- Did you know anything about sex before marriage, Barbara?
- Everything that Harry decided to teach me.
My favorite drink is white wine.
- A good white wine.
- Red wine
- I don't have a favorite drink
because I don't drink alcohol.
- Bombay up, preferably.
- Did you guys know anything about sex
before you got married?
- [Connie] No, very much - I don't.
- Barely.
- Oh my mother told me everything.
- She did?
- Yes.
She said that if if a fella ever touches your breast
you'll get cancer
and if you're not a virgin, forget it
no one will ever marry you.
My father who is in the other room went...
My father said, "Forget that stuff honey."
He said, "Kiss em all!"
I have a girlfriend, at that time we were 16 years old
we went to the movies
and all of a sudden, she screamed
and I didn't know why.
We ran out of the theater and she said,
"Lola lola the guy touched my thigh.
Do you think I'll be pregnant?"
- Oh no that was little
- [Connie] Wait a minute!
And you know what I said to her?
I don't know.
I swear to God that's what how dumb we were.
- Did you know anything about sex before marriage, Barbara?
- Everything that Harry decided to teach me.
- That's a good, that's true!
- [Barbara] I did
and from my girlfriends.
- Was there anything that you guys
after you had sex for the first time
wished you had known
or was it different than you thought it would be
- It was so long ago, who can remember?
- Yeah, I can remember!
- Does anyone remember anything?
- [DeAnna] Yeah, I know.
I was a virgin and it hurt.
- [Rose] You were a virgin and it hurt.
Were you guys shy at the beginning?
- Yes! - With your husbands?
- Yes! - Was it kind of intimidating?
- I was!
Shy
believe it or not. - [Rose] Yeah?
- I was not shy about it.
- Wow, that's awesome!
- I didn't know what was happening so
- Did you guys enjoy it right away
or did it take some time to learn?
- About 15 20 years I'd say.
- [Rose] 15 20 years?
Grandma, tell us more.
- First of all, uh fear of pregnancy.
I kept getting pregnant.
I was pregnant my entire adult life, Rose.
12 pregnancies.
I was afraid to walk through the bedroom
without my clothes on.
- Why didn't you use protection?
- Well... I... you know, I could've had more information
with your mama, I did have a diaphragm
but apparently I've buttered it on the wrong side.
- Oh oh geez
- Were you a little anxious about sex
just because you were like, what does this mean
what is this gonna do?
- Well I didn't wanna get pregnant again.
- You didn't get it fixed?
- [DeAnna] Why didn't am get fixed?
- [Connie] They got fixed.
- What?
- [Ladies] Oh
- Well I mean, y'know...
- His jewels?
Are you kidding?
Never even today.
- [Rosie] Oh really?
- You know what changed everything?
The pill, as far as I'm concerned.
That changed everything.
There all the women started taking the pill
and they didn't care or you know, by getting pregnant.
- Are you saying that sex became more pleasurable
when you didn't have to worry about baby stuff?
- Yes
- Oh yeah - Yes
- Did it also become more pleasurable just over time
because you've understood your body better?
- No, never did.
- [Barbara] In our day
even married, you didn't say I'd like to have this
or could you touch that or could you do
- We didn't know what to say.
- [Connie] That's right! That's right.
- [Barbara] No we were very uh...
- Naive - [Barbara] Constrained
- So there was something you wanted in the bedroom
but in your early marriage,
it was not something you would say.
[Ladies] No
- Even have the words for it.
- I went to school.
- [Rose] What do you mean school?
- Well, I took a degree in Marriage and Family Counseling.
Women are entitled to feel the same joy
and the pleasure, completion whatever!
And but to get it,
you'd have to be willing to talk about it.
- [Rose] Did that improve your sex life
when you started doing that?
- Yeah, we were very shy
- [Shirley] Oh I mean I'd say
- [DeAnna] Aren't you glad you didn't live in those days?
- But you know, I think people in their
early 20s and teens now are still shy.
- [Rose] Um...
- You don't think so, Connie?
- I'm glad I just don't I think it's a different world.
- [Rosie] It is totally a different world, for sure.
I don't know how familiar you guys are
with the #MeToo Movement or not.
- Oh yes
- [Rose] But the big thing that's come out with that
is just kind of open up more discussion around sex as women
that like male pleasure is more important
than female pleasure and women are kind of just taught
to just be there and just not say anything
and that's kinda starting to change in culture
and women are kinda starting to be more verbal.
- Which is good.
- [Shirley] Particularly
the fact that they're are standing up against
the kind of harassment
that's been involved in having a career.
- Do you think things are better for women now?
- Yeah
- I think you have to ask the women if they're happier.
I mean, I was happy all my life.
I don't know
- Yeah
- [Connie] I don't know If they're happy or not
the way it is today.
- [Rosie] Yeah
- You'd have to ask them.
- Have you guys heard of open relationships?
Have you heard of this?
- [Ladies] Yeah... yes...
- Did you know that's becoming more and more popular?
- Is it?
- No I thought that was over with, no?
- When you go online a lot of people will say
I'm in an open relationship.
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