Feeling and emotion
is the heart of life for us here on earth.
Emotion functions like a compass.
If your compass were never messed with,
you would continue to follow it through the world,
due north.
You would not see your emotions as invalid,
you would see them as valid and important.
You would see every emotion as having a special message
about your personal truth, to convey.
And as such, you would follow that message
in the direction of what felt good,
kind of like following your north star.
You would know that if you felt bad,
it means that you're headed in the wrong direction,
south on the compass,
because your thoughts, your words and your actions
are pointed in the wrong direction for you personally.
Why "Follow Your Joy" Doesn't Always Work
Our compasses are messed with.
They're messed with during the process of socialization
when we come into contact with other people
who cannot accommodate for our truth
including wants and needs and personal purpose
and thus require us to let go of our truth for them.
They raise us to believe
that this is the only way to avoid conflict and to feel good.
They ask us to replace our internal compass with theirs.
And they fiddle with our compass,
so it no longer reflects our personal truth.
When a parent dismisses, disapproves of or turns against their child's emotion,
the child learns to abandon their own idea or estimation of the event,
in favor of their parents estimation of the event.
Essentially, the child loses faith in his or her own judgment,
his or her own internal guidance system,
and as a result, loses self worth.
The child learns they have no right to feel how they feel,
and that their own feelings,
and therefore, internal guidance system is faulty.
They learned that it is wrong to feel how they feel
and especially wrong, therefore, to follow how they feel
and use the way they feel, like a compass.
And here we have a problem.
Seeing as how your emotions, function like a compass
constantly guiding you through life
in the direction that is the best for you personally,
one of the most important things you could possibly do for your life,
is to get back in touch with that internal guidance system
so that you can follow that internal compass,
in the direction of what's right for you personally.
This is why teachings like, "Follow your joy."
and "Be unconditionally present with your emotions."
and "Make how you feel the most important thing in your life."
are so important.
There is one major problem inherent in approaching life
through this kind of blind conviction.
And it is that,
because our compasses are messed with,
we might very well be following a compass,
whose wires are completely crossed.
I want you to imagine a little girl.
Imagine this little girl loves science.
If it were up to her, she would be absorbed all day long
in her microscope.
This doesn't benefit her mother,
because her mother needs help around the house.
And so every time she becomes absorbed in her microscope,
or whatever other science project that she's doing,
she gets shamed for it,
shamed for being selfish.
To the opposite side,
the point at which she gets rewarded,
and feels as if she's being brought closer to her mother,
is when she is "mommy's little helper".
Because of this early education,
that following her intrinsic motivation leads to punishment
and therefore feels bad,
and being a helper leads to reward, and avoidance of pain,
and therefore feels good,
her wires have been crossed.
Until she becomes aware of just why helping feels so good,
because of this type of conditioning,
this will be an adult who grows up
feeling as if the only way to feel good,
is endlessly helping.
In fact, if you confront this person,
on " what feels good to you to do?"
She'll say: " Helping people."
She is following her own compass,
because she's following how she feels.
The problem is, she doesn't understand
that her compass was rigged years ago.
It doesn't reflect her intrinsic truth.
It reflects the truth her mother wanted her to have.
For this reason, helping people will feel temporarily good
and like the right decision.
But she will have no idea why she is so drained,
and why it seems like the wrong decision,
a little while after she has made it.
Another example is that a person's internal guidance system
would never reflect to them that it feels good
or is a good thing, to hurt themselves.
However, let's say that you are seeing a child
who's growing up with an antagonistic parent in a home.
What if this person finds out,
that any time they feel good,
or are doing something that would benefit them,
they start to be antagonized worse by the parent.
And what they find,
almost like raising a white flag,
is that if they hurt themselves,
or get hurt,
then all of a sudden there's no motivation for the parent
to attack them anymore
and the antagonism stops.
In this scenario yet again,
the compass wires are crossed.
We start to learn that there is a relief
inherent in hurting oneself,
and an anxiety, inherent in doing something
that is beneficial to oneself.
This person will start to experience emotional relief
in conjunction with self injury,
because they've learned that being good to themselves is pain,
and hurting themselves, is being safe.
Another example,
Let's say that a woman is starving emotionally.
I mean starving so incredibly intensely emotionally,
that once she meets a man,
who promises to meet many of these needs that she has,
she can't hear any of the more subtle emotional cues
or red flags that are coming up about this man.
Instead, the emotion that trumps it
is this incredible relief
at having some of these needs met.
Now, let's imagine that this man
is meeting these needs manipulatively.
What will happen if this woman follows her internal guidance system,
is that she will end up in the hands
of an incredibly dangerous man.
Another example,
Let's say you've been trying and trying and trying and trying,
to make yourself succeed at something.
And it hasn't been working.
So eventually, it just feels like relief to quit.
That relief may not even be
because you are actually meant to quit.
Maybe it's because the thoughts you were thinking,
were thoughts like this:
"I'm a failure."
"I'll never amount to anything."
And so you quit something
you would have been very successful at,
because you interpreted the emotion of relief,
relative to quitting,
as an indication that you should quit.
In this scenario,
there's a high potential you didn't need to quit.
What it was is that you needed to reevaluate,
the way you were going about trying to succeed.
And the thoughts you were thinking.
And maybe the actions you were taking.
Here's another glaring example:
We all have splits in our consciousness,
to understand more about this, watch my video titled:
Fragmentation (The Worldwide Disease)
Imagine that early on in life,
a split within your consciousness was formed
between the vulnerable aspect of self that really needs people
and the protector aspect of self
that had to deal with the fact
that it didn't really have people to depend on
by becoming completely independent.
Because this protector aspect,
the one that we would consider independent,
was the one that kept you safe,
that's the one you're going to strongly identify with.
And the opposite, the vulnerable part that really needs people,
you're going to suppress, deny reject and disown.
Because you've identified with that part of you and independence
as a road to staying safe and therefore feeling good,
your emotional guidance system will make sure
you only feel good when you rely on yourself.
You will feel terror when you think of asking anyone for help.
You might get super sick
because of shouldering all the pressure
or find yourself in a scenario
where you really did need someone to succeed at something,
but it just felt wrong to ask them.
Following the feelings associated with your protector self,
is only following part of your personal truth
and the very extreme polarity at that.
If people whose wires have been crossed,
follow their joy,
they're not gonna be following their compass,
"due north" for their personal truth.
Because their wires were crossed so long ago,
they're gonna be headed in the opposite direction
of their own personal truth,
and not even know it.
Why?
Because it's telling them that going that way will feel good.
If your compass has been messed with,
you will be following conditioning,
not your personal truth.
But, eventually, you will end up super confused,
and feeling as if it doesn't make sense,
because no matter how good that felt to do,
obviously it was the wrong direction.
Now, the first thing we have to accept about this,
is that there's nothing inherently wrong with this.
The reason that channels or spirit guides,
encourage you to follow the way you feel,
or follow your joy no matter what.
End of question.
Is because they know that by doing this,
it is inevitable that you will end up,
in alignment with your personal truth.
The reason that these beings don't teach this "nuance"
is because they understand that if a person
continues to follow their emotion,
in alignment with a compass that is meddled with,
they know that eventually,
a person will end up at a destination they don't wanna be at
and based off of getting to that destination they don't wanna be at,
they will amend their desires,
and go in the direction of their pre-meddled with course.
And that is inevitable.
But, here is the thing;
There is a great difference
between the perspective that our non physical aspects hold
and the perspective that our temporal aspects hold.
From a non physical perspective,
life is nothing more than a blink of an eye,
it is literally like walking into a movie theatre
and walking out of a movie theatre.
So it's not a big deal in the grand scheme of things,
if somebody follows a compass that has been meddled with,
to the point where they get cancer,
to the point where they then awaken,
and start to live the life they wanna lead.
It's worth it.
But, the perspective from physical incarnation,
is much different isn't it?
If you're the one experiencing this linear timeline,
and it doesn't seem like the blink of an eye,
and you're the one with cancer,
it doesn't really seem worth it does it?
For this reason,
and for the reason that I have committed
to reducing suffering in the human race,
I have to teach you this nuance
when it comes to following your internal guidance system.
It is inevitable that if everyone followed their joy,
they would find their personal truth eventually.
What no one tells you, is that the conditioning
that so often crossed our wires,
makes that journey,
one of many lessons learned the hard way.
There is nothing wrong with this,
but if you are dedicated to awareness,
you need to at least be aware of that.
I don't want you to distrust yourself
and especially distrust the way that you feel.
That's even worse than following a rigged compass
all the way to total destruction.
That distrust of your own internal compass
is how we even arrived here to begin with.
What I care about is that with this awareness,
you will now have the capacity to question yourself.
Not in a way where you are coming out of the gate
as if you distrust yourself
and the way that you feel, and the direction you're headed in life.
With the attitude of curiosity
and the commitment to become as aware as possible,
whenever making any decision along your course.
You will ask yourself why something feels good to do.
What is the purpose for it and why?
If I might have been trained that what felt bad was good
and what felt good was bad,
relative to this circumstance,
how might that influence me in this scenario?
If I were doing this purely because
of how I wanna look to others, or to myself,
how might that be true?
What might I do differently
if I knew no one would judge me
or impose consequences upon me.
Am I trying to avoid something in this scenario?
And therefore, being guided by what I don't want
rather than what I do want?
If I were not being honest with myself
or other people in this scenario,
what would I not be being honest about?
And why?
What are my real reasons for doing this?
What makes me believe, that this feels right to me?
Are these feelings really mine?
Or are the feelings the result of thoughts and belief systems
I adopted from someone else?
This is how I want you to look at emotions from now on.
I want you to look at every emotion
like the ice over the top of a lake.
Where the ice is the emotion,
the lake water underneath is the very important personal message
let's say, the thoughts that are in conjunction
with that important message,
that the emotion is trying to convey to you.
The thoughts that are trying to convey a personal truth for you.
If you are unconditionally present with each emotion
you will melt through the emotion, into that truth
and based off of hearing the thoughts
associated with that truth,
you will know the "why?"
behind why you feel the way you feel
and why your compass is pointing you
in a particular direction.
This is the point
where we enter the realm of free will.
Once you have that level of awareness,
your internal guidance system
isn't like a compass that controls you,
Instead you are looking at the compass,
looking at where it's pointed,
and making a conscious choice with your free will,
whether to follow it in the direction that it's pointing to you or not.
Basically you will be using conscious choice,
to make a decision.
And then taking action according to personal truth.
Keep in mind that this awareness,
is not about arriving at whether or not
your internal compass is right or wrong,
it's about gaining awareness as to where your internal compass
has been meddled with, so you can rewire that compass
so that it is actually pointing you due north.
Follow what feels good.
Follow your joy.
Follow your internal guidance system
and this internal compass to the ends of the earth.
But with awareness.
With the awareness that your compass has been meddled with.
And that your wires might just be crossed.
Have a good week.
Subtitles by: Tanya Duarte www.tanyaduarte.com