. All right. This question has been on every
street man's mind since the dawn of time and today is the day I
address it. Can I get a drumroll please, editor Jason? What do
women find attractive? In a man, you might think that the female
brain is a mysterious labyrinth full of confusion and little
fuzzy critters. You might think that even if you have the
information I'm about to share with you that you won't be able
to embody it, and actually make yourself more attractive to
women Hang tight friends, because I am Caitlin V. Your sex
and relationship coach and I have got excellent news for you.
Today, I'm going to tell you the five qualities that women find
incredibly attractive in men, and no, none of them involve
surface silly stuff like washboard abs, or a juiced up
car. No, today I'm going to dive into the traits that every man
actually has the power to embody, and that every woman or
darn near every single woman totally appreciates. These
traits are so important, they make such a huge impact on your
attractiveness. And yet many men let them fall through the cracks
in pursuit of six figure incomes and sports cars thinking that
those are the things that are going to attract women. And
yeah, they will attract certain types of women. But if you are
neglecting these aspects of yourself these qualities, that
might be exactly what is stopping you from getting the
girl who you actually want to be with. So what are these panty
dropping highly desirable traits that women are looking for?
Well, let's dive right in with Trait number one. Authenticity.
Now, if you are part of my high performance male coaching group,
then you already know that authenticity is the name of the
game, we are really different special little snowflakes. And
thank God for that. And yes, women, just like men all have
different types. So there's no way that you're going to be
attractive to every single person you meet. Nor seriously,
do you want to date, every single woman that you meet,
likely you're looking for one woman to be with, maybe to be
with for the rest of your life. So you actually need to just
find that one, not all of them. And if you are authentic to who
you are, you are far more likely to draw in the woman that you
are after. You see, I'm proud to say it us women are
professionals at sniffing out bullshit. Our spidey senses are
attuned. So the second that we get the sense that you're trying
to be something that you're not, you're pretending to be a
certain way or you're posing Well, we lose interest, there is
nothing more attractive than a man who owns exactly who he is.
And not just like in the category of jock or gamer or bro
or computer hacker that wakes up one day to find out that it's
all a game and takes the red pill. And what I'm saying is
that who you are down to the nuances of who you are, is hot,
it might not be hot. To me, it might not be hot to the barista,
but it's hot to someone, it's hot to the woman who you are
actually going to want to be with for any extended period of
time. And if you are showing up as yourself and you are
comfortable being you That is hot. And this is not some sort
of like lacking in self awareness, authenticity. This is
like I've sat with who I am. I know who I am. This is who I am.
Which brings me to number two confidence. This almost goes
without saying because confidence is hot to both men
and women women are attracted to confident men and in case you're
thinking okay, Caitlin like x done with this next video, I'm
going to go watch some Ariana Grande music videos, even if you
don't feel very confident today, guess what confidence is a skill
that you can develop confidence is something that you practice,
it's not something that some of us are gifted with. And some of
us have none of and the universe is just like figure it out
folks, given this person, a 10. And that one a four. That's not
how it works. And confidence looks different on every single
person. So you could be self assured you can feel bodily
confident you can be confident in your intelligence, all of
these things actually will help you to build a sense of
confidence that is more holistic. And by the way,
because confidence is actually at the center of everything that
I do my high performance male coaching system, all the
programs that I've created, everything that I have created
for you is designed to help you feel more confident, at least in
bed, if not outside of it. Who you do not want to be is that
guy who is overcompensating because he lacks confidence.
That guy that talks over people that is pushy with women that
actually impedes on other people's space, because real
confidence is subtle. It's nuanced. It makes space for
other people and it's really sexy. Which leads me to number
three, consideration
we are not out here looking for assholes. I I know that you've
been told otherwise, I know that you've probably seen a woman in
your life, who seemed to date a guy who treated her like crap.
Let me tell you, it's not that she came out looking for an
asshole. It's that she has wounds from previous
relationships. And she has been scarred or hurt, maybe by her
parents, maybe by an act, maybe she doesn't believe that she
actually deserves any better. Or maybe she just has some
attachment stuff going on. And so she likes somebody who makes
her feel like crap and makes her chase him. You don't want that.
I don't care. You cannot point to that example anymore. And so
yeah, but but so and so likes it. So yeah, so has daddy
issues. Okay, this, what we're talking about right here is
women who are looking for a guy who is of quality relationship
material. This means how you treat servers at the restaurant.
This means how you talk to children, how you treat animals,
the way that you treat the people in the world who have
less power than you. If you're dismissive and you lack thought
for others, we're actually going to assume that you're going to
treat us that way too. And that's going to transfer into
the bedroom. If you treat other people with kindness, with
dignity, with respect, if you give consideration to other
people, if you're able to empathize even a little bit with
other folks, we know that that's going to transfer to us you are
going to consider us in the same light and you are going to bring
that into the bedroom. And this does not mean not having
boundaries. In fact, boundaries are hot as In fact, I think
boundaries are the single most important thing that you can
bring into any situation because it shows that you consider
yourself as well. You have to be considerate of yourself of your
boundaries, what you're saying no and yes to in the world, to
others who have less power than you to people who have more
power than you. All of this is a great indication. And it's part
of what makes you attractive. All right. Number four mind set
more than your physical body more than the car that you drive
mindset is vital. It is an important piece of what makes
you attractive to women. I have created an entire video just on
that topic on improving your mindset and adopting different
mindsets that will improve your sex or relationship life, you
can find that link below. Your mindset is a massive Your
mindset is like the glasses that you put on when you wake up in
the morning that dictates how you see the entire world.
There's nothing more important to how you take in information,
how you behave, how things around you affect you, then your
mindset. So for example, like if you have a growth and self
improvement mindset, then the things that get you down are
just opportunities. But if your mindset is more of that of a
victim, then everything that gets you down is going to
contribute to you feeling like and being a victim, are you a
pessimists? Do you constantly see the risk for losing? Or are
you optimistic that good things are coming your way. And I'm not
saying that all women are attracted to optimists, there's
certainly plenty of pessimistic women out there who want nothing
to do with optimistic men. But your mindset and being clear on
what it is being self aware enough to know what your mindset
is, is an important piece of attracting the right partner for
you. Number five desirelessness. Lastly, but not least, women
want to be wanted, we want to feel desired. And it is
attractive when a man isn't afraid to show us that he's into
us. Now, this is a nuanced subject that I'm almost nervous
to be putting out on YouTube, because this subject is so much
bigger than what I can do justice to in this video,
essentially, when we're attracted to you. And that is a
really important piece of this is that we are attracted to you,
the knowing that you are attracted back to us feels good.
If you do not have any sort of indication that a woman is
attracted to you and you come at her with a lot of desire. That's
a huge turnoff that's associated with creepiness that's
associated with the kind of guy that most of us do not want to
be associated with is the guy who comes forward with a bunch
of desire. So once the attraction has been established
that it goes in both ways, and we can establish that in many
ways it may be nonverbal, you might actually confirm it
verbally, I think that's the smartest thing to do is just
say, hey, feels like you're kind of coming on to me. Am I right?
I think we have a little chemistry developing between us
is that is that how you feel to it can be so easy and so simple
to just do that little verbal check. And if she says something
along the lines of like, Yeah, I'm kind of cute, or I don't
know, you know, maybe I want to see where this thing goes, then
you have indication that she's interested and you can take it a
little bit further into letting her know that you desire her now
guys that are married guys that have been in relationships for a
long period of time. Where does this fall in your relationship?
Like, are you the guy that is letting her know way too much
about your desire and it's actually driving her crazy and
driving her back into herself? Or are you not letting her know
enough?
How attractive how beautiful how amazing that she is how sensual
that she is and you're sort of just expecting her to know being
able to communicate your desire for a woman in a respectful and
mindful way is a sexy ass skill to develop, it is a balance, I
am not going to lie to you and tell you there's one way to do
it. And this is the only right way to do it, you have got to
come to a balance on letting her know that you desire her in a
way that makes her feel very, very deeply desired and makes
her feel turned on. We love it when you have the confidence to
say what is on your mind. But we love it when you also have the
self awareness and the mindfulness. To understand how
it's going to affect us. One of the things that I invite you to
consider is the difference between intention and impact
your intention, maybe just to tell her that she looks fine as
hell in those jeans. But the impact may be that she feels
really unsafe or really insecure. Or maybe your
intention is not to make her feel unsafe and insecure. But
the impact is that you come off sort of cold and non romantic,
here is the thing, you can do this, you can come over to a
woman and you can say you look absolutely stunning in that
dress, you can deliver that line in a way that makes her feel
safe keeps a distance between you but lets her know how you
actually feel and that you desire her but not in a way that
is trying to take from her or grab at her. And if you're not
sure yet why this is so important. Pay attention to this
next bit because the thing about feeling desired is that it makes
women corny. We are not visual creatures the way that men are
as a general rule, we are turned on by the experience less than
maybe the sight of your naked body. So if you make us feel
like if we give you the green light, you are going to take us
on an erotic adventure. You're going to send her our pleasure,
you are going to be tearing our clothes off but exactly the way
that we want to. That is a huge huge turnoff for most women.
There you have it five traits that women find attractive that
any man can embody. I know that you are capable of embodying
these traits. And if you have any doubt on how to embody them,
or how to make them work for you and your authentic self, please
apply for high performance male. It is my coaching system that is
designed to take you and up your game in every single area of
your life from the bedroom to the boardroom. And beyond.
Inside of that group. We have helped hundreds of men to
improve all different aspects of their life, from sex to
relationships to work to family matters to fatherhood. So
whether you are single or you've been in a committed relationship
for many years, please consider applying me and my team of
coaches would be delighted to help you become the most
attractive, confident, authentic and desired man that you could
possibly be. I'm Caitlin V. Thank you so much for watching
and subscribing to my channel. I'll see you here next week.