Tripp Kramer here from www.trippadvice.com.
What I've found over the time of my own personal journey with understanding women and my journey
of being a coach helping men understand women, is that a lot of guys come from the idea that
it's all about your looks, the amount of money you have in your bank account, your status
that really affect attraction.
And while those absolutely affect attraction, there is another part that most guys either
are not completely aware of or don't spend a lot of focus on.
That is the way that you're behaving when you're with a woman, your behavior.
I like to say, your behavioral cues or some of the intangible things that you possess.
If we're talking about the tangible things like money, status, looks, the things that
you can see.
We're talking about you in terms of your behavior, the way that you're acting.
Yes, you can see it.
But it's more about the way you behave, more intangible stuff that affects the way that
a woman looks at you and affects the way she becomes attracted to you.
While a lot of guys are playing the money look status game (which is a really hard game
to play) I want to teach you how to do the other side of things.
How to change your behavior, the way you act, and the way that you are as a person in terms
of being able to attract more women.
The good news is what I found, through my own experience and through coaching and through
learning from other people, is that your behaviors work way more powerfully in terms of the game
of attraction than anything else.
Yes, you're going to have on one end of the spectrum, women who are gold diggers, women
who are trying to go after guys for just their money and their looks and things like that.
Great.
Let them have that.
Those are not women that you want anyway.
Let's have you focus on what's going to attract not only a quality woman but a beautiful woman
as well.
Yes, it is possible doing this just through your behavior.
On this video, what I want to talk about are the 5 behaviors that women are most attracted
to, that they really love.
And I'm not talking about chivalrous behaviors.
I'm not gonna be going into the idea of holding the door open or paying for the first meal
or anything like that.
We're not talking about those behaviors.
We're talking about the behaviors that you do on a consistent basis when you're with
a woman that's happening throughout the entire interactions.
These are going to be a little bit more associated with your personality traits, your masculine
traits, the way that you portray yourself.
Let's get into it.
The first behavior is what I like to call non-neediness.
I'm not really sure that's an actual term an actual word, non-neediness but I like to
say it like that because that's exactly what we're doing.
We're not being needy.
If we want to actually put a real word to that, I would say that can be secure in who
you are or just confident.
We talk a lot about confidence.
A lot of guys hear about confidence, a lot of women say I like a guy who's confident.
But what does that really mean?
What that really means is you being non-needy or secure.
When you're needy, that means that you're desperate.
And the behavior that you're going to be doing when you're very needy is going to be texting
a lot, putting a girl on a pedestal, doing anything that she wants to do, not having
your own opinion, trying to hang out with her all the time, not having your own life,
always trying to contact her so you can get some attention, being really focused on seeking
attention from her.
Those are all needy behaviors.
You want to do non-needy behaviors.
What does non-needy look like?
I would say the best way to explain non-needy or to be non-needy would be someone who has
their own life, who has a lot of things going for them that doesn't have to do with the
woman.
That means you're doing things outside of the relationship or outside of dating.
It's allowing you to have your own purposes and goals outside of her.
A lot of guys that don't have their life together or don't have any sort of purpose or hobbies
or anything going on really focus on making her the center of attention.
And when that happens they end up trying to get a lot of our attention, always hanging
out, always texting, things like this.
And that is you being very insecure.
Rarely does it come from a place of you just being like no I just I just really want to
hang out with her.
No, it comes from you seeking validation, always trying to seek validation from the
women that you're with.
And the best way to not be needy is making sure that you're doing other things and you're
filling your life up with other things and stuff that doesn't have to do with you trying
to get attention from her.
And she's gonna know this, she's gonna know that if you're busy doing things, that you
have a life and she's gonna be attracted to that.
And she's going to know that you're not gonna be reaching out to her all the time to hang
out and be climbing on top of her whenever you have the chance.
No, you have to be secure in who you are, confident in who you are and have a life filled
with doing things other than trying to get her attention.
Beyond having a life and purpose and doing things like that, there still could be something
inside of you that says I'm not good enough, that says I'm not secure in who I am, that
says I'm not confident in who I am.
So you seek validation to be able to reassure yourself.
The problem is, this is like filling up a bucket of water with a hole in it.
Meaning you'll never be able to fill up that bucket.
There's always going to be a leak.
That's what's happening with you right now.
If you're insecure, if you're feeling like you don't have a lot of self-esteem, you may
be seeking external validation, you may be going outside of yourself, ie the woman that
you're with, a woman that you're trying to date in order to get that.
Instead you have to come to a place where you are okay with who you are and accepting
who you are as a person.
That's deep.
That's a big concept.
We can't go over how to do that in this video.
A great place to start though is by seeing a therapist or a psychologist to get into
some of those inner demons and figure out why you're not looking at yourself in a way
that says, I respect myself, I like myself, I love myself and I have high self-esteem.
Again, not to throw you off track here, we're talking about neediness and making sure that
you're always non-needy, secure, and confident in what's going on with your life and who
you are so you're not always trying to get her attention.
She's going to see you being needy as a weakness, that actually is.
Let's strengthen up what's going on inside of you.
The next one is unpredictability.
Unpredictability is a behavior that women absolutely love.
Women love to have a variety, women love their emotions to be spiked, they love drama, they
love intense stuff.
Meaning they like excitement and if you're predictable, you are boring.
Predictable equals boring, equals a loss of attraction because things aren't interesting
anymore.
Here's the thing.
The good news is, this is not so much of a problem.
When you're doing an approach or talking to a girl or in the very beginning of dating.
Usually unpredictability or at least a problem of predictability comes in later on when you
guys have been dating for a while.
Because if you're doing everything right, if you're approaching a woman, and you feel
confident and you're having interesting conversation, you have a life going for you.
That is going to be already unpredictable because you are a guy who she rarely meets.
She's usually meeting a guy who's very boring, who's talking about the same stuff and asking
her the same questions and who's not unique and blah, blah, blah.
If you are learning the stuff that I'm teaching you here on the Tripp Advice channel or in
my Hooked program, then you're already winning that part.
But what happens is you end up dating a girl for a while, things get predictable, they
get boring because you get into a routine because things start to repeat it themselves.
There's only so much things that you can talk about, there's only so many things that you
can do.
And so while this takes a little bit of work, it's absolutely worth it if you want to be
able to maintain attraction.
Yeah, it's a little challenging at first, but it's going to help you have an interesting
relationship and it's going to keep you involved in the relationship too.
Making sure that things are spontaneous, you have a variety of things that you guys are
doing, whether it's inside the bedroom or it's you guys doing different date nights
or doing trips or talking about different topics.
Not going how was your day today and how was your day today and just repeating this same
things over and over and having the same meals and doing the same things.
And another good way to to be unpredictable is by you always being involved in personal
development.
If you're always involved in some form of personal development and you're always trying
to grow and be a better person, she's going to see you changing and evolving.
That's going to be unpredictable because you're always going to be someone better than you
were yesterday.
That might be you going to the gym, working out, getting healthier, getting stronger,
looking better.
It's going to be you being more spiritual in your life, whether it's something with
God or not with God or presence or Buddhism, whatever it is.
But tapping into something there.
It's going to be you working on your job, your career, always trying to move up, maybe
it's a new hobby that you're doing.
A new book that you're reading, this is going to be very unpredictable.
And it's going to get her interested in seeing all these changes that are happening and therefore
will be able to stabilize attraction as you go through a relationship.
There's a little tip right there.
Alright, the next three are something that I talked about on the channel.
And I dive really deep into into my Hooked program.
It's my TED system Tension, Entertainment, and Dominance.
These are all behaviors, these are ways of you behaving that get women attracted.
I go into a whole series of videos and step by step explanations into how you can use
the TED system to be able to get women attracted to you and to be a more interesting guy and
live a better life in general, not just with women but everyone that you meet.
You can get that at www.getherhooked.com.
There's a link in the description down below.
I want you to go and check that out and learn from there.
But I'm going to be giving you a little bit of a taste of what I'm talking about here
with tension, entertainment and dominance.
First, let's start with tension.
Tension is the idea of you building tension, sexual tension, when you guys are talking
when you're in an interaction with a woman.
A great way to do that flirting, eye contact, your body language.
The way that you're showing your confidence through the way that you're speaking to her
in your tonality and the things that you say.
Tension is a way to show her that you are comfortable with women, that you understand
how to build sexual attraction and sexual tension and therefore ends up getting her
attracted.
One of the best ways to do this is by being a challenge to a woman.
What this means is when you're challenge to a woman, that means that you're not going
to be needy (we already described that) you're not going to be always available to hang out,
you're not going to be complimenting her all the time and making her think that you are
totally obsessed with her.
She has to be questioning a little bit what's going on.
You have to be a little bit mysterious when you're talking to her.
That means that you don't want to show too much overt attention, but just enough so she
knows you're interested and that's what creates tension.
More on that, like I said in the Hooked program which you can get in the description down
below.
But let's move to the next one.
Entertainment, the one that I feel guys don't grasp right away because it's very counter
intuitive.
Entertainment is the idea that when you're talking to a girl, whether it's for the first
time ever, whether it's on an app, whether it's on a date, whether it's you've been married
for 50 years.
It doesn't matter because we're talking about attraction here.
Entertainment is something that you do, which is not entertaining her, but entertaining
yourself.
I'm going to repeat that.
Every time I talk about this, I have to repeat it because guys don't really understand.
Entertainment is going into an interaction with the woman that you're with and you're
not trying to impress her, entertain her and say things that are funny because you want
to make her laugh and you're doing all these things for her.
Instead (and I know this is going to be tough to tap into because people aren't used to
this) it's about talking about the things that you want, making the jokes that you want
and having a good time to entertain yourself.
You got to ask yourself (and this might take a minute) what is it that's going to make
you have fun when you're talking to a girl?
And don't just answer that well talking to her is just enough.
Yes, I know it's fun to talk to girls and it's playful and a good time.
But what is it that really makes you enjoy a conversation?
What I would do is think about what are the things that make you enjoy conversation with
other people that you talk to?
What's fun?
How do you be silly with your friends?
What are the things that you guys talk about?
Bring that energy and some of those exact examples into the conversations that you're
having with the women that you're with.
We want to transfer some of that into the conversations with women instead of trying
to do things to get her interested.
Get yourself interested because the reason this is so powerful is because if you're interested
in having fun, she's gonna have fun.
If you're just bored and you're trying to play dancing monkey and trying to get her
to like you through the things that you're saying and asking her questions that you think
she's gonna like, and blah, blah, blah.... she's gonna be able to tell.
She's not stupid, she knows what's going on.
You have to enjoy all the interactions that you're having and I would take that by the
way and do it with pretty much everyone that you ever talked to.
Have fun, enjoy yourself.
That's what's going to make people attracted to you.
Again, more on that in the Hooked program.
But let's go on to the next one, which is dominance.
Dominance to me is one of the easier ones.
As long as you are not afraid of rejection this is going to be super easy.
But even if you are, it's still going to give you a process to tap into to get women attracted
to you.
Dominance is leading.
It's you leading the interaction.
That's you approaching, it's you setting up the date, it's you getting the number, it's
you being the one to pay for the first date, it's you being the one to lead her to the
bedroom, it's you going for the relationship, everything.
You are the one who's leading.
If you're not leading, then most likely nothing's going to happen.
Not because women are lazy, but because they want to be led by you.
That's a very masculine trait.
Everything we've been talking about are very masculine traits to tap into that the feminine,
that the female is attracted to.
You need to be leading the whole time, making sure that you're the one making the decisions.
Now when you're in a relationship, eventually a woman can jump in and plan a date or do
something that she wants to do, whatever.
It's not like you have to be over dominant to the point where she's completely submissive
and she has no say.
It's not about that.
It's about you taking control and being able to lead the way, share your opinions, do what
you want, and not be afraid to do that and be afraid of any sort of rejection.
More on that in the Hooked program as well, where I'll break that down step by step and
give you the most important parts of dominance to use in your interactions.
But I feel like that was a good way of just getting you introduced to it.
If you can even just tap into one or two of these behaviors and start practicing this
stuff and start becoming a better man, you're going to be in the top 1% or less of men who
are the most attractive and really have their act together.
Because this is not just stuff that's gonna attract women, but it's overall good for personal
development too.
Being able to tap into some of these things, becoming a more secure person, being more
fun and unpredictable, being able to create tension in your interactions.
That one's a little bit more for women, entertainment, having fun and dominance, leading which can
also be used because it's you taking control of your life and not letting other people
get in the way of that right.
So all these things, all discussed in the Hooked program.
Check that out Get Her Hooked dot com.
Link is in the description below.
At the very least, I hope this helps and gives you some insight on how behavior works and
how it really takes so much more of the lead than just focusing on look status and money.
Not saying you shouldn't focus on that stuff, work on all of it, but this is definitely
a good start.