We already discussed the Signs When You Care Too Much About Other People’s Opinions and
the negative effect it has on our lives. I am Marat from EMMOTION, today we will take
steps to stop caring too much about what people think or say. To finally live your life for
you and for not anyone else. You have no responsibility to live up to what
other people expect you to be. It became crystal clear to me once I went through a huge loss
not so long ago. The day when my mother passed away changed me forever and among other things
I learnt to stop caring about the image I had to portray in order to be liked and accepted.
The overused phrase of “Life is too short” had obtained a new brutal and realistic meaning
to me. So the advice in this video is inspired by my personal experience and if I managed
to stop wasting time trying to please everyone else, you can do it too.
So do you really wish to finally stop caring about what others think? To spend all that
energy on something productive? To no longer be afraid of sharing who you are, your stories,
your successes or struggles? To experience the feeling of an an absolute freedom from
criticism? Getting to this point is a a lot of work, here are some of the ways you can
stop worrying and caring: 1. Why What Others Think Of You Is None of
Your Business?! Caring about what people think means attaching
yourself to an outcome you have absolutely no control over. You can have the best intentions
in the world, or you can do something useless: It doesn’t matter. You do not control people’s
reactions, the same way as they don’t control how you respond to them. Take a moment and
begin to accept this.
2. Accept yourself for who you are. Be yourself and accept the aspects of yourself that you
can’t change. Stop trying to change to please others, practice self-love, appreciate yourself
for who you already are. Don’t be afraid to keep learning and improving. Everyone makes
mistakes, learn from yours and continue growing.
3. Know That People Don’t Normally Care Through our lives, most of the time, we are
focused on ourselves. This is usually the same for everyone, including those who you
may be thinking are judging you. Many of those people might be having the exact same worries
and thoughts. In today's "smartphone-obsessed" society if we get time to think straight we
most of the time think about ourselves and not about others.
4. Accept That There Are People Who Like to Hate and Judge.
Just as there are many people who don’t care and are not focused on what you do, there
are always people that will judge you. No matter what you say or how you treat them.
They do it with you and with everyone else. You won’t stop these people from judging,
but you can prevent yourself from being affected. Do something more meaningful with your time
instead, just say “no thanks” to that particular opinion and don’t take it on
board.
5. People who didn’t like you in the first place still won’t like you.
If someone doesn’t like you, they still won’t like you even if you try to be liked.
So why all the effort? Those are the people who you don’t need in your life. People
who really love and support you will never talk negatively behind your back and won’t
betray your trust. Stop trying, stay true to yourself, the right people will love and
accept you. 6. When people don’t like you nothing actually
happens. When you are disliked or judged the world
doesn’t end, your life continues exactly the way it is. Whenever you find yourself
slipping back into worrying about some opinions just imagine the worst thing that could happen
if someone judges what you’re doing. Why is it scary? What is going to happen to you?
Nothing happens to you or your life when you are judged.
7. Embrace the uncertain future and don’t be afraid to make mistakes
The future can be scary, yet it can bring unexpected beauty to your life. It’s hard
to go for what you want constantly considering what others think. If you don’t stop caring
too much about others, you’ll end up living your life the way THEY want you to live it.
Do what YOU want. It becomes easier with time and soon you’ll realize that what others
think of you is a very minor thing in your life.
8. Simply be grateful Our society makes sure that our focus is always
directed towards things we don’t have. We often forget things we already have. Be grateful
for everything in you life, for amazing people who are there for you, who support you whether
you succeed or not. It’s so much better investing your time
in being thankful rather than analyzing why others are judging your actions.
You have everything in your power to do what YOU want. Don’t hold back by caring about
what others think. Don’t constantly seek other people’s approval and validation,
build up and value our own criteria. The more you care about what others think about you,
the less you care about what YOU think of yourself.
Nothing you’re socially scared of is actually scary. It's your life, and if something doesn't
serve you, you must let it go. Including some people’s opinions. Only hold onto things
that nourish you, feed you and make you happy. Thanks for watching and hit the subscribe
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