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People love hearing their first name. I don't know if its an
ego boost or if there's some deep psychological principles and play,
but it's a sweet song that everyone loves to hear. Now, when your meeting
someone for the first time,
addressing them by their first name sparkes immediate report and kinda
friendship
and this may be because it shows that you took the time to remember the name,
that they stand out, but we're forever reason is you thought they were
important enough to remember the name. However,
in this video I wanna talk about a different use if someone's first name
and that's to snap back interaction equilibrium when you feel like you need
a little boost.
If you like the other person may think they're on top feel better catch a
little bit they need to become mixed up a little bit.
So what you do is your gonna break the flow of the conversation.
And I know when I see this may sound strange because usually I'm an advocate
of keeping the flow you want things to be smooth you want to energy to be nice
in rhythmic,
but in this instance you need to break whatever's going on to snap that person
out a bit to let them know
boom they're not about you you're on the same page. Stop, we need to stop,
we need to halt, we need to reassess things - but in a much smoother way by
using a first-name.
So let's take an example when someone talks over you.
This is pretty common and this is something that definitely shows
authority
over someone else talking over someone when they start to talk
where you're talking you keep talking or you will start talking the same time
B'ham right over you sure social status shows inferiority on the person who gets
talked over
so say on a conversation and
you're talking and someone just complete talks over you, so your like,"I was out there
yesterday it was beautiful...."
and you get completely erupted.
maybe you try to say something again you like yeah so we're doing it
and they just keep power over you deal easier to illustrate this about someone
here but
what you're gonna do once they're finished talking or once they sound like
they're getting towards the end of what we're talking
is your gonna start saying their first name so
you're gonna say it almost in a way like a parent would do their kid they did
something wrong
and then you're gonna pull back and see something
that's much more couch that's much worse easy to receive but the important thing
is
you're gonna break their flow and you're gonna make the then think wall
YZ YZ Kong by the name some say something i'm interrupting a sailor's
mark mark mark I completely agree with you
what you're saying right there okay see you see what I did those example
so you're gonna stop them with a very formal schooling use other names mark
mark mark
not completely agree with you now when we were out there
so all that showing its nice showing anything except for
you're not cool what i'm talking over you and its gonna snap them out whatever
psychological state they are
and garner respected authority towards you simply because
you're getting your attention in school the way so or the expected to say
mark mark mark that's absolutely wrong I don't know what you're talking about
you're not doing that this is a very console new offices in about the
advanced technique
so you're comin out hard you're going to get their attention you're gonna break
their train of thought they're gonna be
emotionally reactive to you because anytime someone hears the name a
scolding way
it perks for years %uh pinata not only like they're going to get dinner in a
way like they did something wrong this guy's mad at me
arm this guy has the authority mad at me with this guy got to do is is there to
be some sort
retribution so so mark mark mark mark monolith I completely agree with you
what you're saying about that
then you're gonna back off goal right back on a thread that you were talking
about
and all that's gonna show him is
you were cool with him cutting off a threat to interrupt the you were talking
over you
and you're gonna take that back and the way your gonna do it
is by cumming hard and then backing off pushing hard
and then really slow get the attention create the emotion
and then back off you actually agree with them so it should be a good emotion
that eventually
achieved by this interaction with a first-year head with the bat emotion
then you're backing off with the real good emotion they're not gonna
understand what happened they're not taking up okay here came across hearty
wanted to evoke emotion in the back but no no no
there are we know that it was an important point in the conversation for
them
but man it snappy interaction equilibrium right back in your favor
and it gave you a few points love social status and interaction
in addition to this this is a great thing to use honors other people around
so let's see your cocktail party your conversation maybe
old man had a few too many drinks you are a few too many pops at night
Israel Lucy's close be a lil disrespectful or people rounded
all marks there already are ya know your car and I
more more MORE with a I does hack your say and I i same thing at me
when you do that you getting the attention everyone around you
in the room depending on how loud you do it bring a large address them but
that's a great way to show tortillas sure about how to use a virus name
is very very powerful it can create a motion
when we use it on Allie over poor breaking tonality
you can create your poor right when we first meet someone and we're trying to
show that we remember who they are the important to us
you all these different things play around a bit see how using someone's
first name
can definitely invoke and emotion
whatever emotion you want that to be tried on different situations using
differences in CR you can do it
but I think this is to really great ways to start obviously when you meet someone
use the name a lot
but more importantly and more and less widely used is to get someone's
attention
sparked a hardcore motion back of
now you got the reaction you wanted now you got the floor now they know they're
not gonna walk all over you
and the conversations back and even keel where you want
I'm aircrews until next time