- In this video,
I will share with you five situations
where a man promise you the world
and don't follow through with it.
I will also explain why it happens and how to handle it.
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those five situations where men promise you the world
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So here comes spend number one,
he is promising you things
because he wants something from you.
His promises are a form of flattery.
Him giving you a lot of flattery and promises, charming you,
is his way of showing you that he is attracted to you,
that he is some of what invested in you.
Meaning that he feels the chemistry,
therefore wants to promise you the world
and make you feel amazing so you would like him too.
Flattery and promises are a very light way
of investing in a woman.
It's like a beautiful poem.
Everyone likes to hear it,
but it doesn't mean that the words have truth.
They are there just for enjoyment.
And just because we enjoy it,
it doesn't mean that we should believe in everything
and be naive and gullible with it.
It doesn't mean you should move quickly with him
because he's selling you a fantasy that you love to hear.
Don't jump into bed with him,
or actually think that he has fallen in love with you
from the moment that he has seen you.
All of this flattery will make you think
that he has fallen head over heels for you.
You, in return, will want to give your whole self to him
in the first couple of dates, weeks or months,
please don't do it.
All he's using is a sales pitch to get you hooked.
And if you will give yourself too soon in every way,
he will most likely be gone in no time
as he will feel like you are just way too easy.
Therefore, be wise.
Try not to underestimate man.
In fact, I would recommend to overestimate them.
After all, they are the ones that are coming with strategies
on how to seduce women.
And if falling in love at first sight was true,
he would be falling in love at first sight
with every attractive woman that he meets.
Ladies, men fall in love by spending quality time with you.
So if you want to be with a charmer,
you must behave in a correct way,
by being smart, high value, setting in boundaries,
respecting and valuing yourself,
and observing his actions,
observing his behavior.
Therefore, let him charm you,
as it's a natural and wonderful feeling to be charmed.
However,
understand he is trying to charm you and impress you
for you to like him and show you his best cards.
Number two reason where men promise women a lot
is when they feel guilty.
So for example,
maybe you have been acting high value
and he has been falling for you,
but then you started to act low value here and there
and he started to lose attraction for you.
And you guys are supposed to have a date,
but he cancels on you last minute,
because something came up.
He gives you an excuse
that something came up totally last minute
and leaves you hanging,
because he's not attracted to you enough
to give you his time.
So, he cancels on you.
However,
when you text him a message saying how disrespectful it was
and how much you miss him,
and you were looking forward to the date,
and now he feels guilty,
'cause you still have some form of connection and bond,
or perhaps he's just a guy with good banter.
And because he feels guilty on canceling on you last minute
or ghosting you, he promises to step it up to you.
Now, ladies,
a lot of times when a guy has lost
quite a bit of attraction for you
and he cancels the date and then he still feels guilty
so he promises you to make it up to you,
a lot of times to the make it up part doesn't happen.
Why? Because guys don't date women out of guilt.
Guys date women that they are attracted to.
So if he started to cancel on you,
I would recommend for you
to reflect back on your date and see,
perhaps maybe one of the reasons why he's canceling
is 'cause you turned him off somewhere along the lines.
And of course, maybe it's not your fault, maybe it is.
I'm just saying, reflect back on your behavior,
because most likely if he's canceling on you
it's because he has lost some attraction for you.
So you need to figure out why it happened
so it doesn't happen in the future.
Number three,
he is promising you things because he is enjoying the fun.
So for example,
let's say he charmed you or perhaps he didn't charm you,
you guys just started hanging out
and maybe you even jumped on him
and you guys slept together,
and now you guys have this type of casual relationship
or casual one night stand, or just something totally casual.
And you guys meet up, let's say,
once in a blue moon for sex,
but you're not letting him go
because secretly you kind of want more.
And when you guys spend time together having sex,
he drops you in things,
such as, oh, you'll make such a great wife someday
or any man would be lucky to have you,
yet he himself is not dating you properly.
He is not taking you out.
He is not introducing you to family and friends.
He's seeing you once a month and it's always a hookup.
So what he's doing here,
he's promising you things to keep you around
because he's enjoying that fun with you.
If you're falling for these little breadcrumbs,
I'm sorry to tell you,
but you are really highly disrespecting yourself
and you're behaving in a very, very naive way.
But if you're really, really into him
and you see a lot of potential in him,
check out my video,
How to Turn Friends with Benefits into a Relationship,
which you will find just by following the link right here.
Number four, in a relationship,
he makes promises to keep you around,
to drag you along as long as he can.
A lot of men want to squeeze as much as they can out of you
by investing as little as they can in you.
If he has not made anything official,
I mean, engagement or marriage,
it's because he's dragging it out on purpose.
Men hold the key to the relationship.
So he might tell you he wants to marry you,
but not to give you actions.
That's because he's only telling you
what you want to hear in the moment
and buying himself some more time
without actually giving you any real action.
It's kind of like when they tell you
that they will put that shelf up and then never do it,
until you get someone else to do it
and then they complain that you were impatient.
Some will even go as far as to tell you
that before he can marry you,
he needs to move in with you just to see, do you guys fit.
That he really wants to have a baby with you first.
Encourages to start a business with you.
And even after he has done all of this,
he will turn around and tell you that actually,
he has commitment issues.
He doesn't feel emotionally ready yet,
and that you don't need marriage, because guess what?
It's just a piece of paper.
By this time,
you will be so heavily invested
that you will find yourself stuck and unable to say no.
And this is how you ladies get trapped.
Therefore,
I would really recommend to have a timeframe for yourself.
You don't even need to tell him that.
And if by the end of that timeframe,
the relationship has not grown to where you want it to be,
then be willing to walk away
so you're not wasting your time
and he can no longer take advantage of you.
And if he's serious about you,
he will give you what you want to keep you.
If not, you have to just save yourself
for many more years of a relationship
that won't go anywhere.
Number five why men promise you the world and don't deliver
'cause he is not a man of his word.
And he lets people down regularly
as he doesn't take responsibility for what he says
or what he does.
He's always all over the place.
You feel like you can't trust him or rely on him.
This usually happens with men that were spoiled as children
and had a bit of a toxic upbringing.
So they were able to change their mind every few seconds
and everything was just going their way.
Ladies, if that's the case,
and you're dating a man that's really irresponsible,
that you cannot rely on,
that promises you one thing and does another,
I would highly recommend you to say, thank you, next.
Because with these type of guys,
the truth is when you start to date them,
the red flags come out very, very quickly.
He literally starts to let you down,
a lot of times before even making it to that date.
Or even if he makes it to a date,
he usually lets you down on a date
or at least on a second date.
Don't keep going with him,
thinking about perhaps the next date he will make it up
and things will be better.
Just observe his actions,
look at it as it's very immature,
it's very irresponsible, it's very toxic,
and just purely not good enough.
Number six where a guy promises you the world
and doesn't deliver, is when you have changed.
So maybe in the beginning when he was dating you,
perhaps you weren't that into him,
so he had to pursue you, he had to charm you.
He was sweeping you off your feet
'cause you weren't acting needy, clingy.
You weren't pursuing, you were being feminine,
you weren't putting him on a pedestal.
But perhaps when you started to fall for him
and getting more emotionally attached,
you started to over-give, wear your heart on the sleeve,
pursue and make him into your everything.
Therefore, he started to lose attraction for you.
When he started to lose attraction for you,
you started to see that he is not delivering
on his promises.
And, ladies, this is a natural cycle.
If in the beginning, when he was really, really into you
and he was promising you things and delivering on them
and now he is not,
I would recommend to look at your own behavior.
Have you changed?
Reflect back on your own actions
on what you say and what you do.
'Cause if he used to be a man of his word
and do things correctly because he was so into you
and wanted to sweep you off your feet,
instead he's coming up with excuses,
it's very likely because you have changed,
'cause you're behaving differently from before
and he doesn't want to go out of his way
to charm you anymore.
Because his attraction for you is on a low now.
So if, by reflecting back on your relationship,
you see that this is the case,
I would really recommend you to check out my video,
What is a Woman of High Value?
You can find just by following the link right here.
Number seven, which is just a bit of a common sense,
promised you something and didn't deliver.
Maybe it's simply perhaps because he was just not able
to do it at this time.
Maybe he really, really wanted to do it
and was going out of his way to do it
but something more important has happened
and he just can't do it at the time being.
People make mistakes and nobody's perfect.
And if somebody breaks a promise once in a blue moon,
well, forgiveness is a lovely trait to have.
If you're gonna let it go, not gonna hold it against him,
you will still show him that you trust him.
I'm sure in the future you will make it up to you for it
and everything be just fine.
As I said, nobody's perfect,
people are not perfect,
and forgiveness is a very good trait.
Saying that, when things go off once in a blue moon,
this is when it's understandable.
When things go wrong and he keeps promising
and not delivering every single week,
this is when we have a problem.
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