do you feel like your Man has become distant?
are you worried that he’s not calling, texting or wanting to see you like he did before?
do you want him to think about you and miss you more?
On this channel I have gone over several strategies to make a man miss you or to make him chase
you again.
And these tips work for a while, but when you stop using them, things often return to
the way they were before.
What you really need is for things to change permanently
So, if you’re frustrated that everything
you do seems to change nothing, then it’s time to focus on getting him addicted to you
and addicted to the feelings he has when he’s with you.
Then he will be constantly thinking about you, missing you and wanting to spend time
with you.
And all of that starts when you have some influence over his feel good neurotransmitters
Dopamine is a powerful neurotransmitter that
made in the brain and involved in neurological and physiological functioning.
Dopamine is known as the feel good neurotransmitter because it is strongly associated with pleasure,
reward, and positive mood.
But because dopamine is quickly metabolized
in the brain, the amazing feelings it produces are short lived and you are soon wanting more
and more of it, causing you to return to the original source for another hit.
this is known as the dopamine reward loop….
And as I’ll explain in this video, when you are able to influence his dopamine reward
loop, he will become practically addicted to you.
so the first step is really getting his dopamine flowing like a faucet.
OK.. so your brain releases hits of dopamine
When you see or interact with someone you are attracted to or have chemistry with.
and as a result, you feel amazing around that person.
And the more dopamine your brain releases, the more euphoric and amazing you will be
feeling.
So, you hang out with the person you’re attracted to, you get those hits of dopamine,
you feel amazing, and then you want to repeat that experience over and over.
Basically, That’s how addictions begin.
So, if you want a man to be thinking about
you all the time, missing you, and yearning to spend time with you, you must first maximize
the dopamine his brain releases when he’s with you, when he’s communicating with you,
and when he’s thinking about you.
And, the brain releases massive amounts of
dopamine when two conditions are met – The First condition is when you think about or
anticipate or have a pleasurable experience- and the second condition is when there is
uncertainty attached to whether or not you will have that experience.
think about the ways casinos get people addicted to gambling….
The casinos give players an opportunity to win an extremely high reward, right?
This is something that players anticipate, get excited about and dream about.
That’s the pleasurable experience and that’s coupled with
not being certain if they are going to win, or not.
So, you have this huge jackpot reward that is paired with uncertainty and BOOM….
That’s when dopamine is flooding your brain more than any other time.
It’s knowing that “maybe” this experience will happen that is addictive like nothing
else out there.
That keeps people hooked like a drug.
Again… the two necessary components – 1 a pleasurable reward and 2 there is uncertainty….
So, let’s make that happen with the man
you want to think about and miss you.
First, you want to get his dopamine flowing,
and to do that, you have to create a fun, light, and flirtatious vibe when you are
with him.
If this is someone new, it’s probably easy to do this.. but, if this is a person you’ve
already been dating, you still want to make his experience with you fun, light, flirtatious….
Not heavy or deep.
So give him your full attention..
make and keep eye contact..
flirt with him, be near him, And, while he is talking to you…, I want
you to look deeply into his eyes and think about how much you want him… think about
how attracted you are to him… and hold that stare.. give him your most seductive look…
because prolonged eye contact or gazing into someone’s eyes increases attraction.
Oh, and another thing..
And I want you to connect with him by using his first name when you are talking to him.
OK.. so if this is a new guy you’re talking to, the first part is easy.
But this is where things get more challenging.
if you want to amp up his dopamine, you also have to put limits on how much of your
time you give him.
That way you leave him wanting more and craving more from you.
So, Whether you are on a date with him, on
the phone with him, or texting him, you have to end those experiences early at least 80%
of the time.
It won’t always be like that, but If you want him to become addicted to you, regardless
of how much fun you are having or how connected you’re feeling, you have to end your dates,
conversations, and experiences when they are at their height.
You must resist the urge to follow the date
or experience or conversation through it’s natural progression.
You have to be the one who ends things on a high note.
The point is to end the date before it gets to the fizzle point.
Even if you could talk all night, you need to resist.
So Leave him after a couple of hours and at that particular moment when he feels the most
confident that the date is flawless.
This will make him remember the date more fondly, And it shifts the power directly to
you, and creates the craving part in him.
Trust me... this is super difficult to do but it’s also the most powerful.
So again, you are going to always leave him wanting more..
The next step….
you are going to have to make him experience some uncertainty.
Because remember, pleasurable experience plus uncertainty = tons of dopamine.
And, you create that uncertainty by not committing
to dates, calls, or other obligations too far in advanced..
so, when he asks you to do something, Instead of giving him a confirmed yes, you are going
to give him a maybe whenever possible.
Here.. let me show you…
Man says - How is your weekend looking….
Woman - I have a few errands to run, and I’m supposed to help my friend find a wedding
dress on Saturday.
Why, what’s up.
Man - I was hoping we could go to dinner and
do something on Friday or Saturday night.
Woman - That sounds like fun.. can I let
you know closer to the weekend….
Call me on Friday morning and maybe we can make it work.
Man.
- ok..
I’ll call you on Friday morning
And Just Like That….
You let him know that it sounds like fun and you are open to the plans, but you are not
sure when you are going to be available..
this is just enough uncertainty to spike his dopamine like crazy.
And I know some of you are thinking..
no way Antonio … if I don’t accept his invitation, he is going to feel rejected and
he probably won’t ask again.
I understand that concern..
but I promise you this….
If he asks you out, that means he wants to
see you.. and if you give him that “maybe”answer.. he is going to want to see you more than he
did before he asked because uncertainty adds to his anticipation and that spikes dopamine
way up.
I know it feels scary to do, but I promise, saying maybe rather than yes is super powerful.
Think about how you have felt in the past
when a man didn’t confirm plans with you and left them vague..
It makes you wonder more, it makes you think about it more… and it makes you want it
more.
That’s the power that uncertainty has over dopamine.
Again, this is not something you are going to be doing forever, but if the goal is to
get him addicted to you.. creating uncertainty works like magic.
3.
Be Unpredictable and thoughtfully surprise him.
People love thoughtful surprises.
Think about how you feel when you get an unexpected gift.. or bonus….
Or when you get an unexpected text or call from someone you like.
It’s a great feeling..
it’s much better than getting a gift you expected, right?
Well that’s because of dopamine too.
So To recreate that experience, I want you
to Sometimes surprise him with thoughtful texts
of appreciation or little gifts.
If he has been the one initiating communications and texts, sunrise him from time to time by
starting with a complimentary text.
Just make sure it isn’t all the time.. and make it unpredictable.
The second part of being unpredictable also
spikes his dopamine through uncertainty.
For that to happen, I Want you to Vary the timing of your responses to his communications
and texts.
This is based on the concept of a variable interval reinforcement schedule.
In psychology, a variable interval reinforcement schedule is the most powerful operant conditioning
tool used to shape behavior and learning.
and It’s so powerful because of it’s effects on his dopamine release.
So, basically, I want you to be unpredictable
with your texting response timing.
When he texts you, sometimes you will respond within seconds, sometimes within minutes,
sometimes within hours And when you do that, he is going to keep
checking his phone to see if you responded.. and that means that he’s Also going to be
thinking of you.. and when you do respond... he’s going to be excited to read it and
he’s going to get a hit of dopamine as part of that reward.. and that just reinforces
his behavior and motivation for you even more.
And don’t think for a minute that he is
going to lose interest..
That’s fear talking.
If you vary your response time, he will only be more interested and excited..
So, Vary the rate in which you respond.. and try to make it as random as possible..
Do this and I promise he will be thinking about you like crazy.
I’ve made other videos that are focused
on things you can do to help make a man fall in love with you by stimulating the production
of other hormones and neurotransmitters.