are you somebody who finds yourself falling into self-pity over and over
again and you don't know how to get out of it
stay tuned because in this depression hacks I'm going to teach you my method
for getting through self-pity to get you out of that depressive funk
what's up everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the
problem but focus on the solution so me as some of you know I'm a recovering
drug addict and alcoholic so not only did I like to party my favorite party
that I used to go to was a good old fashioned pity party I used to love just
sitting in my room by myself or curling up on my bed in that fetal position
isolating stuck in my thoughts thinking about how this person's life is better
than mine why is my life not better why am i single why don't I have the job I
want why don't I make the money I want all these things I would just sit there
and fuel my own depression by sitting in this pity party and if you're watching
this and you've ever struggled with depression you know exactly what I'm
talking about this is something I talk with my clients about all the time
because I work with a lot of people who struggle with depression and first I
start talking about the root causes of self-pity
now something I will do more videos on is how to rewire your brain to be in
more control of your life in your situations because once you start
realizing how much control you do actually have over your situations then
you start to see how much more you can actually do because a lot of self-pity
is based on expectations expectations that the brain makes up like my life
should be better I should have a better job I shouldn't be single I should it be
home alone right now I should have more friends all these shoulds in our brain
and I will make a video talking about how we start expanding the areas of
control that we do have and we start taking back this control which makes it
less likely to fall into that self-pity so this depression
has the reason you're here with me today is to talk about my self-pity method so
there is a very good reason why I start every video about how we talk about the
problem but focus on the solution as I mentioned in other videos I'm sick and
tired of people out there just talking about the problem and never giving the
solution for it so when I started actively working on my mental health and
actively rewiring my brain to change my habits my behaviors my thoughts my
emotions as well as overcome a lot of symptoms of mental illness I had to
learn how to stick in the solution so I have over a hundred videos on here many
of them are providing you with solutions so my self pity method is that I would
time it I would time it like I want everybody who's watching this to be
perfectly clear on one thing it's okay to feel it's okay to feel bad
it's okay to feel sad it's okay to feel angry it's okay to feel upset it's okay
to cry all of these things are okay they're normal human emotions and
they're there for a reason that's what makes life life you know like once you
get through this and start working on some more of these things you'll start
to learn how to love these emotions because they actually make you realize
that you're alive but what I had to do was I had to start timeing my self-pity
now in the beginning when I was doing this it was a long stretch I would do
this for hours and hours on end but eventually I narrowed it down to about
three hours so for three hours do your thing go lay down lay in bed
isolate eat a tub of ice cream watch movies think about how the whole world's
against you and sucks all this stuff at the end of that time that's when you
flip the switch and you say now it's time to get in the solution okay this is
what I started doing I would give myself a block of three hours okay so if it was
nine o'clock in the morning or give myself into noon and then I was like
okay now what's the solution and there was
plenty of solutions whether it was meditating whether it was going to hang
out with friends whether it was journaling anything that I know is going
to help get me out of that funk because if we don't set a time limit on it that
starts to expend and take up our whole day it starts to occupy the space in our
brain the entire day about how we just feel terrible about ourselves and I
always try to teach this to my clients who struggle with any type of mental
illness when you isolate you're locked in the same room as the enemy all right
so we have to go and be proactive and do things I always tell you this I have
never not once in my entire life worked with somebody or met anybody who has
solved any problem by sitting around isolating in self-pity and stuck in
their own thoughts I had not met anybody who has made that a solution so you need
to recognize that and then go out and start pursuing that solution whatever it
may be browse around my channel I have a ton of
videos depression hacks videos other videos about rebuilding relationships
how to work through anxiety stuff about addiction all sorts of things so make
sure you're checking out my other playlists because I'm here to provide
you with a lot of solutions so if you're somebody who constantly find yourself
stuck in self-pity start giving yourself a time limit give yourself a time limit
for a week and every week start decreasing it by about thirty minutes oh
yeah so started three hours decrease into two
and a half hours two hours and eventually you'll start seeing that
you're retraining your brain to actively pursue that solution a lot sooner than
you ever have before all right so I hope this helped you out if you have any
questions make sure you leave them in the comments below as well as
suggestions for other videos if you're struggling with anything regarding
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mental health and also like I mentioned before if you check to the left side of
this screen you'll see there are extra videos that you can
check out too so thanks again for watching this is Chris from the rewired
soul I'll see you next time