Today I've decided to address the problem that many people have
With teachings that are concerned with developing your own happiness
So the question we're going to address today is:
Find in your own happiness seeking out your own happiness and focusing on your own happiness
Feed the ego
In other words today's episode is going to be about helping yourself and helping other people
when I say you can't create someone's reality for them you can't rescue someone from their own thoughts a
lot of times that's misconstrued to mean don't help something or someone as if they deserve to experience the
[manifestation] of whatever it is that they have focused on and so you should never intervene, but this is not what we mean at all
What I'm saying is
No matter how much you want to help someone you?
can't think for them and
because thoughts create reality you can't create their own reality for them a
Good way to explain. This is no matter how much you give someone in terms of money?
even if a million dollars if that person still perpetuates a thought pattern of
Poverty mentality
They will go broke very soon
you can't think
Abundance type thoughts for someone and so regardless of what you do to help them they will continue to reinforce and
Recreate andry manifest
Situations that feel like poverty if they don't change their own poverty mentality it
Is the way in which we go about helping people that is the problem not the actual help. We're giving people
Another issue, that's quite often brought against my teachings is the teaching of ego
The idea that it is nothing
But a selfish ego type of teaching to tell you to withdraw your attention from the rest of the world and focus it purely on
Yourself and your happiness and to find your own individual alignment rather than go around trying to help the rest of the world
This is a flawed perception in and of itself because there is no such thing as that which is separate from you
You influence your entire reality and all the people in it by changing your own vibration because your entire reality
Including the people in it are a projection of your own consciousness
You are the projector your reality is the projector screen. There is nothing else
You can do to really change and improve your reality other than change yourself
if you want war to end end it inside yourself if
you want poverty to end end it inside yourself if
You want suffering to end end it inside yourself?
You could not line up with seeing suffering in the world and feeling powerless about that suffering unless you felt powerless about your own suffering
You came here to experience the separate perspective of your individual self that separate perspective is
Ego ego is nothing more the perception of your individual separate self
So ego is not a monster
Making an enemy of ego is making an enemy of yourself
You are at war with yourself and with your original intention for coming into this life
The trick is not to get lost in the illusion of ego
To miss that it is just a temporary perception
What I find most
Amusing is the fact that the bleeding hearts of this world
Which ironically is a category that I find myself slipping into on my not so good days are
So concerned with the idea that finding your unhappiness is
an element of ego when we are the ones
The Bleeding hearts are the ones which are the most lost in the illusion of the ego?
We think that focusing on ourselves?
Means that we are cutting ourselves off in a kind of pink bubble from the rest of the world
We're putting blinders on to problems and abandoning the rest of the world by only being concerned with our internal experience and our [unhappiness]
Those of us who [think] the world is separate from us and that other people are separate from us
Spend a great deal of time trapped in the illusion of a separate self which is the very definition of ego?
There can never be anything other than you in your reality
You are the child starving in Africa. He is your projection the mirror of the starving part that is present within you
You are the man sitting on the hilltop in his million-dollar mansion
He is the projection of the Jealousy within you
You are the infant who [is] just born he is the projection of the fresh untouched potential within you?
You are the dog who is playing with his chew toy. He is the projection of what is carefree within you?
What you have present in your internal reality is all that can manifest in your external reality, and so there is nothing. I repeat nothing
More important than to focus on your internal reality
There is nothing more important when it comes to helping other people than to improve your own internal condition
Your internal condition is the thing which is lining you up with and co-creating?
experiences like Poverty and war and suffering
I want to give you a different image of a bleeding heart
Pretend that you're in a classroom, and you have a projector. That's projecting an image against the wall a
Bleeding heart
Those people who feel as if they need to really do something to fix the problems here on the planet
by taking some sort of physical action rather than improving their own internal vibration
I like the person [who's] up against the wall flailing their arms around trying to grasp hold of those images [that] are being projected
Against the wall trying to change them in any way. They can without realizing where it is that those images are coming from?
In other words they never stop and turn around and go figure out that the image is being projected
From the projector screen and in this reality the projector screen is you
When we are caught in the illusion of separateness, which is ego. This is how we try to solve problems
We try to change everything outside of us so that we can feel better when we look at it, but the problems never go away
Because we have never improved the image on the projector screen
The one that is reflecting ours as our reality
we have never withdrawn our attention from external issues long enough
to improve these thoughts and beliefs within ourselves
If this is the truth of our reality
Especially if a oneness is the truth of our reality
How is it possible to Abandon the rest of the world if you are focusing purely on yourself? You are the rest of the world?
Improving you means improving the world. This is the truth of your reality and I'm here to tell you that there [is] nothing
Less effective than trying to take physical action to change all kinds of problems in your external reality
Without ever turning around and fixing the very source of those problems the projector itself. Which is you?
Getting happy is no kind of temporary fix it is what changes your entire reality?
Happy people do not cause harm to others
If everyone who is born upon this earth focused on their own alignment and their own joy so much so that they never became
separated from it there would be no war there would be no poverty there would be no suffering and
If you really want to help people this is what you should do
Go find happiness yourself
Go find Abundance yourself
Find all [of] these things that you're wanting to create in the world within
Yourself and you will become beacon to the rest of this society
It will be a beacon
for the things you want to create on this world
When you do this every action you feel inspired towards will feel good to take
Every action will be inspired and you will line up with the solution
You can only teach people by example if you focus on the problem
all you teach and perpetuate is the problem if you become [the] solution you will show others how to do it for [themselves]
You will help them learn to create their own reality
By doing this they become powerful
By simply swooping in to rescue someone you reinforce that they are victims and that they are powerless
This is why people who spend a lot of effort trying to help people we could call them helper personalities
Attract so much resistance to the very help that they're giving
Have you not notice that the help you were giving often only ends up in resentment?
The reason is because even though the helper personality is trying to take action to help go towards a solution
[they] have not improved the quality and orientation of their focus. They are still focused on the problem and
Thus that is what they are adding their energy to
When you walk in the room with someone who is ill and what you're focused on is illness you're adding to the illness
When someone feels helpless and you walk in the room as if you're a rescuer and focus on their helplessness
You're reinforcing the message that they are helpless
And that's what they are afraid of and they will resist you because they feel the energy of your focus they feel that it is
Oriented towards doubt in them they feel that it is oriented towards their illness and not their solution regardless of the steps that you're taking
Any kind of help that is given from this type of vibrational set point
Will cause resentment in the person who is being helped?
The message that the helper is sending the people that they help is not one that reinforces inspiration. It is one that reinforces victimhood if
You see someone as an underdog you [are] feeding that idea
You cannot help someone to not be an underdog and not perceive themselves as an underdog while you yourself
Are focusing at them as if they are the underdog?
Another way that those of us who are obsessive helpers get lost in ego is
From the standpoint that our identities start to be about help
Identity is Ego
So when we're attached to the identity [of] ourselves as helpers. We are fueling our own ego. When we're helping other [people]
We develop these egos very easily when we think that we are going to be loved
And we think that we are worthless unless we get
To a point in which we can help people
helping people is
What fills this void inside of us?
Where our worth should be?
So we
(Those of us who are addicted to the idea of helping) are no better than junkies.
Some people use heroin and some people use help
We have a void present within us where self-worth should be and we are filling it up
With helping other people because that's the only thing that reinforces to us that we are a good person
We are helping people so we can feel good about ourselves. That is pure ego. We are using other people
To fill the void that is present in our own self-worth instead of filling in that hole directly by focusing positively towards [ourselves]
We are using other people like a drug to fill that hole inside of ourselves
Nowhere in any of my teachings am I going to tell you not to help someone?
If you find that you [are] in pure alignment
the only people you will line up with are people who you can help if they need help [if]
You're out of alignment. It's highly likely that you will run up against all kinds of situations
Which you can't help not only can't help feel totally powerless to do anything about
If it feels good to hand a street beggar money hand them money if it feels good to take in a stray dog
Take him in
You did not rescue a dog from his reality if you pick him up
The stray dog manifested help for himself if you were the one [who] drove by and picked him up it was a co-creation
The more in alignment that you yourself gets
The better it would feel to help other people because you would be much more successful at it
And it's not going to come from a space of deprivation or a lack type of consciousness within you
You won't be caught in the illusion that the world needs saving
You will not feel burdened by helping in
Fact you will not feel anything other than joy
The joy of being a part of the creation, of a person, closing the gap between where they are and joy.
I used to know one such a bleeding-heart
She was a woman who could not stop helping
So one day she began to feed a small collection of stray cats
She'd go every day and every day there'd be more and more cats and pretty soon
she realized she was spending the entire rent money on food for the cats and
More cats came and more cats came and she came to me with this intense sensation of guilt present within her.
She was taking action steps to help these cats without improving the vibration which was actually
Co-creating the experience of these cats.
In her mind, these cats were abandoned, they were precious,
they were like children innocent and in need of care, and no one there to give it to them but her
these cats were a projection of her own childhood self who was left by her father when she was very young.
She was feeding her abandonment. This is why she felt that compulsive urge to take care of these cats and
More cats came and more cats came until she was literally incapacitated in terms of taking care of the cats
what would have solved this problem is if she would have turned her attention inside and
Solved the emotions that she had relative to the abandonment that she suffered relative to her father abandoning her as a child
If she had done that, she would not be a match to the creation of these cats who were desperate and needing care
What's ironic about this situation is: every one will gravitate towards what they want.
So in this case the cat wants food
It's not like if she stopped feeding the cats. They wouldn't go find food elsewhere. That's exactly what they would do
They wouldn't sit there wondering why they had been abandoned by her
This entire event was a creation based on an internal reality which was present within this woman who was attracting the entire
experience as a reflection of her own abandonment and guilt
This is the case for every one of us
You and I both know that if you can help somebody it's never going to feel good not to
We are placed in the very circumstances in our lives where we are able to help the people who are the most near to us
but there are often situations which we line up with which we actually can't do any about and
Paying attention to these kinds of scenarios instead of turning your attention inside towards what it is. That's manifested that experience
Does nothing other than reinforce our powerlessness?
It does no good at all
You are definitely not in alignment. If you are in a place and capacity to help someone and you do not in
Fact when you have purified your own internal vibration
Often your life appears as if it is centered around help because the natural expression of further purifying yourself is
To help other people purify their own internal reality
The trick when it comes to helping people is to help people to the extent where it does not take away from your own happiness
We all have to be very honest with ourselves as to where that line is and it changes based on how high our vibration is
But you can't help somebody else and have it detract from your own happiness
and have that be solving anything for anyone.
Most of us who are bleeding hearts who want to help all the people in this planet don't take the time to stop and really
be honest with ourselves about
whether our attention, being placed on the news, or being placed on people and things around us that need help,
is actually helping our lives and thus their lives
or drawing energy away from the solution because we are so oriented towards the misery on this planet that we are adding to it.
If we are all one, we
are not truly enlightened.
Until every being in existence is enlightened
But you are not incapacitated by your own suffering
So you are incredibly effective you can be present fully for them
This is what we're after when we say find your own alignment and your own happiness first
Only then can you be truly available for the people that need you
when we are suffering ourselves
this is nothing but Cripples trying to help Cripples
and we will help them to the point where we are incapacitated and can no longer help even if we wanted to
we are
in every sense of the word
Crippled by our own self abandonment
this is why the bleeding hearts of this world are often emotionally mentally and even
Subsequently, physically some of the most unhealthy beings on this earth.
On one level the focus on problems injustice and suffering has caused them to be at war with life itself and
Their hearts are in fact bleeding
With a heart that is bleeding, you cannot actually help anyone you are incapacitated
Your own suffering takes energy away from what you are able to contribute to another person.
I want to close with something for you to ponder for the next week.
The person who you help is your own internal life. They're asking as you're asking
They're asking for your help is
You asking for your own help.
their asking for your love is you asking for your own love and
Their asking to be rescued is you asking to be rescued from yourself.
Have a good week.