What to do when
when right goes wrong.
Is there any justifiable reason
for my heart being broken?
Is there any purpose in my pain?
Can you make sense
outta my sentence?
Or did I just go through all of that
for nothing.
It's about the obstacles,
it's about the challenges.
It's about the pain
that you endure along the way
Stand on the platform
but when that happens,
your mind has to immediately shift back
because now you've felt
and tasted something
that you could only get through winning.
Are you willing to do it again?
If you're willing to suffer
and I mean suffer
your brain and your body
once connected together
can do anything.
You have to do the process.
The process is non-negotiable.
It's just you have to do it.
It's about the grind.
Do you have the courage to think?
Because if you can think
you can change
you can move
you can evolve
you can grow,
you can become
you are one idea away
your credit is not a problem
your car is not a problem
your situation is not a problem
your thoughts solve the problem
as he thinketh in his heart, so is he
Everything starts in the thoughts you think
you are no better than the thoughts you think.
If you think little, you go little.
If you think weak, you go weak.
What I need you to do is
I need you to find a reason to keep going
And if you can find a reason to keep going,
I know you strong enough.
Every human has what it takes to get past
whatever they are going through
If they decide to.
You wanna level up your character,
then you need to get out here and do it.
That's the game.
Go look in the mirror right now.
Humble yourself.
Stop sitting there with an ego.
Realize you ain't shit.
You need to be around brave men
who need to be paying attention
listen to the truth.
I wasn't born this way.
I absolutely not really made myself this way.
And any single one of you men out here
can do the same thing.
You are a man, you have duty, you have honor
you have things you should be doing
regardless of how you feel
I think you should get up and do what needs to be done.
And to me, those are the individuals that win in life.
I'm asking you
will you stay mediocre for the rest of your life?
Success happens to you, not because you desire it.
Because you earn it.
Everybody desires it.
It comes only if you're capable of it.
You know, we say in yoga, if you keep one eye on the goal,
you have only one eye to find your way.
That's not a good way to play a game.
It's better both your eyes are on the game
The winning the cup and the accolades
are things which happen because we play a game well
it's not because we want them, it'll happen
because we play well, it happens.
So it's always best that we keep our eyes, our body,
our mind, everything focused on just one thing.
That is when a human being functions at his maximum efficiency.
If everything is focused in one way,
your body, your energy, your mind, everything is organized in just one direction.
A person who's going in one direction will go somewhere.
A person who's trying to go in five different directions will not go anywhere.
For one who is seeing this life as a stepping stone
for a larger possibility,
but him, there is no failure
for one who is looking at the simple events of this life itself as the goal of life.
For him, there is failure and success.
If you are just seeing this life is a stepping stone for a larger possibility.
If you have a good deal, you use that for your wellbeing.
If you have a bad deal, you use that for your wellbeing.
The economy was on the boom when every fool could be successful.
When the economy's on the boom, everybody gets carried, isn't it?
Now there has been a meltdown.
Now it takes something else to be successful.
It doesn't matter what the hell happens with your life.
If you are seeing this life only as a stepping stone for a larger possibility,
then whatever the situation, it is beautiful and very useful.
So various situations in your life,
either you can use it to make yourself stronger and better, or you can sit and cry.
This is the choice you have.
Everything.
It doesn't matter what happens.
The most horrific event happened in your life
that also can be used for your growth and your wellbeing.
So the fear of failure.
Failure is bad enough.
Fear is adding spice to it, isn't it?
I'll give you a formula if you wanna know what makes people happy.
At the most basic level,
when your life conditions match your blueprint,
when your life conditions are what you're expecting,
not your ultimate dream, but when you meet your basic expectations, you're happy.
If your life conditions are better than you expected, you're over the moon.
If your life conditions don't match your blueprint, your expectations,
you have pain.
If your life conditions don't match your blueprint and you believe
I'm unable to change it,
It's something wrong with me or it's a permanent problem,
or it's pervasive or it's personal, you know, you get
and to learn helplessness, then you're gonna suffer.
And so nothing is permanent.
Not even the body is permanent.
Certainly no problem is permanent.
Your soul might be the only thing that might be permanent, right?
So it's really helping people to understand
that when the life conditions change,
your blueprint has to change with it.
Either, like if you're not happy, you either have to change
your life or change your blueprint, your expectations.
Usually it requires a combination of those two.
So often what you say people is sliding is their life conditions changed.
And then what they were doing wasn't enough
to make 'em feel the way they wanted to feel.
And so then they adapted to an old style of coping.
They went back to smoking or drinking or eating or
yelling at people or whatever the pattern may be.
But that's because they didn't continue to grow.
And so that's why it's not a static thing with me.
Oh, I teach people, not just, okay, you're
gonna make these changes in your values.
It's like you gotta look as your life conditions change, you're gonna make that happen.
As you hit different stages of life,
you're gonna have to make those decisions.
And people don't, everybody wants their life to
be better, but no one wants to change, right?
So we have to keep changing.
Once the life conditions change, we gotta update our
blueprint, our values, our beliefs, our rules about how
to play the game, and we have to update our behaviors
To adapt to where the environment is.
If you don't do that, you're in trouble.
There are many people during Covid
who was the most horrific experience.
There are many people that learned
to use Covid, not let Covid use them.
They grew their businesses, they expanded
their mind, they shifted their emotions.
They did things they never would've done.
Other people gained 20 pounds.
So it's all a matter of do you adapt to the
life conditions and do you learn how to learn
Because this isn't a one time thing.
Oh, I did this thing.
I went and worked out for a weekend.
Non pumped.
Well, great, how long's that gonna last?
You're gonna have to continue to
use that and have a daily practice.
Otherwise, you of course go back and that's
the biggest missing thing
I teach people
Daily practices that can take what they've
learned and make it ongoing in their life as
opposed to, wow, I had this great weekend.
The big question is, are we letting
ourselves become what we wish to become
in this most important subject of association
Here are some actions you may want to take
first
Disassociation,
you may after a study of those three questions, who am I around?
What are they doing to me, and is that okay?
You may come to the serious conclusion that there
are some people you just have to break away from.
I'm not saying that it's an easy step to take,
and it's not to be taken lightly.
However, I am saying it may be an essential task.
You may just have to make that hard choice not to
let certain negative influences affect you anymore.
Remember, it could be a choice that
saves the quality of your life.
The second action you may want to take is
limited association.
It could well be that you are spending too much time in a
certain area of your life with a certain group of people.
It's easy to put time and effort in the wrong place.
The guy spends three hours at the ballgame
and 30 minutes listening to the sermon.
See, that's called out of balance.
30 minutes for spirituality, three hours for entertainment.
That doesn't weigh well five years from now, 10 years from now.
When you take a look at the sum total of your here's one of the easy
here's one of the easyways to end up with a mediocre average life.
Spending major time on minor things.
Sophisticated people learn to weigh
everything before they spend time or money.
You've got to weigh before you pay,
whether you're going to spend heavy time or light time.
You've just got to weigh.
Otherwise, if you're not careful, you can get trapped
into spending heavyweight time with lightweight people.
Now, it's okay to have casual friends as long
as you give them casual time, not serious time.
Spend major time with major influence
and minor time with minor influence.
It's so easy to do just the opposite, but don't
let it be said that you fell into that trap.
So maybe all you need to do to change some
of the influences in your life is not to
eliminate them, but merely limit them.
Say, I have a good time with these people, but I'm
not going to spend days and days with them anymore.
I'm just going to cut that down and save some of that
time for more major people and more major enterprises.
Remember, it's your life.
You can spend your time with whomever you want.
And whenever you want,
but you didn't invest in this program for me to kid you
take a look at your priorities and your values.
We have so little time at our disposal.
Wouldn't it make sense to invest it wisely?
If you have only a hundred dollars in your pocket,
it's okay to spend 20 for fun
and put 80 toward your important values and commitments,
but would you be happy reversing those percentages?
Better to put the majority of your money where you
know it will get you a positive return
rather than put it where the taste is brief and the results are poor.
Of course, you must be the judge.
You must determine whether the situation and the
people call for disassociation or limited association.
But remember, if it isn't taking you where
you want to be five years from now, 10 years from now,
now is the time to fix it.