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My son catches my wife cheating while on spring break.
My son and I talked about two weeks before he was supposed to come on spring break.
I wasn't going to be home because I had to go away on business for my job.
He said that some of the airlines had limited seating and wasn't sure that the airline was flying to his location.
I told him to keep an eye out because the restrictions were easing because of the drop in COVID-19 cases.
He said he would let me know if anything changes, but nothing changed until a few days ago.
When he called me one morning, asking what we should get mom for mother's day, since I won't be home yet. Then all of a sudden, he calls me and says he
will be able to get a flight on Delta that is going straight to our city, but it's going to be expensive.
I told him, give me the information and I will book the flight for you.
He was overjoyed because his mother isn't expecting him for another week and he will be able to surprise her.
So, a couple of days go by and today he is preparing to travel to the airport to fly home and surprise his mom.
He gets to the airport and calls his mom just to make small talk.
He tells me that he called mom just to chat for a few minutes to see how she is doing, etc.
He didn't tell her he was coming home.
His flight was scheduled to be there around 11:00 PM.
Right before he boards the plane.
He calls me and says, dad, I am getting ready to get on the plane.
I love you.
I will call you when I land at about 10:50 PM, I get a call from my son saying he has landed and he was going to go get his luggage.
After that, call an Uber to take him home.
He didn't want to call his mom because that will spoil the surprise.
So, we speak for a few minutes and he tells me he got his luggage.
Now, he is going to make the call to Uber so he can get home to surprise his mom. At about 11:32 PM.
I get a call from my son saying he has made it home and he will see me in a couple of days.
I get home on Friday evening, my wife and my son both greet me at the door.
We are hugging each other, laughing and talking, etc.
As the evening progresses, we get a little hungry and we order pizza.
My wife said she didn't feel like cooking.
So, we order pizza.
The night ends with us all having a little too much to drink.
And we all retired to our respective rooms. Early.
The next day, my wife says she has a hair appointment and says she will be leaving soon.
She says to me, she is happy.
Our son is home for spring break.
She wasn't expecting him for another week.
I said I know, we planned the surprise.
I walked my wife to the door.
She tells me she will call me after her hair appointment.
I say, okay.
And we kiss goodbye.
After she leaves, a few minutes go by and my son asks me if mom has gone.
I said, yes, she is, why? he said he wanted to tell me something.
I said, what is it?
I came through the back door when I got home.
It was dark inside, but there were nightlights throughout.
So I could still see, as I was going upstairs, I hear mom's voice and another man's voice coming from your bedroom.
I was startled for a second because I knew it wasn't you.
The door was almost all the way open, Dad, they were having sex.
I said, what?
Yes, she was having sex with this guy.
I made sure they didn't see me.
I didn't interrupt because she could say I was seeing things.
So through all of that, I made an audio recording on my iPhone.
I couldn't make a video because the light would come on and it would give me away with the audio recording, wherever it's made.
It will give the location where the audio recording was taken.
I told my son, let me hear the recording.
I was in shock at first, but I needed to hear the recording.
My son goes to get his phone and plays back the recording.
Wow, sure enough.
There were the sounds of her and this guy having sex.
My heart skipped a beat.
I told my son to hold onto the recording.
Do not delete it.
A few hours go by.
And my wife calls me and tells me she is on her way.
Home from her hair appointment.
20 minutes go by.
My wife walks in the door.
My son is in the rec room with a beer and his phone.
As soon as she gets in the door, I said, we need to talk.
She says, okay, is everything okay?
I said, no, everything is not okay.
You are cheating on me.
She looks at me and says, what, what are you talking about?
I am not cheating on you.
I told my son to come here and bring his phone.
He brings his phone.
gives it to me.
I play the audio recording and I show her the location it was recorded from.
She denies it repeatedly.
I tell her in front of our son to stop lying to me.
She starts crying hysterically and says that she was lonely.
I was always gone for work.
I tell her, look what you have done.
You have ruined our marriage.
She starts apologizing and telling me she will never do it again.
But, I tell her that is not good enough.
I proceeded to ask her who is this guy that she cheated on me with?
She tells me he is a Sheriff's deputy at the local police department.
I tell her that I am going to report him.
And she says, no, don't she tells me he will lose his job if you do.
But, I say it is not about the guy who you cheated with.
It's about our marriage, which I don't think I want to stay in.
I said, why are you protecting the guy you cheated on me with?
I said, you don't love me anymore.
She, again, apologizes for what she has done.
I tell her to stop.
I am tired of hearing that and I don't believe you.
I then asked her how many times she has cheated on me.
She says she can't tell me.
I say, I need to know.
NOW! She starts to cry and tells me that it has been more than 10 times.
Over eight years, we have been married.
I say, oh my God, my son hears this and starts crying.
He can not believe what he just heard.
I look at her and say, you just destroyed this marriage.
You threw it all away.
I also tell her, you're going to regret your decision for cheating on me and destroying our family.
That night.
I slept in the guest bedroom and my wife slept in our bedroom.
The next day.
I tell my son that after he goes back to college, after spring break, I will probably be in a different home or apartment whenever he comes to visit.
After chatting with my son, my wife comes into the guest bedroom and asks, can we talk?
I said, I don't really have much to say.
She says, please just let me say something.
I said, before you open your mouth, I am planning to go see an attorney to see what my options are in divorce.
She starts crying and says, are you going to throw this all away?
I said, you already did that.
You cheated on me more than 10 times.
In the eight years we have been married.
There is nothing you can say.
What can you say to justify your actions sleeping with all those men?
As I was saying those things, the angrier I got, I told her I don't want to talk to her.
Get out of my face.
She walks out of the guest room, crying.
Later that day, I call an attorney who happens to be a friend of the family.
I asked him, what is the process of filing for divorce and the costs emotionally and financially.
I also tell him why I'm filing for divorce.
He says that the process will take about 90 days and cost me around $2,500.
I also asked my attorney about assets and he tells me that I will get to keep the house and other assets.
You need to do it right.
He says, if you are sure about divorce, you need to make sure you do everything right.
So the divorce can go in your favor.
After talking to the attorney, my son comes up to me and tells me he doesn't want to stay in the house while his mom is there.
He can't stand to look at her.
So, he was going to go stay at a friend's house for the remainder of spring break.
I was devastated, but I didn't want to hold him back.
He was traumatized by this and just wanted to get out of the house.
I agreed and told him to make sure it was okay with his friend's parents.
A couple of hours go by.
My son is packed and ready to go stay at his friend's place.
I drive him to his friends and we said goodbye for now.
He was scheduled to fly back.
Next week, when I get back to the house, my wife is sitting on the couch, crying and said, she will let me have everything.
She wasn't going to fight in the divorce.
I was stunned.
I didn't know what to say right away.
I said, I want this to be as painless as possible.
She then asks me, can she stay in the house until she finds her a place?
I said, okay.
As long as you make an effort to find another place, because this marriage is over, I went to bed and I was laying there for a couple of hours thinking about everything that just happened.
My whole life just changed in less than 36 hours from a happy family to wanting to file for divorce as fast as I can, as days go by.
My son has since flown back to school, I have gone back to work.
I took a few days off from this whole ordeal.
My wife has been looking for another place to live.
Meanwhile, I call the attorney and tell him what my wife said about going away without fighting.
He mentioned something about getting a notarized statement.
Stating that fact, when I get home, I asked my wife the guy's name.
She was cheating with.
She wouldn't tell me because of fear of losing his job at the police station.
I shook my head in disbelief as to why she was protecting him.
Later that night, my wife comes into my room and says she has found a place to live and we'll be moving out in two weeks.
She hugs me and says she is sorry for betraying me and breaking up our family.
I look at her and say, I am in disbelief.
All this is taking place, but we can't do this anymore because of your actions.
She understood with tears rolling down her face.
She walks away to the bedroom we once shared. The next day, I go to work and work a full shift.
I pull up to my driveway and notice there is a moving van in the driveway.
I find my wife and ask her.
I thought you were not moving for another two weeks.
She says, she asked the landlord as she could move in earlier, he agreed, but she had to come up with more money.
So, she says, whenever you want me to sign the divorce papers, I am willing to do that.
I said, are you willing to put that in writing in a notarized statement?
She says, yes.
I then asked her, why are you going away
so quietly? She indicated that she was the one that caused all of this, breaking up the family and ruining the marriage by cheating on me.
This concludes this Reddit Relationship Advice video.