there is this story about an old man a grandfather actually who had eight grandchildren and one of
these grandchildren was a young girl a fifteen year old with fair hair and with the most
beautiful smile and he said this is my favorite grandchild but there was a problem she was born
blind but he said whenever I walk with her through the woods in the city I hear more I smell more I
see more I feel more he said she is a gem and pearl of my family he could have easily upset
wall she's blind a burden to my family it could not change the reality but he could change the
way he looked at that reality habit wanted to be proactive this is all about taking responsibility
for your life you can't keep blaming everything on your parents or grandparents track the people
recognize that they are responsible they don't blame genetics circumstances or conditionings
for their behavior they know they choose their behavior reactive people on the other hand are
so often affected by their physical environment that they find external sources to blame for their
behavior if a person is driving or commuting to work and there's no traffic actually they feel
good but if there's a lot of traffic it affects their attitude and performances throughout the
day then they blame the government and the traffic police all of these external forces
act as stimuli that we respond to between the stimulus and response is your greatest power
you have the freedom to choose your response one of the most important things you choose is what
you say your language is a good indicator of how you see yourself a proactive person uses proactive
language such as I can I will I prefer a reactive person uses reactive language such as I can't I
have to if only reactive people believe that they are not responsible that they have little
or no choice instead of reacting to or worrying about conditions over which they have little or
no control practices their time and energy things that they can control if you are always stuck in
traffic going to work or school a proactive person would not blame other motorists on the road or
the government for the traffic but would simply wake up earlier to avoid the morning traffic a
reactive person would keep complaining and making excuses as to why he or she was late the problems
the challenges and the opportunities that we face fall into two areas our circle of concern and our
circle of influence for act people focuses their time and energy on their circle of influence they
work on the things that they can do something about such as their health their weight and
their grades reactive people on the other hand focuses their time and energy in the circle of
concern things over which they have little or no control such as terrorism traffic and D whether
pessimistic people will always focus on all the troubles at the end and paralyzed by fear they
will never take action but an optimistic person focuses on all the possibilities and dreams and
driven by hope they take action habit - beginning with the end in mind this is all about imagining
and visualizing whatever it is that you want then solve by working our way backwards to get
whatever it is that you want let's say there was a guy named Joe Wright if you want to the startup
business quit is a boring nine-to-five and become financially free so Joe has always been passionate
about food and for so long he had always wanted to start a restaurant so Joe can use happy to to
envision every detail as vividly as possible of what he wants his restaurant to become so
Joe has done his research just clearly mapped out every detail where the chairs and tables
should be the color of the walls the size of the windows the chef to hire and the locality
so basically Joe has the clear vision of what he wants to accomplish beginning with the end in
mind is based on the principle that all things are created twice there's a mental or first creation
in the physical or second creation to all things so you begin with the end of the mind then layer
by layer step by step you draw a clear course beginning with the end before you invest your
percent your first dollar have already envisioned in your mind you cannot at present see with your
eyes the Carpenters rule is measure twice cut once you have to make sure that the blueprint
the first creation is really what you want that you have thought through everything when you
apply it into action beginning with the end in mind mean its begin each day a task or project
with a clear vision of your desired direction and destination and then continue by flexing
your proactive muscle to make things happen always remember from small beginnings come great things
have a three putting first things first things which matter most must never be at the mercy of
things which matter at least Johan Wolfgang von Goethe setting your priorities straight and of
procrastinating on English models is fundamental for productivity and a happy life habit is about
life management your purpose your values your role in your priorities those things you personally
find almost worth if you have always wanted to start a project start exercising or get better
grades in school then you must identify this gold as fundamental and using habits
you to first envision vividly what you want to accomplished and begin to employ it into action
Bruce Lee you want said knowing is not enough we must apply willing is not enough we must do