Matt: Everyone knows that the first kiss is one of the most memorable moments in any relationship
so i'm here to make sure that it's memorable for all the right reasons
..so it feels more like this and not like this in this video i'm going to teach you some of
my personal techniques that have gotten women to say "You're amazing kisser!" but there's one
extra tip that blows everything else out of the water so make sure to watch until the end.
If you want to take your kissing game to the next level
then you need to understand that kissing isn't just about techniques it's not just about how
you kiss her what you do with your lips or your tongue all that stuff is super simple
as i'll show you but it's not really what makes a kiss great what makes a kiss really great is
how it feels especially for her the more she feels it the better it is for her and
the two most dominant feelings during a kiss are arousal and sexual tension
you build sexual tension before the kiss and you build arousal during the kiss make sense
so here's what you want to do first you want to use your eyes and proximity to generate sexual
tension have you ever seen your parents kiss i know i know super gross they lean in peck
each other on the lips and then go about their day kind of like they're shaking hands because they're
just so used to kissing each other that all the excitement nervousness and passion isn't there
which is good news for you because who wants to see their parents making out like horny teenagers
the reason first kisses are exciting is because they're new territory neither of you have been
this physically close to one another yet you might have touched you might have hugged but
you've never been within millimeters of each other this is unknown so it's exciting and a
little scary it's also packed with sexual tension sexual tension is really the key for turning a
woman on there's really nothing more powerful or effective than sexual tension that's why we spend
so much time on our live workshops practicing and role playing with models so that guys can
spark sexual tension within seconds of meeting her so that she's thinking about kissing you
way before you even try what you'll notice is that when you want to kiss somebody you feel
nervous and excited at the same time and if she wants to kiss you then she'll feel the exact same
way this means that the closer that you get to her physically your nerves are probably going to
be flying all over the place you need to learn to love that feeling enjoy the feeling play with the
feeling because it's sexual tension and from here on out it's your new best friend sexual tension is
like the god of wingmen he's here to take you from zero to hero now before you lock lips you're gonna
want to build some sexual tension this is done in two ways the first is by slowly decreasing
the distance between you and her and enjoying the excitement and nervousness aka sexual tension that
comes with it don't start talking more don't start making jokes don't kill the tension just relax in
it enjoy it and sit in the moment the more you do this the more tension will build until she'll
be desperate for you to break it and kiss her all that tension has to go somewhere after all
the second is to use your eyes the closer you get to her the more you want to be looking at
her eyes now don't stare at her like you're the predator challenging her to a death match
just meet her eyes longer than you normally would then when you're really close look from
one eye to the next and then down to her lips and then repeat this is called the triangle
technique and it signals to her that you're interested in kissing her and it builds more
tension and excitement and it gives her a heads up on what's about to happen this is also a good
way to give her a chance to lean back or lean away if she isn't interested in kissing you by the way
a good way to see if a woman wants to kiss you is to simply tell her i want to kiss you while
maintaining good eye contact this gives her a chance to say that she doesn't i don't but either
way it comes off as very confident because it's a lot better than asking for permission and saying
can i kiss you never ask for a kiss it shows that you don't believe that she wants to kiss you which
is clearly the definition of a lack of confidence instead show your confidence by recognizing that
the tension is there and that you're not afraid to call it out by the way make sure to follow me
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about kissing second is to kiss her and to amplify arousal through pull aways now it's time to kiss
her to do that don't over complicate it lean in close your eyes and press your lips to hers
don't press too hard don't press too soft and don't keep your eyes open or you'll look like
you're insane as your lips are pressed to hers pull her body towards you don't be too forceful
just gently move her body towards yours these are the basics of kissing and for the perfect kiss you
want to get these right don't worry about biting her lips or alternating lips or anything else
yet you can experiment with that later for now focus on nailing the basics lean in close your
eyes press your lips to hers then bring her body towards yours now comes the good bit once you've
done the basics for about five to ten seconds pull away so that your lips and face are close to hers
but you're not kissing then move forward like you're about to kiss her again 99 of the time
she'll breathe in and move her lips to kiss you back when she does pull half a centimeter back
so that your lips don't connect it's like you're making her lean in further to kiss you and when
she does kiss her back again this makes her really want your kiss and it puts you in a position where
you're leading it and she's chasing this is really powerful because it amplifies the natural arousal
that happens when you both kiss third is to throw in a personal touch when a woman tells her friends
how good a kiss was she'll always point out the things that you did that were different from any
other guy that is of course if you did anything unique this is because if you do things that are
unique it stands out to her and it tells her things about your personality for example from
simple actions she can think things like gently pull her hair you're dominant hold her by the side
of the face you're romantic bite her lip you're a bad boy alternate you're kissing from side to side
you know what you're doing and therefore probably good in bed these are just some examples but the
core idea here is that once you've gotten down the basics throw in something that you
genuinely want to do maybe it's gently biting her lower lip or holding the back of her neck nothing
that hurts her but just adds another element to the kiss and adds more emotional variety to her
experience obviously every woman is different and some women are gonna like or not like
certain things so if she reacts like she clearly doesn't like something then of course stop and
go back to the basics and then try something different now all three of these techniques
are essential but there's nothing without the one overarching principle that brings it all together
the overarching principle that ties all kissing techniques together is that amazing kissing is
built on a strong emotional context what i mean by that of course is that you both feel
strong emotions towards each other whether that's excitement anticipation the beginning
of love whatever and it's for this reason that kissing some random woman when you're drunk or
hundreds of girls during carnival is never gonna be as good as kissing someone that you're really
into the action of kissing might be exactly the same but it's amplified by the emotions that
surround it so then what does that mean you should do it means that if you want to be a great kisser
you need to find women that you really like and who really like you don't waste your time
chasing women that you're only kind of interested in or that are just so so about you essentially
find the ones that want to kiss you back find the ones who feel something towards you and by
the way when you find a woman that's really into you you want to amplify the emotions even more
especially when you're about to kiss her this is very powerful even if you're on a date with
a woman that you don't know that well for example surprise is a great emotion that can make the kiss
very exciting for example maybe it's a little bit later into the date maybe you know two hours or so
and you're walking from one venue to the next venue you might just stop as you're walking and
turn her and just kiss her or she might be talking and you just stop her and you go for a kiss she'll
be flooded with surprise and usually the kiss will be all the better for it and all you did
is just add some extra emotional context i've done this many times and it almost always works
i've said everything from wait a second to hold up i've even said shut up then went in for the kiss
yeah it's kind of brash but it's not about the words you say it's about the emotions that it
generates in her and the fact that i picked a woman that's already into me after all good
kissing takes two people so that's pretty much everything you need to know about kissing just
remember the actual techniques are super simple and a great kiss is born out of the emotions
around it now go out there and practice and to help you get the first kiss i'm going to give
you a free copy of my escalation cheat sheet that shows you exactly how to carry the conversation
and the interaction from the platonic friendly vibe to the i want to rip your clothes off vibe
so that you can elevate the attraction and get to that first kiss in a way that's super simple
in a way that she really enjoys so download the escalation cheat sheet there's a link down in the
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my name is Matt Artisan from The Attractive Man and i'll see you in the next video down below.