the dating scene is quite abysmal in this day and age meeting a man worth his thoughts is
near impossible don't lose hope ladies but it is very difficult if you are celebrating your
20th wedding anniversary soon many of the points in this video probably won't apply
to you nonetheless it should not stop you from putting your best foot forward irrespective of
your relationship status however if you're embarking on a new romance or relationship
please do listen to these points carefully because doing any of these things could cost you something
very special remember it's slim pickings even for the most eligible women out there
and keep in mind that it is so difficult to undo First Impressions my wonderful Elegance ladies
welcome back to my channel my name is Vivian the founder of woman of Elegance a platform I've
created to help women globally become the most elegant classy and refined ladies that they can
be so without further Ado let's discuss eight things elegant women never do on a first date
elegant women doing the First Dates is ask for money there are some women who see men as a meal
ticket free food nice gifts and a glitzy Night Out unfortunately there are women out there who go out
with men with the sole intention of getting as much as they can from him they see dates as an
opportunity to settle their financial challenges and so they stylishly turn into Beggars whenever
they're out on a date needless to say that serious men avoid such low value Behavior even if they
do put up with a begging they normally do so with the intention of recovering some of their expenses
back by getting sexual favors from the lady avoid that path you're better than that find a job if
you think it's okay to exchange your body for an expensive date then ladies we need to have a
separate conversation an elegant woman has high self-esteem and self-worth even if she's facing
a financial Challenge and she's an indicted need of help she maintains her integrity and respects
herself a first date should not be seen as an opportunity to get cash from a man as a man gets
to know you more he'll be able to discover where you need help and will assist you if he chooses to
you blow your chances of a meaningful respectable and long-lasting relationship when you assume men
are money vending machines to be milked out even if the man is clearly rich and it's plain to see
nobody wants to feel as if they're being used so if you're asking for a thousand dollars at
the end of a first day it's because he happens to have an expensive sports car you're setting
yourself up for failure even before you started because he will start seeing you in a different
light if you do begin to demand money so early in the relationship don't be surprised if he begins
to ask for sex regardless of whatever boundaries you've put in place this is because he will have
his guard up and he feels being used and taken advantage of and he'll want the greatest return
on his investment it's really sad that this is the state of dating in 2022 but here we are do
things in an appropriate classy way with sturdy boundaries in place and you'll be fine the second
thing that elegant women do not do on a first date is being rude to the staff and waiting staff of
course this isn't something that just applies to First Dates elegant women are always kind to
people around her if you are rude to wait staff on a first date with a decent man don't be surprised
if he ghosts you afterwards these weight staff are employed to make your visit as seamless and
pleasant as possible just because they serve you food and drinks and wait on you it does not make
them beneath you and it doesn't mean that you are superior to them treat everyone with respect no
matter what you think their status are or what kind of work they do for a living elegant women
make those around them feel valued and appreciated don't speak rudely to the waiters even if they
accidentally spilled drink or food on you or you don't like the food or you think that the service
is subpar try to keep the drama to a minimum speak to the manager leave an honest review but do not
be rude or scathing or sarcastic whistling or snapping your fingers at the waiter to get their
attention is very inappropriate an elegant woman is polite and would signal a waiter and patiently
wait for them to attend to her men see all these things speaking of food and drink the third thing
elegant women never do on the first date is get drunk it's very despicable Behavior to drink so
much to the extent of getting drunk on a first date an Elegance lady would never do that no
matter how familiar you are with your dates or how long you've been dating letting yourself loose and
drinking too much is an absolute faux pas this type of intoxication is especially dangerous and
Reckless if it's the first time you've gone out with this person a classy woman controls her drink
and limits her intake no matter how good the wine is or how much is readily available when you drink
to the extent of getting drunk you lose control of your senses and you can do and say things that
are far from being ladylike and you could really risk being taken advantage of when you are drunk a
sensible man would think twice about being around a lady who drinks too much because he knows he can
be embarrassed and disgraced by a drunk lady on a date well it's number four elegant women do not
download details of their past relationships on a first date when a man is out on a date with you
he wants to enjoy your company and get to know you better that's really the essence of dating to get
to know if a man is suitable marriage material it's okay to divulge some things about yourself
depending on the stage you are in the relationship the information Mission you give out on a date
should be a commensurate with the stage and state of your relationship you do not give out excess
information and too many details especially if the relationship is at its teething stage even
if your relationship has advanced considerably you shouldn't spoil a good dates of stories about your
ex-boyfriends and how and why you broke up with them that could really put any man off and spoil
the outing imagine sitting in a restaurant dressed nicely and in High Spirits and you start talking
about how much of a jerk your boyfriend was how he never got anything right and he was too clumsy for
your liking and then you move on to the guy before him that was an idiot and he never washed his
underpants and he's still living with his mother and the stories go on listening to such stories
will make even the most delicious of dishes tastes like sawdust in your date's mouth there's a time
and place for everything most elegant women know this and they don't chatter and chatter
and move on to unnecessary details about previous relationships truly speaking the guy presently in
your life doesn't need to know every detail of your past relationship worse still if you make
it sound like your past boyfriends were worthless that could make any well-intending man feel on
edge and make him dash out of the relationship be tactful and be wise points number five elegant
women do not dress shabbily on a first date whether you're meeting up with someone for the
very first time or you're in an established relationship you should dress elegantly and
look as presentable as possible shabby dressing includes wearing clothes that don't fit properly
or dressing provocatively or salaciously or being underdressed or overdressed always look
appropriate for the occasion your clothes should look attractive enough to make your guy admire
you and modest enough to leave something to the the imagination prepare ahead of time and select
an outfit that looks good on you elegant women do not expose sensitive parts of their bodies
in public you should aim at looking classy and Chic without undermining your elegance your hair
should be clean and tidy at all times if it's your first date stay true to yourself and your
style and don't dress up exclusively the way you think he would want you to look having said this
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you will not be disappointed points number six elegant women do not bring Friends Along on a
first date okay so one thing to have agreed is chaperone prior to your date but then you bring
your friends on a first date without consulting the man and to add insults to injury expect him
to foot the bill for you all that is completely Unbecoming of an elegant lady there is a Shameless
thing that some women do when a guy asks them out on a date they bring two or three of their friends
along with them remember the purpose of a date it is for you to get to know each other to see if you
are compatible most of the time a friend is not there to serve as a chaperone they just came to
enjoy the free food their unwanted presence makes it difficult for him to speak freely with you
another tactic that some unscrew hopeless women use when they don't like the man is to bring her
friends along to the date with the hope that he will spend as much money as possible so he gets
put off her and he doesn't ask her for a second date this is unfair and a complete waste of both
of your time find a more elegant mean of turning down a guy which doesn't involve you giving a
negative impression of yourself be confident that your no is no and is strong enough to pass on the
message that you are not interested in going out with him again an elegant woman understands what
a date is she knows the rules around not inviting an extra guest she respects herself and will never
consider bringing a friend with her to a date Point number seven elegant women do not binge
on food self-control is a quality that any woman who considers herself elegant should have in
abundance it saves you a lot of embarrassment and it protects your integrity an elegant woman
is modest in her appearance and her behavior when it comes to dining she applies the rule of modesty
too the fact that you're a foodie or you have a large appetite and probably will not be the one
to foot the bill is no excuse for binge eating if you're famished or you haven't eaten for a long
while try to grab a bite at home before you leave brushing your food or loading your stomach doesn't
reflect Elegance it's a moderate quantity of food and moderately at a slow pace remember the purpose
of the date is not to satisfy your hunger but to get to know the person please do not embarrass
yourself by overindulging in food because it's free and again show that you have respect for the
person in front of you by refraining from ordering the most expensive thing on the menu just because
he's paying If He suggests caviar or Patrice or some other vintage wine then by all means
because again even if he's wealthy he may just think you're unapologetically opportunistic gold
digger we don't want that dewy ladies final thing elegant women do not do on a first date is pretend
to be someone who they aren't some women feed and live on pretense they pretend about virtually
everything and put on airs about being who they're not they heavily filter their photos to the point
of catfishing and lie about everything hoping it will impress the man that they're trying to
date Pretender is a liar who is living out a lie an elegant woman is too busy being herself and
enjoying her Elegance lifestyle and has no room for pretense in her life pretending to be who you
are not shows that you're not confident and proud of who you are pretense is an expression of a poor
self-worth and low self-esteem when a lady puts on airs about being too important or even wealthy to
impress a man or she lies about her educational background or her skills she's really setting
herself up for disgrace the bubble will eventually burst and the guy will discover that you've been
unreal all along be yourself believe me being an authentic self is the best thing you can do
because when things Blossom you know he will love you for you flaws and all and even after the first
date if he's not keen you haven't wasted much time because you can move on to somebody who sees your
worth ladies this list is non-exhaustive there are so many other things you should try and avoid on
a first date it's knowing that first impressions count but I hope these eight points really gives
you a blueprint on your journey to becoming an elegant woman thank you very much for watching