- Hi, my name is Bolin. - Hi, I'm Sew.
- And we are Bobo... - Charchar. And this is Ask TSL: Relationship Advice.
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Actually I don't know why I'm doing this sia all my relationships failed.
- I think you should be the one giving the advice. 7 years! - I only got 1 (other relationship).
Yeah... Actually I got quite a lot lah.
Huh...
You wanna say first?
Wait, I'm scanning through my boyfriend's Instagram.
Whether got other girls aside from me.
I think for me... It's ok for him to keep the pictures on Instagram...
But not the kissing kind.
Like just the...
No, but I want to ask you one thing. Why leh?
When I see other couples break up but then they don't delete their pictures...
I'm like... "That's so mature. And so nice."
Huh?! Why?
- What do you mean 'why'? - Why mature?
What's so mature about that? - What do you mean 'why'? - Why mature?
What's so mature about that?
It's like... you broke up amicably...
Even if it was bad, it doesn't mean that the past was nothing.
Ok... I understand that it's about memories.
But whenever you see the photos - when you see him -
then all the memories that's tagged to that person will all come back.
Be it the ~piak piak~ (sex) ones, the kissing ones, or anything - all the good times!
I give the benefit of the doubt. Keep some... ok.
Because I'm pretty sure what your boyfriend would say...
"Some of them are my memories."
But if he keeps 10,000 photos on his hard disc and says it's memories...
- That one is a bit perverted. - This one, I tell you...
This one... you taking... what the hell. You collection ah.
If it's him and an ex in Japan...
and hugging under the Tokyo Tower...
Delete lah!
'So is it ok if my boyfriend keeps the photo'?
Yes, on Instagram only. Without the physical touch kind.
For me it's 80-90% no.
The other 10% is... benefit of the doubt. Can keep 1 or 2 pictures and that's about it.
Ok, next one. This one I throw ah.
That was long.
- Platonic... - No, you should not be fine.
This should not be fine, because if I'm your girlfriend or boyfriend, I should be your best friend as well.
As long as your girlfriend texts someone more than you, her boyfriend... got something wrong.
Something wrong, yes.
Now I'm trying to analyze.
You must find out why she is texting (him) more often.
There could be a possible reason why.
If you as a boyfriend gives shit advice, no wonder she's talking to another person.
"Why you never ask me?" "Of course I never ask you. You give shit advice."
But if that's not the case and you ask yourself... "No, I'm damn good."
Ok, then now you know!
Even (if it's) platonic, there's something wrong. You'd need to sit down and talk. You have to tell her...
"I should be the exclusive one."
And that's what love is about.
- Tio boh? (Correct?) - Yes.
Will we be fine with it? No!
- Did I throw too... - Never mind, carry on.
Alright.
Oh, my God! No! Of course it's not ok!
NEXT!
You don't know.
You just tell him that you like him.
Very simple. I'm a guy.
Very simple. If a guy likes you,
Confirm he will do something. Confirm he will attack you in different ways.
All sorts of friendliness from a guy...
You just have to take in five-ty to 60%, it's a form of slategy to attacc.
Oh, what about when they are being cheeky, or like to tease or disturb you?
That is some low-level, secondary school kind of shit.
Just confess and see what you get out of it.
So after you confess, you see...
if they talk to you after that.
In this day and age, some things will change.
So if you don't try your luck... you will never know.
So just see whether the guy got attacc you. If don't have then you attacc the guy.
Next queshun.
There are many people...
Their heart(s) can have the capacity to...
love multiple people at once.
For me... Only got one carpark lot.
Is that carpark... Is there a car at that slot right now?
There is a car in the slot but that car is a rented car. (?????)
Right now, I have someone in my heart.
Mingling is when your carpark lot no car.
Then you go out and scream, "PARK HERE!"
To all the girls out there that are still single, listen carefully to Bolin kor kor's advice.
Some guys got 10 carpark lots.
Even if they have 9 cars parked there with one empty lot, they will find one more car and forcefully squeeze it inside.
But for me, I only have one carpark lot.
So if it's parked, means no more mingling.
(PD) Aiya so you like someone now lah.
Ya la ya la!
(PD) Take so long, what carpark, what parking lot, move on lah!
In conclusion, Bolin likes somebody right now...
and is trying to make a move and waiting for it to happen...
so he is not available and he is exclusive to somebody else. The end!
A lot of people ah... Date someone else even BEFORE they break up.
But underground lah.
- You get what I mean? - Yeah.
So... some people don't even wait.
Aside from that, sometimes... it's a rebound.
Because their heart feels broken, it suddenly feels empty and all.
And then they want to find somebody else...
to replace this empty feeling.
- To fill the void. - Correct.
You should not limit yourself to a period.
As long as.... It doesn't matter when,
it could be the next day, the next week or the next year.
As long as you feel something for someone and you know it's not a rebound kind of feeling,
then go ahead.
It's not about time, or duration, or period.
One hour? A bit unrealistic lah.
You tell me one hour... No lah.
But let's be honest here.
If you ask yourself and you think that the love is genuine, then go ahead.
Listen to your feelings.
Alright, next.
What?
I... I saw the question already.
What's the question?
NO!!!
No. What?
I haven't even said 'no' and you said 'no'?!
Relax first. Would we date each other if we were single...
- No, no, no, no, no. - Why?!
Why?!
You talk too much!!!
Realistically lah! You went "No! No! No!"
So the answer is... Not really.
Yeah, we just stay as #bobocharchar. That's the best.
Next!
Personally, I think it is not wrong to see (his) stuff.
I give my girlfriend full access to my phone.
- No access given? - The boyfriend don't allow.
Then something wrong already.
Since you found out that he's cheating... No need to say already.
No need to say. Cheating is the wrong one. Which one is more wrong? Cheating. Because why?
It's more wrong lah, no need to talk.
You're supposed to be given the privilege to read.
- Just don't ever cheat. - Yes.
For me, I choose to forget about the person.
Delete everything... Throw everything that is related to that person... Cut contact...
Embrace the future.
Wait, I haven't answered!!!
Doesn't mean that because I didn't break up as many times as you did, means it was nothing ok!
- The break up was also very big for me! - Ok, sorry.
Based on my past experience, I literally just cried all the way.
I took the bus... And I was crying in the movie theatre too.
Everyone was like...
I don't agree with you.
To me, I face it because it's real.
There are some situations where it's damn difficult.
So sometimes you really need to choose to forget.
But face it... also can lah.
There's no way. No way to rebuild.
Trust is... You've got anything you wanna say?
Wah, cannot.
Cannot! There's no way.
Yeah, it's very hard.
Being lied to means being lied to!
Severely broken, you know.
It's like a bone that's severely broken...
It's not even like...
It's just piang. Gone.
Yeah, that's ok.
Why is it not ok?
What kind of kiss?
What is the frequency of the kiss?
If it's the la ji (french kissing) kind,
no lah, you play what game sia.
Intense truth or dare.
I'd just take it as it is. If he said that they are straight, they are straight. To me, it's ok.
You're ok? To me... I'd say go and investigate further.
Wait!
If the best friend is a girl?
And it's over a game of truth or dare...
No! Where got such things? If my girlfriend go be actress... Go and kiss all the guys...
Then I should also go be an actor and kiss all the girls.
No shuch thing lah.
Because of a game? Then I'll go and play and kiss all the girls.
If it's for a job, maybe that's fine.
If it's for a game, then no way.
Any form of kissing is a bit wrong.
The only person you can kiss is... lim peh.
Alright! Here comes the end.
If you have any life questions... love questions...
or whatever problems...
Just ask away and we will give you our not-so-professional professional advice.
Not professional at all, actually.
So... ask away.
Bye bye!
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