So your schedules not working? Something's broadsided you or
something's just completely falling apart ?Well, how do you manage your stress
when these things happen? Watch closely and I'll walk you through
3 simple techniques that are going to make the difference.
Deadlines, got to get the kids somewhere, trying to finish things by a certain
date. The have-to's, the commitments. Sooner or later, you're going to run into
some stress and why is that stress going to pop up? Because what you thought was
going to happen within a certain amount of time isn't happening. You're out of time
or maybe somebody else is messing with your life. But it's causing stress. Alright.
So, how do you manage this? How do you deal with stress? How do you bring
that down and so that you can literally manage yourself through the situation
that you're currently in. Well, stress is because of a wind-up and to
de-stress means to wind down. And if you're like me and you attempt to do a
lot of things in a day and all this and the schedule gets thrown off you fall behind,
the stress can go up. And so to practice some distressing techniques can help you
manage so that you can stay focused and still move forward and not just crash
and burn and just give up on the whole entire day. So, one of the first things I
suggest in managing your stress is managing your hand gestures. Manage your
hands just by themselves. When we get stressed, these hands start moving around
quickly. They start pointing, we give pretty intense with our hand movements.
So, the beginning process is to slow down the hand movements. If I can manage my
hands, I can begin to manage my thoughts and manage my emotions. So, I got to slow
these hands down. The next thing I can do is I literally can use one hand to calm
the other hand down. And where I find that helps me a lot is I will start
squishing or massaging right here in this part of my hand
or along the edge of my hand. I will just sit there and just squish it literally
grab it and just squish it. Just to push out or relieve my hands have built up
energy that's in it or built up emotions that in there. Or I'll even take my hands
and kind of just squeeze them together and squeeze them together just to
literally work out or squeeze out the stress in my hands. So, if I can slow down
my hands, squish my hands, I can literally start to calm my hands which then that
signal now goes back up to my mind to be able to calm down my thoughts. And
because if I can have calm hands, I can have calm thoughts and I can begin to
manage my emotions to calm those down. Now, I watch people and I see people
where they go to take out their stress on their kids or their spouse or
somebody else where they traffic or something. They... But they try to do this
external experience trying to get everything else around them to calm down
before they can calm down. So, you take action to calm self down because the
more you practice this and you can manage self, well then you can manage
stress. So, slow these hands down, squish massage the different parts of your
hands to just totally relax them. Okay. Another one that is powerful is the
ability to slow your thoughts down and literally bring yourself down different
notches. And what I do is I call this the count backwards process.
I drew this out on paper so you know what I mean when I say draw this out. It's
literally to count backwards from 10 down to 1. Because stress happened when
you were amping up your energy and these are... This could be like the number of
things that have gone wrong for the day, right? And that when you have 4,
or 5, 6, 7, 8 number of things that go wrong, your stress level goes up.
But what if you took a moment and you literally just paused
and you began to start at 10 and to slowly count down to zero. Now, how long
is this going to take? Maybe 30 seconds. Maybe a minute. But what you're doing is
you are literally in your mind, using a smaller number. Every time you go down a
notch as though to say to yourself. I'm at a stress level 10 but I'm going to take
myself down to a 9. Then I'm going to take myself down to an 8. Then I'm going to take
myself down to a 7. And you literally are bringing yourself down so the amount of
stress is following the numbers. Like you're calming yourself down. Taking
yourself from a top level 10 of Aah! Down to the zero. Now, when you go to
count backwards and you start out with 10, this is... This is what you do not do. 10,
9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 3, 2, 1. That's not what it's about. Your work is
to go, 10... 9.. 8.. 7.. Now, notice I'm I'm taking time between each one of these so that I
can let that number set in my mind of 10.. Like I'm recognizing I've reached my max.
And I recognize that I met at 10. Then I tell myself I'm now at a 9. 9... So, I'm
getting a hold of the thermometer or the indicator inside that took me to a level
10 and I'm literally in a way, giving myself instructions to come down to a 9.
And then come down to an 8 and then come down to a 7. Now, I'm taking it downwards.
So, I'm moving it downwards. Bringing my stress level down. Now, an added piece
that you could do to this is in between each one of these numbers, take a big
deep breath. You could say, "10..."
Boy, if you if you took a big deep breath between each one of these, by the
time you get to zero or even get down to the one, you will have calmed yourself
way down. So if you took 3 seconds to say that number and then take a big deep
breath, in 30 seconds, you have gotten control of yourself and moved yourself
down each one of those notches. Wow, that is powerful. But to count down from
10 to 1. The other part that's going to help you manage stress is your
catastrophe thinking. You see when something goes wrong and another thing
goes wrong, we start to think that we're on this endless path of everything
unraveling and everything's going to fall apart. And if we think that way, that
everything is going to fall apart now, it actually can throw us into a level of
fear. And so instead of going into a level of fear, what you want to do is you
want to stop that fear story from spreading by doing the count from 10
down to 1. And now we'll be able to help you slow down that big fear story
that was trying to start up because it's, you know, a panic time. Be able to do the
10 down to 1 to be able to calm down your energy. Calm down the story and you
use this Tet type of language. "I can make corrections. I can solve what just
happened. I can ask people for help. I'm going to get through this. I have what it
takes." You see, if you talk to yourself in that
type of language, after you bring yourself down and use that type of
language, you now have self-control. But stress that starts to hurt people
and start to, you know, make bigger messes of things around you. hat's not self
control. That's out of control. So, I believe these techniques I've shared
with you so far are going to help you. The beginning about how to manage your hands
count from ten to one and then also to manage that story in your head that it
doesn't just run away with you and create on those big scary stories. You
can manage your stress but it does take some practice. So the next time this
begins to happen and you feel your stress level starting to come up, don't
wait until you hit a 10 before you start to count that down. But whenever
you start to feel a little bit of this happening, you be the one to stop and get
control. Work that an energy back down to a level 1 or level 0
so it's manageable. You can manage your stress. If you've enjoyed what I've
shared with you so far about managing your stress, you will probably enjoy my
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