So, it's Valentine's Day coming up.
But I am asking.. Like, what are you doing for that special person on Valentine's
Day? Someone wrote this great book called The Love Languages. And they claim
there's 5 of them. They say physical touch, they say acts of
service, they say words of affirmation. What are the other ones? -Buy rocks.
-Buy rocks is not one of them. And I learned something. It's all a lie.
Men have one love language. It's physical touch. We're like dogs. Just pet us and
we're happy and we're loyal. Women on the other hand are complicated. They're
confusing. So, we have all of these other love languages for them. Sometimes they
want to be pets. Sometimes they want a present. You buy them something. You serve
them. You take them on a trip. You tell the wonderful things. You talk about
beautiful they are. Do you hear me, men? And if you do this well enough regularly,
every day making an investment, then guess what? Then that special someone feels loved.
And this channel is all about investing. But sometimes you think it's
about business, sometimes to give our real estate. But the principles are the
same. Like look at this ugly rock.
I look at this this and I'm like, "Big ugly rock." This thing's
expensive. I bought this thing for my wife because she's like, "Black Tourmaline
has magical properties that keeps dark energy away." I'm like, "Great. Let's buy the
rock." That is a lamp. It has fluoride. And when it's limit behind, it's really
pretty. I really don't get this whole rock thing. -Yeah, you do. You like it. -I get my
wife though. And you know what? Sometimes what we do as human beings is we argue
with our spouse or our loved ones. Because
what we want to do is we want to project the way we want love onto them. If I feel
loved this way, you must want to love this way. You know what? These rocks are
such an excellent...
Rocks are such a perfect example. My wife loves these things. It was 5 straight
days of looking at millions of rocks. And guess what? Never tires. I've never seen
stamina this woman like that before. And you know what? I don't have to get it. All
I know, that makes her happy. And honestly, when I got married, I was married by Kaleen's
grandfather. And I made him a promise. He looked at me right before he wed us. And he
said, "Do you promise to do everything in your power to make your wife happy?" And I
thought about that and I said, "Dude, I would do anything for this
woman's happiness." Relationships inevitably go through the slump though.
Like, in the beginning, everything is so amazing. But then all of a sudden you get
to a level where you kind of know everything about each other. And then you
kind of hit this downward thing. Every relationship does it. And the only way to
bring yourself back up... You see a lot of us will focus on like what's not working
or what we're frustrated about our relationships. But the reality is how you
created magic in the beginning still works later in the relationship. I've
been married to this woman for 18 years.
And I'll tell you something. You marry super young. So, glad I did because we
have all this history. And I've learned that grandpa was right. Me doing
everything I can in my power for this woman's happiness.
Unconditionally without expecting anything back
is hugely is a key to success. Now my wife
probably believes that this magic rock, if I sit on it will like
do wonderful things for me. Because of all the magical healing property of the rocks.
But reality is this rock is nothing more than expression of love.
-"Rock" sounds generic.
-Amazing piece of live. That's all this to me. To her, it's purple
amethyst. -Well, that one just happens to be my
birth stone. -Great. Birth Stone, awesome. -And February stone. -So, check this out. This is
super important. When you are loving your lover, when you're giving them everything because by
the way for 18 years, every day I'd turn my wife and I tell her, "I'm giving you
everything. I'm going to give you everything. I have given you everything."
Because I've given her my whole heart. Everything I produce, everything I've
created. And then every dream that she has I want to do everything in my power
manifest it. So, here's the secret to an amazing relationship. It's not just
giving your spouse or your lover. It's not about just
giving them what they want. It's how you give it to them. In other words want to
give it to them. Desire to get it to them. What I'm basically saying is
you have to become an advocate for what your spouse wants. So want it for them
more than they want it. And they will love you.
-It looks even better in real life. -There is no such thing as
falling out of love. There's simply choosing to stop doing
the things that you did in the beginning to fall in love. Love can last a whole
lifetime. And it's up to you to take responsibility for the relationship. How
limited it is. How fully expressive it is. Being loving, being patient, being there
for that incredible person no matter what. That's your job. Sometimes, I
hear about people are like, "We just fell apart. We fell out love." I'm like, "Dude, you treat it
like from victim. Like something that just happened to you." Like love happened
to you and then love went away from you. It's like take responsibility. If you're a
relationship and you want the more loving it, guess who just to create that.?
Knock them. That's your job. You're responsible by the way. It's not even
their job to make you happy. Only you can make yourself happy. My wife
does everything that I love that she does. I still can decide whether it makes
me happy or sad. So, she may create this amazing invitation for me to be happy
and feel loved. But it's ultimately up to me whether I do it or not. So, this is why
I believe we all need to recognize the emotional genius from within. Step into
it and become it. I fell like I'm giving birth to big yellow stone.
Gold-color. Is it heart -shaped? Well, that's pretty.
Love, it's kind of a funny game. If I lost on my wealth, I could rebuild it. I lost
my health I would try to win it back. But if I lose my love then none of it health
matters and none of the wealth matters. At the center of having it all is your
ability to connect meaningfully and to choose to be first-class world's best
version of you that can give yourself to someone entirely. This Valentine's Day, do
that. Don't give a part of yourself. Don't give some of yourself. Don't give most of
yourself. Give every part of who you are because love makes it all worth it. It's
the fuel for life, it's the fuel for happiness. And you have do you live your
most amazing life. To do that, you don't have to buy while money's worth for the
stones. But for that love in your life, there is something that you can do today.
Ask yourself what's their love language. How do they receive love in the most
meaningful way? And then unconditionally but still that gift, do it in the biggest
way you ever have before. Give as much love as you're absolutely capable of.
Imagine that was your last channel is planet and give everything that you can.
And if you can find a way every single day to live that way, you will be a happy
fulfilled person. Alright. Hey, thanks for watching today's video.
I mean, Valentine's day totally epic for yourself. Remember, it's up to you to
literally create the most amazing wonderful life of your dreams. This by the way is my
wife's little sanctuary. It is her salt room. Because salt has known magical properties of wonder.
But it makes her happy and I'm happy when she's happy. So, listen. If you're not
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