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about the 16 personalities.
And today, the topic
that we are tackling is
how do the 16 personalities process emotions differently?
Because believe me,
they process emotions differently.
It's really valuable to know this
because then you can go out and see, oh,
that's why that person is dealing
with their emotions this way.
And this other person is dealing with it
that way. You will start to become aware of it.
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Now let's talk about how the 16 personalities
process emotions differently.
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You can really separate the 16 personalities
down the middle into two distinct groups.
On one side, you have the FP and the TJ types, okay?
And these types use introverted feeling.
Now it might not be the preferred,
decision-making function,
but they have introverted feeling somewhere
in their personnel.
And then on the other side
you have the FJ and the TP types.
And they as well may not prefer feeling to make decisions
but they have extroverted feeling.
So you can see the difference here.
Introverted extroverted.
The two main ways of dealing with,
with emotions processing emotions,
making decisions based on emotions.
Now of course feeling is feeling
there's gonna be a little overlap
but the introverted versus extroverted feeling
does manifest itself in some different ways.
Let's talk about that.
So introverted feeling,
it is introverted.
(laughing)
Hence introverted feeling.
And because of that,
it's rarely gonna be like obvious hitting you in the face.
It's not something
that's just kind of on the surface.
It is deep.
Extroverted feeling
on the other hand is on the surface.
It is extroverted it's out there.
So obviously everyone feels feelings.
This is like most obvious thing I've ever said
but the introverted feelers
because it is not on the surface
they don't necessarily feel
like they need to talk about it.
No they will from time to time.
But I think they just don't really like bringing it out.
It's tough for them to really put words
to the feelings in a way that does the feeling justice
the extroverted feelers though, they feel
like they need to talk out how they're feeling.
They wanna express.
I feel this way.
How do you feel about this thing?
And then because of this difference here
on the introverted feeling side
these types might feel like misunderstood.
Like people don't really understand how I feel.
Well,
(laughing)
No wonder,
You're not really expressing it.
You're not really getting it out there.
I think a lot of times introverted feelers may even think
that they are expressing their emotions.
They are emoting,
but they're they're like really not the extroverted feelers
want their emotions to be understood by other people.
They want their emotions to be put out there so
that there can be some harmony found.
The introverted feelers don't necessarily care so much
about harmony.
If they're feeling something
and no one else is feeling that
or it doesn't seem like the correct thing to feel
at that time, they don't care.
They're just like,
this is how I feel it ain't changing.
But it's interesting.
The extroverted feelers, their feeling is
like something that is genuine
that is sincere coming up from within them.
But they feel the responsibility
for their emotions to harmonize with others
with what is kind of expected,
what is appropriate.
And it's not like a mental process where it's like,
Oh what should I do here?
It's just, that's how their feelings react.
And while the introverted feelers don't care
about what's appropriate emotionally
the extroverted feelers really do.
They like want to know is,
is what I'm feeling right now.
Like what I should be feeling.
They wanna get a good gauge
of how do people generally react to this thing?
Where do I fall on that scale?
And is that, does that seem right?
Should I feel this way?
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The introverted feelers have intense deep emotions
and the extroverted feelers they can be intense
and they can be deep emotions.
But the thing is, I think
because they are looking out, trying to harmonize
trying to figure out where they fall on that scale
and if what they feel is appropriate?
They're much more likely to move their emotions
in order to line up with some kind
of harmony where the introverted feelers, their emotion
the word that comes to mind is like immovable.
They, their emotion is their emotion.
They got to deal with it.
If they want to move it, they will move it.
They will feel something else
if they want to feel something else.
But it's not, it's not a fast turning ship there.
Whereas the extroverted feelers.
Yeah, they're like, oh, wait a second.
I thought this one thing.
Now I'm gonna feel this other thing.
They both might be strong emotions
but I have to move with what I think is right.
And so it's funny because what happens then
is the introverted feelers they're feeling to them
in some ways becomes almost like more important
and more real than the thing
that they are like feeling something
about it's like this the feeling is more important
to me and that's why I can't move it.
Like I have to really get into this feeling
and feel it, man.
Whereas the extroverted feelers can be like all
over the place and feel like a lot
of things at once
that might even be contradictory.
I feel like extroverted feelers have a much more
because it's deep they're feeling.
They have a much more single track feeling process
which just like, I feel this thing.
I feel it really deeply, really intensely.
That's about it.
Whereas the extroverted feelers are I'm feeling this
I'm feeling this.
They don't really make sense.
They don't work together.
I'm angry and I'm happy.
And I'm sad at the same time.
What is going on?
So the extroverted feelers can feel a bit,
(laughing)
A little bit all
over the place place when it comes to emotions a little bit
you might say moody,
I guess the introverted feelers when they get moody,
they like stay in a mood.
It's like, okay, I'll come back like in a,
in a few days, okay?
So as such, when these types
these two different distinct groups
of types are processed the emotions
they go about it in different ways.
So the introverted feelers
they're kind of like on a boat by themselves
out in the middle of their lake of emotions
they've got to figure it out on their own.
They've got to process it for themselves.
They're less likely to say,
Hey let me talk to all my friends about how I feel
and more likely to just be like
I needed to go off by myself
and just feel the stuff now
for the types that prefer introverted feeling on that side.
So that's ENFP,
INFP, ESFP, ISFP,
those types feel the responsibility
to work out their emotions.
And so when they go and they do that
and they're feeling their stuff
and they're processing it on their own
and they're doing their thing
they're gonna be,
you know, relatively calm about it.
It's not gonna freak them
out to have to deal with their emotions.
It might not be pleasant or comfortable
but it's like, yeah, I need to do this.
I need to handle my emotions.
And I need to find a way to embrace them
and get through it.
Whereas the types that do not prefer introverted feeling
the INTJ, ENTJ, ESTJ
and ISTJ they're gonna struggle a bit more
with processing the introverted feeling
because they feel like, like, I
I really shouldn't have to deal with the emotions.
Like I'm the logical guy I deal with
how do I just get stuff to work?
And if I'm feeling bad, then I need,
(laughing)
I need to find
like a solution logically
to kind of circumvent the feeling especially the EJ types.
The ENTJ and ESTJ they're introverted feeling
is the thing they struggle with the most.
So their extroverted thinking their logic is
always trying to shut down the introverted feeling.
But the thing is,
every dog has its day.
(laughing)
If you will.
So the introverted feeling has to come out at some point
and then they're gonna be processing their emotions
when they're freaked out
and they're forced to deal with it
and they're not enjoying it.
And it might be the first time they've thought
about their feelings in 10 years.
And so if you are, are one of these types
that's why it's good to realize, okay
I need to start going into that introverted feeling
and processing my emotions bit by bit.
And it's okay to have the feelings.
Like I don't need to shut them down.
My think it doesn't have to shut down my feeling.
The INTJ and ISTJ,
they have introverted feeling
as their third cognitive function
which means it's is not their preferred thing.
Like they would rather do thinking
but it's somewhat balanced.
It's not the worst thing in the world for them to deal with.
So for the INTJ is an ISTJs out there.
You probably, it's almost like,
I guess, a hobby for you to occasionally,
Oh man, I'm feeling this thing.
That's interesting.
So you're already on the path
theoretically of like figuring out the feeling
but make sure you don't suppress that.
Make sure that you embrace your feeling
as well allow yourself to go through it to process it
and really feel those emotions.
So for the ISFP,
INFP, ESFP, ENFP.
My advice to you,
I guess, would be don't feel
like you have to be all on your own.
Like, you can do a little bit of that fake,
extroverted feeling and you know, talk
about it with someone, you,
you don't have to put the full weight
of it on your shoulder.
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Going to the extrovert feelers,
the FJ types, the INFJ, ISFJ,
ESFJ, ENFJ.
They prefer extroverted feelings.
So they're already kind of doing this all the time
talking about their emotions,
talking about how they feel
about stuff and trying to get a gauge
on how does what I feel fall
into the range of what everyone else is feeling out there.
Those FJ types feel like processing emotion is something
that I should be doing with other people.
And then the other side of
that is they can even be like,
well, why don't you guys feel the way I feel about this?
We all need to get on the same page.
The ENFJ and ESFJ can be a bit more aggressive about that.
Because extroverted feeling is the dominant function.
INFJ and ISFJ can be a little bit more cool about it
but still they're all at some point gonna be
like trying to figure out why,
why do I,
if I feel differently
why do I feel differently?
Should I feel this way?
Why do you feel that way?
How can we all work that out?
And then we have the TP types,
the INTP,
ISTP, ESTP
and ENTP who don't prefer extroverted feeling
but they have it.
They prefer introverted thinking.
So like with the TJ types,
their thinking is trying to shut
down the feeling
and be like, yeah, we don't need to
we don't need to talk about feelings, okay?
We can just like, figure
out something some way to go around it.
And the people who will struggle the most
with that are the INTP
and ISTP
because extroverted feeling is their inferior function.
It's something they just really don't want to deal with.
And just like with the,
the ENTJ and ESTJ,
we talked about when it comes time
for them to process emotions
it's gonna take a long time
a lot of pressure building up,
and they're kind of they're gonna feel really weird
about it.
They're gonna kind of freak out a little bit
and they're like, okay
let me talk about how I'm feeling you jerk.
So I'm gonna tell you all about it.
ENTP at ESTP we'll have that problem,
but not that badly
they will be able to dip in to that FE,
the extroverted feeling.
And you can kind of tell when they're doing it
because they feel a little bit
(laughing)
They feel a little bit awkward about it.
Look at me,
I'm talking about emotions,
yay I'm playing this game with you guys,
but that's good.
Embrace that.
Embrace talking about emotions and trying to figure
out how do you feel by talking it out with people.
And that's another thing about extroverted feeling
that I hear a lot from extroverted feelers is they're like
I need to talk out how I'm feeling
in order to really get to the bottom of what I'm feeling.
It's like, I,
I think it has to do
with so many contradictory things,
so many different things they feel.
They will need to talk about all
of them to get to a point where they're like,
Oh, okay I feel this though interesting.
And for the INTP and ISTP
you got to start learning how to talk about emotion.
It doesn't have to be deep.
You know, the extroverted feelers were good
about talking about emotion in a way.
That's just like, you know,
on the surface,
that's okay.
Start there one little thing at a time.
Don't let it pile up.
I think the thinkers worry
if they talk about emotions,
they will look dumb
and you will.
(laughing)
But it's okay that this is what you're supposed to do.
You're supposed to, you know,
get those emotions out there
embrace them, talk about them.
And then for those FJ types,
I guess the thing I would tell you,
which is sort of like the analog
to what I told the introverted feelers,
you can do a bit of fake introverted feeling
and be like I don't necessarily have to figure out if what
I feel is appropriate or not,
or if it's the right thing to feel,
I can just feel it.
And that's okay.
Let me know in the comments,
what other stuff you wanna learn
about the 16 personalities.
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